u/DemonVampire96

I have a brother who is deaf-mute since birth, he is 26 years old now.. My mom(i say my mom because she never worked anywhere and she stayed home with us while my dad was and still is working alot), she didn't teach him ANYTHING, he doesn't know sign language, he can't speak, he barley even knows how to write, some words he knows, but not full sentences and someone has to tell him letter by letter..

When i told my mom why she didn't teach him sign language, she said "i don't know it, why didn't you teach him?" and i was like "i was a child too, how am i suppose to teach him, you are an adult" and that's it...

But most important thing he doesn't know how to take care of himself, he doesn't know how to cook anything, he doesn't know how to cut his own nails, eveytime we are getting ready to go to shopping she picks out what he will wear, my mom does everything for him, she even has to remind him when he needs to take a shower. He is unable to work anywhere, which means i will have to financally support him my whole life and I HATE IT !!!

I tried to talk to my mom about it, to open her eyes, to make her think about it, but she just doesn't get it, she acts like she doesn't care, she laughs when i tell her that she need to teach him how to take care of himself because i'm not gonna be like her and do everything for him.

I even told he what if i die before him, what is he going to do then, i didn't get any reaction from her.

She acts as if she is going to live 200 years.. Or she thinks i'm not serious when i tell her i won't cook for him and do all the other stuff and also work multiple jobs to be able to support him and myself.

She is lucky because i don't want to have kids, and why would i even want them when i already have a kid to take care of my whole life?!? This is not the main reason why i don't want kids but it is one of them.

For the past 6 years my brother just lays is bed or plays games on his computer, when my dad and I say something against it and how it's not healthy for him to lay in bed most of the day my mom doesn't say anyhing, she is just silent. Or when we try to tell my brother something my mom jumps in and tell us to leave him alone. He is so used to her defending him that we can't even tell him anything, he just looks at her because he know she will defend him... And he only listens to her, when my dad and I try talking to him he doesn't even want to look at us.

So she made him more of and invalid then he already is.. He could do all that only if he learned differently earlier in life, i'm afraid now it's too late.. He is stubborn a lot and like i said he only listens to my mom and she is never going to teach him anything.

My dad agrees with eveything i say about it, but i feel like i'm talking to a wall..

If anyone had any similiar experience please share what did you do? Where you able to change anything? Should i just let it be and focus on my own life, move out once i can and maybe then she will realize it.. I really dont know, i feel like she won't even then 🤷‍♀️

I have a brother who is deaf-mute since birth, he is 26 years old now.. My mom(i say my mom because she never worked anywhere and she stayed home with us while my dad was and still is working alot), she didn't teach him ANYTHING, he doesn't know sign language, he can't speak, he barley even knows how to write, some words he knows, but not full sentences and someone has to tell him letter by letter..

When i told my mom why she didn't teach him sign language, she said "i don't know it, why didn't you teach him?" and i was like "i was a child too, how am i suppose to teach him, you are an adult" and that's it...

But most important thing he doesn't know how to take care of himself, he doesn't know how to cook anything, he doesn't know how to cut his own nails, eveytime we are getting ready to go to shopping she picks out what he will wear, my mom does everything for him, she even has to remind him when he needs to take a shower. He is unable to work anywhere, which means i will have to financally support him my whole life and I HATE IT !!!

I tried to talk to my mom about it, to open her eyes, to make her think about it, but she just doesn't get it, she acts like she doesn't care, she laughs when i tell her that she need to teach him how to take care of himself because i'm not gonna be like her and do everything for him.

I even told he what if i die before him, what is he going to do then, i didn't get any reaction from her.

She acts as if she is going to live 200 years.. Or she thinks i'm not serious when i tell her i won't cook for him and do all the other stuff and also work multiple jobs to be able to support him and myself.

She is lucky because i don't want to have kids, and why would i even want them when i already have a kid to take care of my whole life?!? This is not the main reason why i don't want kids but it is one of them.

