u/ConsistentAct3961

F27

This is super random. It's usual for girls to have motherly feelings. Whether we choose to have a kid or not, it's intact.

So lately I've been experiencing this unusual yearning to raise a human! Like I don't know if I'm excited to find my partner but wanting to be a mother is getting stronger. Until 25 I used to be someone who barely gave it a thought and ever since my niece happened she tapped those feelings and ever since then a part of me has always looked forward to being a mum.

I'm curious to know if single men experience similar things? If not, I'd be very furious. Like, na matum yenda indhe feeling la saavanum😭😂

Do you get these feelings? Not the usual "oru naal appa aaganum". I'm talking about a feeling where you can't wait to be a dad to raise your kid and look forward to taking part in the process of raising a kid.

You get what I'm saying? I know I'm exaggerating this but anyway.

P.S: Expecting answers from men after early twenties!

F27

Firstly, sorry to be posting here, I know my story could be irrelevant to this sub. But I can't help but wonder what this is. Expecting insights from experienced ones.

Long story short

So I know him (M29) virtually and when I was about to meet him for the first time, 2-3 weeks before the meet I got a dream! He was in a black shirt he was looking at me with hesitance and as if he wants to say something but didn't. The same scene happened when I met him and when we were about to leave I saw the same hesitant feeling in him the same black shirt and the walls behind were white the same white walls were there in the dream.

A bit of more context: We know eachother for just 6 weeks now. Although we met virtually we had a few mutual friends so I felt the connection was too familiar apart from the mutual friends stuff. So the conversation was I felt it was beyond friendship and I brought it up saying I like talking to him. For which he said he'll talk in person (2 weeks later) In person he said he's not in that space but before telling all this initially there was 30-40 mins of tension and he was super nervous. I didn't point it out I was just trying to be normal too. And then he said he wasn't ready right now, I was still fine. But I did sense he wanted to talk but that's not my probably right when he's not ready to talk. I can't force him because we still were not that close.

And then while leaving this scene happened, the same black shirt and white wall and the same hesitance on his face.

I'm spiralling lol this is happening for the first time to me.

I didn't know where to post this. Can anyone help me understand this. I'm the most practical person to my knowledge, this is happening for the first time. And I just can't settle down thinking this is just "pattern recognition" and that black shirt and white walls are common. It cannot be this specific.

F27

Long story short

So I know him (M29) virtually and when I was about to meet him for the first time, 2-3 weeks before the meet I got a dream! He was in a black shirt he was looking at me with hesitance and as if he wants to say something but didn't. The same scene happened when I met him and when we were about to leave I saw the same hesitant feeling in him the same black shirt and the walls behind were white the same white walls were there in the dream.

A bit of more context: We know eachother for just 6 weeks now. Although we met virtually we had a few mutual friends so I felt the connection was too familiar apart from the mutual friends stuff. So the conversation was I felt it was beyond friendship and I brought it up saying I like talking to him. For which he said he'll talk in person (2 weeks later) In person he said he's not in that space but before telling all this initially there was 30-40 mins of tension and he was super nervous. I didn't point it out I was just trying to be normal too. And then he said he wasn't ready right now, I was still fine. But I did sense he wanted to talk but that's not my probably right when he's not ready to talk. I can't force him because we still were not that close.

And then while leaving this scene happened, the same black shirt and white wall and the same hesitance on his face.

I'm spiralling lol this is happening for the first time to me. I honestly don't know where to ask and what's going on. I'm looking for help on this. I'm the most practical person ever and something like this has happened to me for the first time. Need help!

F27

Long story short

So I know him (M29) virtually and when I was about to meet him for the first time, 2-3 weeks before the meet I got a dream! He was in a black shirt he was looking at me with hesitance and as if he wants to say something but didn't. The same scene happened when I met him and when we were about to leave I saw the same hesitant feeling in him the same black shirt and the walls behind were white the same white walls were there in the dream.

A bit of more context: We know eachother for just 6 weeks now. Although we met virtually we had a few mutual friends so I felt the connection was too familiar apart from the mutual friends stuff. So the conversation was I felt it was beyond friendship and I brought it up saying I like talking to him. For which he said he'll talk in person (2 weeks later) In person he said he's not in that space but before telling all this initially there was 30-40 mins of tension and he was super nervous. I didn't point it out I was just trying to be normal too. And then he said he wasn't ready right now, I was still fine. But I did sense he wanted to talk but that's not my probably right when he's not ready to talk. I can't force him because we still were not that close.

And then while leaving this scene happened, the same black shirt and white wall and the same hesitance on his face.

