u/Diabetic-Candy

28M is seeing me (27F) as a friend, after months of hooking up..

Okay, just to start with, it's fair to say that it's really hard for me to type this here. I can say that I deeply regret the whole story and I wish I had the strength to move on earlier, but it is what it is.

I am a 27F, physically attractive and mentally sharp. I am also an introvert; I prefer my own company rather than other people's.

Last year, I broke up with my boyfriend of six years due to physical violence. We had a rocky relationship, and eventually, it ended after this breaking point. A few months later, I started using dating apps (I know I should have waited as I was in a vulnerable emotional position). I matched with this guy, 28M, a financial manager, and we didn't talk much, but we agreed to meet in a cat coffee shop, as we are both cat people..

First date, went so well, we ended up doing the deed at my place, even though I haven't done that before, but chemistry was screaming..

We got to know each other and he left after we shared socials. I should admit he charmed me, he was calm and steady, so emotionally controlled, everything that I wasn't for sure.

one thing that messed with me, the next day he disappeared, then he came back saying that he started a new relationship with another girl but eventually broke up with her (on the same day??)

we met for coffee, and the conversation flowed effortlessly... undeniable chemistry. It progressively went to weekly sexual encounters full of passion from my side..

One time, after we finished, he told me he was looking for a woman. It shocked me. I said, "What am I then?" He simply said, "No," with a smile. I brushed it off, and I cried at night by myself, but I kept seeing him, falling for him. I threw tantrums every month, as it was exhausting to me, living in the gray zone, yet he calmed me down, saying that he understands.

I was attached. We spent beautiful moments together, total alchemy, but my brain woke up every month with anger and tears.

Lately I reached a rock bottom, I told him I can no longer do it like this, he calmly said, ok we'll do as you wish, I am not here for sex only, the connection matters more..

Now I feel lost, like an amputee, from this man's carelessness (even though he stood by my side when things got tough) and from my weakness.

I am writing this to ask for similar experiences where you or someone you knew could handle this, some tips and advice, and to try to explain to me why I did what I did.

Thank you

28M is seeing me (27F) as a friend, after months of hooking up..

Okay, just to start with, it's fair to say that it's really hard for me to type this here. I can say that I deeply regret the whole story and I wish I had the strength to move on earlier, but it is what it is.

I am a 27F, physically attractive and mentally sharp. I am also an introvert; I prefer my own company rather than other people's.

Last year, I broke up with my boyfriend of six years due to physical violence. We had a rocky relationship, and eventually, it ended after this breaking point. A few months later, I started using dating apps (I know I should have waited as I was in a vulnerable emotional position). I matched with this guy, 28M, a financial manager, and we didn't talk much, but we agreed to meet in a cat coffee shop, as we are both cat people..

First date, went so well, we ended up doing the deed at my place, even though I haven't done that before, but chemistry was screaming..

We got to know each other and he left after we shared socials. I should admit he charmed me, he was calm and steady, so emotionally controlled, everything that I wasn't for sure.

one thing that messed with me, the next day he disappeared, then he came back saying that he started a new relationship with another girl but eventually broke up with her (on the same day??)

we met for coffee, and the conversation flowed effortlessly... undeniable chemistry. It progressively went to weekly sexual encounters full of passion from my side..

One time, after we finished, he told me he was looking for a woman. It shocked me. I said, "What am I then?" He simply said, "No," with a smile. I brushed it off, and I cried at night by myself, but I kept seeing him, falling for him. I threw tantrums every month, as it was exhausting to me, living in the gray zone, yet he calmed me down, saying that he understands.

I was attached. We spent beautiful moments together, total alchemy, but my brain woke up every month with anger and tears.

Lately I reached a rock bottom, I told him I can no longer do it like this, he calmly said, ok we'll do as you wish, I am not here for sex only, the connection matters more..

Now I feel lost, like an amputee, from this man's carelessness (even though he stood by my side when things got tough) and from my weakness.

