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When I was a child, I used to go to my aunt's home almost every summer and play with my cousin brother, who was 3 years younger than me.

When I became a teen, I overheard a conversation between my parents where they were comparing me to my cousin brother. Even though my aunt and cousin never directly hurt me, I started to resent them because of what my parents said. So when my aunt came to my home, I locked myself in my room and refuse to talk to her — which, in our culture, is considered quite rude to a guest.

Now, many years later, I came to my aunt's home for other relative's wedding. My cousin brother — who is no longer a child — did not come to meet me. My aunt said he was sleeping, even though it was 11 AM. I believe he is mirroring my past behavior.

But here's what bothers me: my behavior back then had a reason behind it — I was a teenager dealing with the hurt of being constantly compared. His situation is different.

So my question is — should I still expect to be treated well?

When I was a child, I used to go to my aunt's home almost every summer and play with my cousin brother, who was 3 years younger than me. When I became a teen, I overheard a conversation between my parents where they were comparing me to my cousin brother. Even though my aunt and cousin never directly hurt me, I started to resent them because of what my parents said. So when my aunt came to our home, I would lock myself in my room and refuse to talk to her — which, in our culture, is considered quite rude to a guest. They never knew why I was ignoring them. Around 5 years of complete silence passed — no texts, no calls, no meetings at family events, nothing. Now I came to my aunt's home for a relative's wedding. My cousin brother, who is now around 17, did not come to meet me. My aunt mentioned he was sleeping, even though it was 11 AM — she said it in a matter-of-fact way, not apologetically, not as an obvious excuse, just as information. I believe he is mirroring my past behavior. My aunt, however, was warm and welcoming toward me despite everything. But what bothers me is this: my behavior back then had a reason — I was a teenager dealing with the hurt of being constantly compared. He doesn't know that reason. To him, I simply disappeared for 5 years without explanation. So my question is — should I still expect to be treated well?

I heard a lot of international students do part time jobs some also do delivery jobs while studying masters, how do you get time to study and pass exams? Won't you be physically exhausted to study?

So my sister went to Germany and completed her masters there and some part of it was funded by my father, I wish to go there too. But my father is a type of person who breaks his promises like when he promised me to buy laptop after completing my 10th grade but bought it after 12th grade, but one thing I noticed is that he almost always gave me better facilities to me as compared to my sister and he usually gives importance to education. So I asked him can you fund my German education he promised me that he will, but he is not showing me the proof that he has enough funds for it so I am confused whether to start learning German language or not because if I learn German and he doesn't or couldn't fulfill his promises then my time would be wasted which I could have used to develop tech skills

My logic to learn German language is that if I invest a lot of time learning German then I would force myself to go to Germany to justify my time spent on German

I am learning German language for free from dw learn german website and chatgpt , I am talking about blocked account funds to student visa

So my sister went to Germany and completed her masters there and some part of it was funded by my father, I wish to go there too. But my father is a type of person who breaks his promises like when he promised me to buy laptop after completing my 10th grade but bought it after 12th grade, but one thing I noticed is that he almost always gave me better facilities to me as compared to my sister and he usually gives more importance to education. So I asked him can you fund my German education he promised me that he will, but he is not showing me the proof that he has enough funds for it so I am confused whether to start learning German language or not because if I learn German and he doesn't or couldn't fulfill his promises then my time would be wasted which I could have used to develop tech skills

My logic to learn German language is that if I invest a lot of time learning German then I would force myself to go to Germany to justify my time spent on German

I am learning German language for free from dw learn german website and chatgpt , I am talking about blocked account funds to student visa