I'm looking for a haircut. My hair is quite long, I want a few inches off and some shaping. Haven't had my haircut in Newcastle before.
I have sensory issues, so I want someone who is nice and can accommodate that, preferably with a separate room, as all the music and hairdryers really bother me with someone touching me on top of it.
I'm not looking to spend more than £50
Ideally near the city centre
we're hoping to find out ct scan results tomorrow at the appointment. tumour removed from left testicle. We have to get there at 7:30am but there is a list and apparently he may not be seen stright away (UK)
We've been messed around so much with the rescheduling, work/family are frustrated we keep swapping things, and so am i tbh
i want to know what to expect out of the day and if there is anything i can do to help in the next few days. I am off tomorrow and all weekend but back to work monday
TW physical health issues
Even though my boyfriend is having surgery and struggling with his health, I can't stop the stress from getting to me and I'm splitting on him and anyone else around. I will be taking care of him and the whole situation sucks. I have to get up at 5am tomorrow (CFS and BI) then we're driving 40 minutes with his dad and dads partner (I get travel sick and hate driving in a car) to the hospital where we will be staying for at least 4 hours, maybe much longer. I will be stressed, bored, exhausted, and worried.
For this surgery we have cancelled our house move (planned for the day we foudn out the surgery would be, its urgent so we got very little notice and had to back out of a place we loved after getting accepted) and took time off work, which I can't get paid for.
Yesterday we did his fertility treatment as he may lose that during his treatment. At the appointment, the hospital called and rearranged his surgery from 730am tomorrow at a local hospital to 2 weeks from now at a far away one (there are 3 large hospitals in my city). Then we all cancelled our time off (me, him, his dad, dads gf, my mother) and rearranged our plans. Then, around 2 hours later, another call saying it will still be 730am tomorrow but at the far hospital. Consider the fact that neither of us or his dad drive and we all cancelled our time off. Emotions all over the the place, but I handled it.
But today was the kicker. My mother texted and said she won't be coming tomorrow as planned to give me a break during the long day at the hospital. she was probably going to drive us back too because his dads gf isn't staying so shed have to drive up there, back, then come back to pick us up so the fact my mam would be there anyway was helpful. I split on her. I honestly hate her for it. Then SHE backtracked on it and said she would try to come but by that point I'd had enough and was texting my boyfriend telling him I'm not going at all. The level of stress I'm already under and she pulls that? Bear in mind she's self employed so it's not like when I had to get the day off, cancel it, get it again.
I'm splitting on everyone and headed to a nervous breakdown. I'm at work today trying to deal with all this. Then surgery tomorrow with the early start and everything, then weeks of caring for my partner and a potentially life-changing diagnosis. Why my mother decided to add to that and make it all about her, I'll never understand.
On top of that, I even find myself splitting on nurses. When he went for a scan one of them basically made fun of me for thinking I could go in with her, so when she'd walked away I called her a bitch. His dad was there but I don't giv a shit when a nurse (usually ex-bullies) try to humillitate me, I'm surprised I didn't say something to her. If they pmo tomorrow I don't know how I'll handle it after how we've been treated and messed about.
Current situation, I plan to go but have told everyone I'm not, told my mother not to bother getting dogs because I'm staying home and told my boyfriend to stay at his dads. Emotions are extremely high. I have a sore throat and didn't get much sleep. I'm a mess ready to lose it
CFS and brain injury
My boyfriend is having surgery tomrrow and I'm dreading it. I will be taking care of him and the whole situation sucks. I have to get up at 5am tomorrow then we're driving 40 minutes with his dad and dads partner (I get travel sick and hate driving in a car) to the hospital where we will be staying for at least 4 hours, maybe much longer. I will be stressed, bored, exhausted, and worried.
Yesterday we did his fertility treatment as he may lose that during his treatment. At the appointment, the hospital called and rearranged his surgery from 730am tomorrow at a local hospital to 2 weeks from now at a far away one (there are 3 large hospitals in my city). Then we all cancelled our time off (me, him, his dad, dads gf, my mother) and rearranged our plans. Then, around 2 hours later, another call saying it will still be 730am tomorrow but at the far hospital. Consider the fact that neither of us or his dad drive and we all cancelled our time off.
But today was the kicker. My mother texted and said she won't be coming tomorrow as planned to give me a break during the long day at the hospital. she was probably going to drive us back too because his dads gf isn't staying so shed have to drive up there, back, then come back to pick us up so the fact my mam would be there anyway was helpful. Then SHE backtracked on it and said she would try to come but by that point I'd had enough
On top of that, he's easily twice my size and I will struggle with physical as well as mental and emotional exhaustion.
