r/Flirting

Hes older than me, we kissed, made out in his car, we touched each other yet he can’t flirt for life. Like 😭 and he wants me to initiate everything even for the kiss he was like “you make the first move I suck at first moves” yea clearly bro. Even him asking me out took him 2 good years. The date was good he remembered stuff, smiled, drove me around for 4 hours straight and we just talked and got to know each other and he keeps saying he wants to know me but we established we both don’t want something serious and this is purely fun

But He’s just bad at flirting ykwim. We’ll have our next date soon so How do I tell him he can make moves and flirt a bit more?? Ykwim? We talk more casual on text than flirting even after the kiss. Like he teases me in a flirty way but only irl

Hes older than me, we kissed, made out in his car, we touched each other yet he can’t flirt for life. Like 😭 and he wants me to initiate everything even for the kiss he was like “you make the first move I suck at first moves” yea clearly bro. Even him asking me out took him 2 good years. The date was good he remembered stuff, smiled, drove me around for 4 hours straight and we just talked and got to know each other and he keeps saying he wants to know me but we established we both don’t want something serious

But He’s just bad at flirting ykwim. We’ll have our next date soon so How do I tell him he can make moves and flirt a bit more?? Ykwim? We talk more casual on text than flirting even after the kiss. Like he teases me in a flirty way but only irl

this guy i find very cute has liked a bunch of my stories now. this is his second time responding with heart eyes this week… how do i go from there? lol it sounds dumb but how should i start a conversation from it? or should i just leave it until he actually says something?

I think I just might be too literal for this. I do have a general idea, and I would say my style of flirting is more soft, honest statements, but outside that I can't seem to figure it out. I can clearly see how other people boldly flirt with me, I just can't seem to figure out how to translate that into my own words. I am trying to figure it out but it's just as difficult as bantering, like there's a level of playfulness I can't seem to manage.

It's not that my style of flirting isn't valid, but I want to know how people can be so bold, flirtatious or teasing because I can't seem to manage it at all. I wish it was as easy as just saying what comes to mind, or expressing how I feel, but I'm a fairly direct person. I like to express these things as honestly as I can, which means that poetic or adding more "flare" to things almost feels like I'm being performative, even if it's still true and just has more colourful words to make it sound better