I am writing this to ask for similar experiences where you or someone you knew could handle this, some tips and advice, and to try to explain to me why I did what I did.

Thank you

Okay, just to start with, it's fair to say that it's really hard for me to type this here. I can say that I deeply regret the whole story and I wish I had the strength to move on earlier, but it is what it is.

I am a 27F, physically attractive and mentally sharp. I am also an introvert; I prefer my own company rather than other people's.

Last year, I broke up with my boyfriend of six years due to physical violence. We had a rocky relationship, and eventually, it ended after this breaking point. A few months later, I started using dating apps (I know I should have waited as I was in a vulnerable emotional position). I matched with this guy, 28M, a financial manager, and we didn't talk much, but we agreed to meet in a cat coffee shop, as we are both cat people..

First date, went so well, we ended up doing the deed at my place, even though I haven't done that before, but chemistry was screaming..

We got to know each other and he left after we shared socials. I should admit he charmed me, he was calm and steady, so emotionally controlled, everything that I wasn't for sure.

one thing that messed with me, the next day he disappeared, then he came back saying that he started a new relationship with another girl but eventually broke up with her (on the same day??)

we met for coffee, and the conversation flowed effortlessly... undeniable chemistry. It progressively went to weekly sexual encounters full of passion from my side..

One time, after we finished, he told me he was looking for a woman. It shocked me. I said, "What am I then?" He simply said, "No," with a smile. I brushed it off, and I cried at night by myself, but I kept seeing him, falling for him. I threw tantrums every month, as it was exhausting to me, living in the gray zone, yet he calmed me down, saying that he understands.

I was attached. We spent beautiful moments together, total alchemy, but my brain woke up every month with anger and tears.

Lately I reached a rock bottom, I told him I can no longer do it like this, he calmly said, ok we'll do as you wish, I am not here for sex only, the connection matters more..

Now I feel lost, like an amputee, from this man's carelessness (even though he stood by my side when things got tough) and from my weakness.

I am writing this to ask for similar experiences where you or someone you knew could handle this, some tips and advice, and to try to explain to me why I did what I did.

Thank you

Okay, just to start with, it's fair to say that it's really hard for me to type this here. I can say that I deeply regret the whole story and I wish I had the strength to move on earlier, but it is what it is.

I am a 27F, physically attractive and mentally sharp. I am also an introvert; I prefer my own company rather than other people's.

Last year, I broke up with my boyfriend of six years due to physical violence. We had a rocky relationship, and eventually, it ended after this breaking point. A few months later, I started using dating apps (I know I should have waited as I was in a vulnerable emotional position). I matched with this guy, 28M, a financial manager, and we didn't talk much, but we agreed to meet in a cat coffee shop, as we are both cat people..

First date, went so well, we ended up doing the deed at my place, even though I haven't done that before, but chemistry was screaming..

We got to know each other and he left after we shared socials. I should admit he charmed me, he was calm and steady, so emotionally controlled, everything that I wasn't for sure.

one thing that messed with me, the next day he disappeared, then he came back saying that he started a new relationship with another girl but eventually broke up with her (on the same day??)

we met for coffee, and the conversation flowed effortlessly... undeniable chemistry. It progressively went to weekly sexual encounters full of passion from my side..

One time, after we finished, he told me he was looking for a woman. It shocked me. I said, "What am I then?" He simply said, "No," with a smile. I brushed it off, and I cried at night by myself, but I kept seeing him, falling for him. I threw tantrums every month, as it was exhausting to me, living in the gray zone, yet he calmed me down, saying that he understands.

I was attached. We spent beautiful moments together, total alchemy, but my brain woke up every month with anger and tears.

Lately I reached a rock bottom, I told him I can no longer do it like this, he calmly said, ok we'll do as you wish, I am not here for sex only, the connection matters more..

Now I feel lost, like an amputee, from this man's carelessness (even though he stood by my side when things got tough) and from my weakness.

I am writing this to ask for similar experiences where you or someone you knew could handle this, some tips and advice, and to try to explain to me why I did what I did.

Thank you