It's also my PME hell fortnight, so taking care of him will be extra hard
TW physical health issues
Even though my boyfriend is having surgery and struggling with his health, I can't stop the stress from getting to me and I'm splitting on (BPD black and white thinking) him and anyone else around. I will be taking care of him and the whole situation sucks. I have to get up at 5am tomorrow (CFS and BI) then we're driving 40 minutes with his dad and dads partner (I get travel sick and hate driving in a car) to the hospital where we will be staying for at least 4 hours, maybe much longer. I will be stressed, bored, exhausted, and worried.
For this surgery we have cancelled our house move (planned for the day we foudn out the surgery would be, its urgent so we got very little notice and had to back out of a place we loved after getting accepted) and took time off work, which I can't get paid for.
Yesterday we did his fertility treatment as he may lose that during his treatment. At the appointment, the hospital called and rearranged his surgery from 730am tomorrow at a local hospital to 2 weeks from now at a far away one (there are 3 large hospitals in my city). Then we all cancelled our time off (me, him, his dad, dads gf, my mother) and rearranged our plans. Then, around 2 hours later, another call saying it will still be 730am tomorrow but at the far hospital. Consider the fact that neither of us or his dad drive and we all cancelled our time off. Emotions all over the the place, but I handled it.
But today was the kicker. My mother texted and said she won't be coming tomorrow as planned to give me a break during the long day at the hospital. she was probably going to drive us back too because his dads gf isn't staying so shed have to drive up there, back, then come back to pick us up so the fact my mam would be there anyway was helpful. I split on her. I honestly hate her for it. Then SHE backtracked on it and said she would try to come but by that point I'd had enough and was texting my boyfriend telling him I'm not going at all. The level of stress I'm already under and she pulls that? Bear in mind she's self employed so it's not like when I had to get the day off, cancel it, get it again.
I'm splitting on everyone and headed to a nervous breakdown. I'm at work today trying to deal with all this. Then surgery tomorrow with the early start and everything, then weeks of caring for my partner and a potentially life-changing diagnosis. Why my mother decided to add to that and make it all about her, I'll never understand.
On top of that, I even find myself splitting on nurses. When he went for a scan one of them basically made fun of me for thinking I could go in with her, so when she'd walked away I called her a bitch. His dad was there but I don't giv a shit when a nurse (usually ex-bullies) try to humillitate me, I'm surprised I didn't say something to her. If they pmo tomorrow I don't know how I'll handle it after how we've been treated and messed about.
It's also my PME hell fortnight
Current situation, I plan to go but have told everyone I'm not, told my mother not to bother getting dogs because I'm staying home and told my boyfriend to stay at his dads. Emotions are extremely high. I have a sore throat and didn't get much sleep. I'm a mess ready to lose it
TW physical health issues
Even though my boyfriend is having surgery and struggling with his health, I can't stop the stress from getting to me and I'm splitting on him and anyone else around. I will be taking care of him and the whole situation sucks. I have to get up at 5am tomorrow (CFS and BI) then we're driving 40 minutes with his dad and dads partner (I get travel sick and hate driving in a car) to the hospital where we will be staying for at least 4 hours, maybe much longer. I will be stressed, bored, exhausted, and worried.
For this surgery we have cancelled our house move (planned for the day we foudn out the surgery would be, its urgent so we got very little notice and had to back out of a place we loved after getting accepted) and took time off work, which I can't get paid for.
Yesterday we did his fertility treatment as he may lose that during his treatment. At the appointment, the hospital called and rearranged his surgery from 730am tomorrow at a local hospital to 2 weeks from now at a far away one (there are 3 large hospitals in my city). Then we all cancelled our time off (me, him, his dad, dads gf, my mother) and rearranged our plans. Then, around 2 hours later, another call saying it will still be 730am tomorrow but at the far hospital. Consider the fact that neither of us or his dad drive and we all cancelled our time off. Emotions all over the the place, but I handled it.
But today was the kicker. My mother texted and said she won't be coming tomorrow as planned to give me a break during the long day at the hospital. she was probably going to drive us back too because his dads gf isn't staying so shed have to drive up there, back, then come back to pick us up so the fact my mam would be there anyway was helpful. I split on her. I honestly hate her for it. Then SHE backtracked on it and said she would try to come but by that point I'd had enough and was texting my boyfriend telling him I'm not going at all. The level of stress I'm already under and she pulls that? Bear in mind she's self employed so it's not like when I had to get the day off, cancel it, get it again.
