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I recently had a person on r/DebateAVegan who was asking for sources on why a person with GP6D Deficiency Syndrome and Chronic Kidney Disease can't be vegan. I literally couldn't provide them with research articles because I literally live with the disorders. I have GP6DS and Alport Syndrome, both cause Chronic Kidney Disease. My diet if I optimized it would look like a low FODMAP diet, and all I'd be able to eat would be rice and chicken. My biggest triggers are mostly plant foods and highly processed meats, and not to mention I have gastroparesis because I had a spinal cord injury in 2015 so my diet has to be made up of a lot of small meals throughout the day, and if I was vegan I'd literally have to be eating non-stop all day.

I literally had to consult a Medical Doctor who's sole job is to design diets around hematological diseases and metabolic disorders, and had to take into account my Kidney Disease. So I have whole list on my fridge of foods I have to avoid at all times, foods I can have a moderate amount, and foods I can have a limited amount of, all outlined in grams. The list has over 200 foods on it that I am to avoid or limit, at the top that I am not to eat: almost all beans, we leave out hummus and falafel but they are on my limited food group, that also includes soy products, blue berries, eggplant, anything with sulfites, menthol, and simple carbohydrates.

If I tried to eat as a vegan, I'd literally die of starvation. I swear vegans are all secretly eugenicists, because if they got their way, 400 million people would die, and it's super common in Kurdish, Greeks, and Egyptians, and has been found in India in large amounts as well.

So I'm going to be really honest. I know there's a lot of individuals who are chronically disabled who work, and those that can't. However it's kind of frustrating seeing my friends family struggle to afford property taxes and food. Currently my friend is dealing with a whole bunch of weird side effects, and at this point, I'm on the fence of believing if her symptoms are as bad as they are and if she's just malingering. I seriously want to believe her, but it's hard to take her seriously as she says she can't work but can play on her computer for hours at a time, but can't look at her phone because it's too bright. Like, I get she gets severe migraines, I really do. I personally have been living with a persistent daily headache for over a decade and have lingering symptoms regarding my spinal cord injury.

Yet, I want to work. I literally am in a job that depending on the day can be literally just sitting at a desk at day doing paperwork all the way to doing very physical work.

So I find it hard to understand why she refuses to either find part time work or even apply for disability. She's almost 30, hasn't worked since 2019, and doesn't even have her learners permit. So she's reliant on everyone for transportation.

I also feel concerned about her fiancé, because I feel like he's struggling to hold down a job because his sleep schedule is completely the opposite of hers. She sleeps 16 or more hours a day, and usually is up so 3 or 4 AM. Currently he's the only source of significant income to the household and I've helped him afford groceries to feed them.

Like I'm not sure if she's begun malingering out of fear of her symptoms getting worse with work, or if her symptoms are more somatic now. I want to believe her, I just struggle to see it. I don't want to minimize her struggle because I know what it's like to be medically gaslit for years.

So we have state farm which in our area is the cheapest option available. Our policy dates back to 1967 and has only had 6 claims, one the car was side swiped in 1976 and then in 2015 where I had to make a claim against my parents car insurance for being in a school bus accident where the driver of the vehicle that hit us was uninsured and the district was under insured. The two other incidents were in 1974 and 2004, one was a tbone by a driver who went through a red light and the other was a minor accident caused by a driver who had a stroke and hit us.

Not a single claim we had was ever determined to be at fault and we've only gotten 3 tickets ever, and only one was required to be reported to our insurance because a driver backed into my brothers car when he was 17.

So why would it randomly jump with so few claims and only one reportable ticket from a decade ago, and pretty much two accidents were freak accidents, in one case the stroke and then a rogue donut.

I'm asking because I have a huge dent on my head where the bone is slightly thinner. It's where I fractured my skull and it's about 4 inches long. Doctor said it's pretty common. I also have other more small dents on my face and forehead as I had a partial Le Fort 2 fracture.

I was told If I ever get my very large sheath repair they'll probably plate it.

So this might break this subreddits rules, I'm not sure though. A couple of years ago my friend began to experience debilitating migraines to the point they couldn't really function. Now I'm pretty sure the migraines are real as I know what it's like to have them. However they've chewed up multiple specialists like I've never seen. I'm inclined to believe them, but at the same time, I think they are malingering due to their history of CPTSD and borderline personality disorder. Either that or it's become somatic. I feel like they're trying to one up me which sounds really weird coming from me. For example, I have just generalized anxiety disorder, but I have severe chronic pain, daily headaches, neuropathy and arthritis. These are my reality that I live with. I'm not afraid to ask for help with them, but I feel like my friends blowing everything out of proportions.

For example they had ICH which is extra fluid around the brain, which would explain the migraine. After it resolved they now have hearing sensitivity.

I just feel like they're getting worse so doctors believe them.

I don't want to not believe them because I know what it's like to be medically gaslit. My nuerologist took one look at me thinking I was malingering even though I was walking around with facial fractures, a brain injury and a broken neck. Then I had a different nuerologist diagnose me with FND before rejecting the diagnosis in favor of possible MS or some sort of autoimmune disorder due to my arthritis rearing it's ugly head with a rash. Being gaslit sucks, but at one end, I want my friend to get the proper help they need as I feel they are inadvertently hurting their partner and grandparent at the same time.

I just don't know what to do. They very much remind me of my friend who has Bipolar and schizoaffective disorder.

I'm genuinely curious because about this.