I'm spiralling lol this is happening for the first time to me.

Is this something to do with past life connection? Idk where to ask

F27

Long story short

So I know him (M29) virtually and when I was about to meet him for the first time, 2-3 weeks before the meet I got a dream! He was in a black shirt he was looking at me with hesitance and as if he wants to say something but didn't. The same scene happened when I met him and when we were about to leave I saw the same hesitant feeling in him the same black shirt and the walls behind were white the same white walls were there in the dream.

A bit of more context: We know eachother for just 6 weeks now. Although we met virtually we had a few mutual friends so I felt the connection was too familiar apart from the mutual friends stuff. So the conversation was I felt it was beyond friendship and I brought it up saying I like talking to him. For which he said he'll talk in person (2 weeks later) In person he said he's not in that space but before telling all this initially there was 30-40 mins of tension and he was super nervous. I didn't point it out I was just trying to be normal too. And then he said he wasn't ready right now, I was still fine. But I did sense he wanted to talk but that's not my probably right when he's not ready to talk. I can't force him because we still were not that close.

And then while leaving this scene happened, the same black shirt and white wall and the same hesitance on his face.

I'm spiralling lol this is happening for the first time to me. I didn't know where to ask, I don't even know if this is a twin flame thing. Can someone help

F27

Long story short

So I know him (M29) virtually and when I was about to meet him for the first time, 2-3 weeks before the meet I got a dream! He was in a black shirt he was looking at me with hesitance and as if he wants to say something but didn't. The same scene happened when I met him and when we were about to leave I saw the same hesitant feeling in him the same black shirt and the walls behind were white the same white walls were there in the dream.

A bit of more context: We know eachother for just 6 weeks now. Although we met virtually we had a few mutual friends so I felt the connection was too familiar apart from the mutual friends stuff. So the conversation was I felt it was beyond friendship and I brought it up saying I like talking to him. For which he said he'll talk in person (2 weeks later) In person he said he's not in that space but before telling all this initially there was 30-40 mins of tension and he was super nervous. I didn't point it out I was just trying to be normal too. And then he said he wasn't ready right now, I was still fine. But I did sense he wanted to talk but that's not my probably right when he's not ready to talk. I can't force him because we still were not that close.

And then while leaving this scene happened, the same black shirt and white wall and the same hesitance on his face.

I'm spiralling lol this is happening for the first time to me.

I didn't know where to post this. Can anyone help me understand this

F27

Long story short

So I know him (M29) virtually and when I was about to meet him for the first time, 2-3 weeks before the meet I got a dream! He was in a black shirt he was looking at me with hesitance and as if he wants to say something but didn't. The same scene happened when I met him and when we were about to leave I saw the same hesitant feeling in him the same black shirt and the walls behind were white the same white walls were there in the dream.

A bit of more context: We know eachother for just 6 weeks now. Although we met virtually we had a few mutual friends so I felt the connection was too familiar apart from the mutual friends stuff. So the conversation was I felt it was beyond friendship and I brought it up saying I like talking to him. For which he said he'll talk in person (2 weeks later) In person he said he's not in that space but before telling all this initially there was 30-40 mins of tension and he was super nervous. I didn't point it out I was just trying to be normal too. And then he said he wasn't ready right now, I was still fine. But I did sense he wanted to talk but that's not my probably right when he's not ready to talk. I can't force him because we still were not that close.

And then while leaving this scene happened, the same black shirt and white wall and the same hesitance on his face.

I'm spiralling lol this is happening for the first time to me.

F27

Long story short

So I know him (M29) virtually and when I was about to meet him for the first time, 2-3 weeks before the meet I got a dream! He was in a black shirt he was looking at me with hesitance and as if he wants to say something but didn't. The same scene happened when I met him and when we were about to leave I saw the same hesitant feeling in him the same black shirt and the walls behind were white the same white walls were there in the dream.

A bit of more context: We know eachother for just 6 weeks now. Although we met virtually we had a few mutual friends so I felt the connection was too familiar apart from the mutual friends stuff. So the conversation was I felt it was beyond friendship and I brought it up saying I like talking to him. For which he said he'll talk in person (2 weeks later) In person he said he's not in that space but before telling all this initially there was 30-40 mins of tension and he was super nervous. I didn't point it out I was just trying to be normal too. And then he said he wasn't ready right now, I was still fine. But I did sense he wanted to talk but that's not my probably right when he's not ready to talk. I can't force him because we still were not that close.

And then while leaving this scene happened, the same black shirt and white wall and the same hesitance on his face.

I'm spiralling lol this is happening for the first time to me.