u/Competitive_Gas_8563

I (20f) have been messaging this guy (25m) who is a very pretentious and corny flirt (good thing lol), but I have basically no dating/flirting experience and never know what to say. I get flustered pretty easily and overthink how to respond so I'm genuinely asking for help -

(For context I followed him on my other insta, briefly yapped then he said this referring to my account) - "stalking your posts and getting sunburns from the sheer radiance emanating from my screen rn"

What do I even say to that dawg. I wanna like match his energy and compliment him back, but 20 years of being borderline aro/ace leaves me clueless.

(sorry for over explaining, I like to be clear)

I'm 20f with no experience. I'm on the asexual spectrum and literally never get crushes, and if I did, it'd take a year to develop or I'd be forcing chemistry js cause they like me. But, last week I met a guy (25m) I've become infatuated with.

I often saw him at local shows but we didn't talk. The first time we really spoke was last saturday bc I forgot my wallet and he insisted on paying for me to get into a show. We drank, yapped and danced all night. He kept calling me beautiful and a few times he'd grab my waist while we were dancing then apologize after, but I was kinda touchy with him too (I'm awkward but I didn't mind).

Since then we've been texting 24/7, one of those continuous convos where you reply every few minutes our hours without ending it. I've never been flirted with so directly in my life, he's very pretentious and corny but he hasn't said anything weird or sexual. Like trying to imagine my facial expression to his flirting by "conjuring up all the imagination he possesses to see it in his minds eye", saying he's enamoured by me, and overall just a lot of sweet stuff.

Although, a friend of mine who sorta knows him from shows, says hes a sly vixen wh*re who morphs his personality to sleep with people. And another friend who is apparently friends with the guy I like, says he's a great dude and I should go for it. I'm taking it with a grain of salt as this friend recently had a thing for me and seemed fine with the guy until I started talking to him. I'm pretty conflicted, but I'm worried the first is true. Because I have hinge (never sent a like, just scroll, will delete anyway), and saw him on there with the "short term relationship" tag, but all the photos are pretty old so Idk if he still uses it.

Though I'm not 100% sure what I want, I'm not the type for hookups. And now I'm nervous that he's just saying all this romantic pretentious stuff to get in my bed, or that he's saying the same things to multiple others. I'm not opposed to sleeping with him, even if we don't take it too slow. I'm more worried about meaningless sex/ only being used for my body then him moving on after (and thats if he doesn't distance himself cause my lack of experience).

I just hope he's being genuine and that I'll finally have a chance to experience some sorta romance.

edit: so far we haven't explicitly talked about relationships or anything yet. We've had a lot of pretty deep convos already but the topic of romance or sex hasn't actually come up. I'm sure it will eventually, but this is very new to me and I'm nervous to initiate that conversation. Plus, its only been a week, I don't wanna rush into "hey so r we gonna date or what"

I (20f) have become infatuated with someone (25m) for the first time. It's silly, we met last week and have been texting 24/7 since, but I've never had such crippling butterflies or smiled at my phone this much. Though he doesn't know this, I'm on the ace spectrum, possibly THE spectrum too. Bc of this, I rarely had crushes and if I did we wouldn't connect. My lack of attraction made me start to question if I'm aro/ace and perpetually single.

But I've never felt this way towards someone before, despite him being very directly flirty, he hasn't made any weird or sexual comments. I'm just worried that he's being overly sweet to sleep with me n move on to the next after, or that he'll lose interest when he finds out I have no experience.

He hasn't directly lead me to that possible conclusion, but a friend has. 2 friends of mine know him. Friend A, my bffs boyfriend says he's a great guy and I should go for it. I was surprised they knew each other but apparently they're friends. Friend B says he's a wh*re who morphs his personality to sleep with people. They're acquaintances from shows, but I don't think they know each other well.

I'm taking B with a grain of salt as friend B also recently had a thing for me, but it does worry me. I have hinge but I've never sent likes or talk, just scroll sometimes. And I've seen my crush on there with the "short term relationship" tag and "thoughtful signals award". So I keep wondering if he's talking to multiple people in the same way he is to me. I'm scared that I'm getting too invested and that I'm being sweet talked into my heart getting broken.

I don't 100% know what I'm looking for, but it's not just hookups. Cause by how "romantic" and pretentiously he's been talking, I'm just gonna give up on dating altogether if its an act.

I recently turned 20, and for the first time since I was 16, I'm enamoured by someone. I'm on the asexual spectrum and possibly THE spectrum, so I've always struggled to feel attraction. Or when I did, I struggled to connect with them. Because of this, I never had the chance or bothered to learn how to navigate non platonic relationships. The most I've done is make out with a guy, but it didn't go anywhere cause he was pissy I wouldn't sleep with him in the same night.

But last week, I met a guy at a show and we've been talking a lot since (albeit only through text). Maybe I'm just infatuated cause I've never had someone flirt with me so directly, but this is the first time I've liked someone without having a terrible sense of dread when talking to them. Aside from my minor anxiety attacks from not knowing how to reply.

The only downside(?) is that he's 25. I understand the gap techhhnicalllyy isn't bad, but I know that a lot in life can change within that time. Part of me doesn't care given I've never really felt this way before, but something in my brain also tells me that I'm too young. He doesn't know that I have no clue what I'm doing (I think). I'm worried that when he finds out, he'll distance himself or lose interest. I don't want him to feel like he has to teach me, or for that I'm not fulling enough, emotionally or sexually.

It's too early for these thoughts and I'm just overthinking, as of now I have no idea what his intentions are. To be honest, I don't know what mine are either. It's all giving me so much anxiety though.

edit: found out I'm also very much an avoidant attachment which explains a lot

19F never dated b4 cause I've never really had a crush until now. He's kinda corny but it's sweet ok. Flirting isn't my thing but I don't wanna seem uninterested (though I might already cause I end up waiting hours to respond given Idk what to say).

We've only hung out irl once (both drunk and he was complimenting me 24/7), but over text he's like "one of ur prayers is worth a million ordinary wishes", referring to a show called porcelain beauty n saying (you btw) and just being very flirty in general.

The best I can do is respond with "hehehehe:3" or "im so honoured" but I feel like it's just him after me while I give nothing back :(

I'm 19F and never dated or anything cause I've just never gotten crushes. I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum and rarely find people attractive. My few talking stages weren't super flirty, which I didn't mind cause I'm not either. But for once I actualllly am interested in someone, though they're pretty direct.

Our first time hanging out at a show recently, he wouldn't stop complimenting me all night, and now on text he's adding these corny little messages like "one of your prayers is worth a million ordinary wishes" (the one Im trying to respond to).

I do like it, and I wanna also show I'm interested but good god I'm horrible at flirting, it feels so out of character for me and I'm worried I'm giving nothing back. I end up waiting hours to respond cause idk what to say n just sendn "heheheheh:3"

How do I even go about this??