For the past 6 years my brother just lays is bed or plays games on his computer, when my dad and I say something against it and how it's not healthy for him to lay in bed most of the day my mom doesn't say anyhing, she is just silent. Or when we try to tell my brother something my mom jumps in and tell us to leave him alone. He is so used to her defending him that we can't even tell him anything, he just looks at her because he know she will defend him... And he only listens to her, when my dad and I try talking to him he doesn't even want to look at us.

So she made him more of and invalid then he already is.. He could do all that only if he learned differently earlier in life, i'm afraid now it's too late.. He is stubborn a lot and like i said he only listens to my mom and she is never going to teach him anything.

My dad agrees with eveything i say about it, but i feel like i'm talking to a wall..

If anyone had any similiar experience please share what did you do? Where you able to change anything? Should i just let it be and focus on my own life, move out once i can and maybe then she will realize it.. I really dont know, i feel like she won't even then 🤷‍♀️

I have a brother who is deaf-mute since birth, he is 26 years old now.. My mom(i say my mom because she never worked anywhere and she stayed home with us while my dad was and still is working alot), she didn't teach him ANYTHING, he doesn't know sign language, he can't speak, he barley even knows how to write, some words he knows, but not full sentences and someone has to tell him letter by letter..

When i told my mom why she didn't teach him sign language, she said "i don't know it, why didn't you teach him?" and i was like "i was a child too, how am i suppose to teach him, you are an adult" and that's it...

But most important thing he doesn't know how to take care of himself, he doesn't know how to cook anything, he doesn't know how to cut his own nails, eveytime we are getting ready to go to shopping she picks out what he will wear, my mom does everything for him, she even has to remind him when he needs to take a shower. He is unable to work anywhere, which means i will have to financally support him my whole life and I HATE IT !!!

I tried to talk to my mom about it, to open her eyes, to make her think about it, but she just doesn't get it, she acts like she doesn't care, she laughs when i tell her that she need to teach him how to take care of himself because i'm not gonna be like her and do everything for him.

I even told he what if i die before him, what is he going to do then, i didn't get any reaction from her.

She acts as if she is going to live 200 years.. Or she thinks i'm not serious when i tell her i won't cook for him and do all the other stuff and also work multiple jobs to be able to support him and myself.

She is lucky because i don't want to have kids, and why would i even want them when i already have a kid to take care of my whole life?!? This is not the main reason why i don't want kids but it is one of them.

For the past 6 years my brother just lays is bed or plays games on his computer, when my dad and I say something against it and how it's not healthy for him to lay in bed most of the day my mom doesn't say anyhing, she is just silent. Or when we try to tell my brother something my mom jumps in and tell us to leave him alone. He is so used to her defending him that we can't even tell him anything, he just looks at her because he know she will defend him... And he only listens to her, when my dad and I try talking to him he doesn't even want to look at us.

So she made him more of and invalid then he already is.. He could do all that only if he learned differently earlier in life, i'm afraid now it's too late.. He is stubborn a lot and like i said he only listens to my mom and she is never going to teach him anything.

My dad agrees with eveything i say about it, but i feel like i'm talking to a wall..

If anyone had any similiar experience please share what did you do? Where you able to change anything? Should i just let it be and focus on my own life, move out once i can and maybe then she will realize it.. I really dont know, i feel like she won't even then 🤷‍♀️

Does anyone here know how not to be insecure and afraid of applying to a job for the first time?

I'm almost 30 years old and i never worked anywhere except for myself. But now my business isn't doing so well and i have to find one more job because i need more money to achieve my goals.

I'm afriad of going to an interview and nobody accepting me, expecially because I have social anxiety and i'm shy and the only jobs i could do in my city are as a cashier so being comunicative is required, and idk if i'll leave good first impression and be able to get that job.. But if i get it eveything else will be easier to do and overcome my anxiety..

Does anyone have any advice?