u/DaPianoPlayer

It’s sooo awkward for us. And everyone else seems uncomfortable too

Background info

TLDR I am struggling to adjust after my in laws got divorced. Feel like I need to do better. But part of me feels like the whole situation just sucks and I’m stuck in the middle of it through no fault of my own

\- after divorce, both remarried within two years

\- I struggle and it’s complicated that my children have four grandparents on the one side of the family, and there is always pressure to try and visit them all

\- I struggle that my husband says the divorce was from his parents and not mine so it shouldn’t be my problem so much

\- I struggle that the new step parent doesn’t seem to care much about my spouse (their step child) or me (step child in law)

\- I struggle that holidays are infinitely more complicated and get jealous when I hear about my friends who married into families without divorce

\- I struggle and feel blindsided because this all happened after married my husband

\- I struggled because my husband has super high expectations about me being super friendly with my everyone on his side even though they don’t really seem to like me

\- I struggle because I’ll have to deal with this my whole life because I married my husband

\- I hate it how I have even more in law visits to my house for extended stays since both sets want to visit. Most people only have to deal with one set of in laws

Life is complicated enough, and having four in law parents has been absolutely terribly ever since the split

And I’m also anxious that the people actually going through the divorce have it harder, so I just need to be tougher or something

I’m also in my 40s and feel guilty that this all bugs me so much. Tons of people have divorced parents, so why can’t I tolerate it more

Felt good to type all of this out. Appreciate th support everyone!

Maybe I should go to therapy to talk through all of this

Background info

TLDR I am struggling to adjust after my in laws got divorced. Feel like I need to do better. But part of me feels like the whole situation just sucks and I’m stuck in the middle of it through no fault of my own

\- after divorce, both remarried within two years

\- I struggle and it’s complicated that my children have four grandparents on the one side of the family, and there is always pressure to try and visit them all

\- I struggle that my husband says the divorce was from his parents and not mine so it shouldn’t be my problem so much

\- I struggle that the new step parent doesn’t seem to care much about my spouse (their step child) or me (step child in law)

\- I struggle that holidays are infinitely more complicated and get jealous when I hear about my friends who married into families without divorce

\- I struggle and feel blindsided because this all happened after married my husband

\- I struggled because my husband has super high expectations about me being super friendly with my everyone on his side even though they don’t really seem to like me

\- I struggle because I’ll have to deal with this my whole life because I married my husband

\- I hate it how I have even more in law visits to my house for extended stays since both sets want to visit. Most people only have to deal with one set of in laws

Life is complicated enough, and having four in law parents has been absolutely terribly ever since the split

And I’m also anxious that the people actually going through the divorce have it harder, so I just need to be tougher or something

I’m also in my 40s and feel guilty that this all bugs me so much. Tons of people have divorced parents, so why can’t I tolerate it more

Felt good to type all of this out. Appreciate th support everyone!

Maybe I should go to therapy to talk through all of this