I'm splitting on everyone and headed to a nervous breakdown. I'm at work today trying to deal with all this. Then surgery tomorrow with the early start and everything, then weeks of caring for my partner and a potentially life-changing diagnosis. Why my mother decided to add to that and make it all about her, I'll never understand.
On top of that, I even find myself splitting on nurses. When he went for a scan one of them basically made fun of me for thinking I could go in with her, so when she'd walked away I called her a bitch. His dad was there but I don't giv a shit when a nurse (usually ex-bullies) try to humillitate me, I'm surprised I didn't say something to her. If they pmo tomorrow I don't know how I'll handle it after how we've been treated and messed about.
Current situation, I plan to go but have told everyone I'm not, told my mother not to bother getting dogs because I'm staying home and told my boyfriend to stay at his dads. Emotions are extremely high. I have a sore throat and didn't get much sleep. I'm a mess ready to lose it
TW physical health issues
Even though my boyfriend is having surgery and struggling with his health, I can't stop the stress from getting to me and I'm splitting on him and anyone else around. I will be taking care of him and the whole situation sucks. I have to get up at 5am tomorrow (CFS and BI) then we're driving 40 minutes with his dad and dads partner (I get travel sick and hate driving in a car) to the hospital where we will be staying for at least 4 hours, maybe much longer. I will be stressed, bored, exhausted, and worried.
For this surgery we have cancelled our house move (planned for the day we foudn out the surgery would be, its urgent so we got very little notice and had to back out of a place we loved after getting accepted) and took time off work, which I can't get paid for.
Yesterday we did his fertility treatment as he may lose that during his treatment. At the appointment, the hospital called and rearranged his surgery from 730am tomorrow at a local hospital to 2 weeks from now at a far away one (there are 3 large hospitals in my city). Then we all cancelled our time off (me, him, his dad, dads gf, my mother) and rearranged our plans. Then, around 2 hours later, another call saying it will still be 730am tomorrow but at the far hospital. Consider the fact that neither of us or his dad drive and we all cancelled our time off. Emotions all over the the place, but I handled it.
But today was the kicker. My mother texted and said she won't be coming tomorrow as planned to give me a break during the long day at the hospital. she was probably going to drive us back too because his dads gf isn't staying so shed have to drive up there, back, then come back to pick us up so the fact my mam would be there anyway was helpful. I split on her. I honestly hate her for it. Then SHE backtracked on it and said she would try to come but by that point I'd had enough and was texting my boyfriend telling him I'm not going at all. The level of stress I'm already under and she pulls that? Bear in mind she's self employed so it's not like when I had to get the day off, cancel it, get it again.
I'm splitting on everyone and headed to a nervous breakdown. I'm at work today trying to deal with all this. Then surgery tomorrow with the early start and everything, then weeks of caring for my partner and a potentially life-changing diagnosis. Why my mother decided to add to that and make it all about her, I'll never understand.
On top of that, I even find myself splitting on nurses. When he went for a scan one of them basically made fun of me for thinking I could go in with her, so when she'd walked away I called her a bitch. His dad was there but I don't giv a shit when a nurse (usually ex-bullies) try to humillitate me, I'm surprised I didn't say something to her. If they pmo tomorrow I don't know how I'll handle it after how we've been treated and messed about.
It's also my PME hell fortnight
Current situation, I plan to go but have told everyone I'm not, told my mother not to bother getting dogs because I'm staying home and told my boyfriend to stay at his dads. Emotions are extremely high. I have a sore throat and didn't get much sleep. I'm a mess ready to lose it
I (23f) have been in a relationship for 8 months, and we're so great together, but it feels like the universe is against us.
We were going to move in together next month because he's been basically living with me since January anyway. I looked for months, a very intense search because my ADHD hyper-focused on it as it does on any task that can be completed. I worked at it for months and found a place we loved a lot, great location, price, everything
He is having health issues, and right when our offer got accepted, he got his surgery date for the move-in date. I also found out his finances are a mess, with some debt and no savings.
I was a little devastated but anxious about the move anyway, so we cancelled it, and we'll just split the rent in my current place for a few months, then start looking again. We want to be in our comfort zone for this difficult period.
Today I was on my computer, decided to take a quick glance at RightMove because the tab was open, and I saw new pictures of the flat, including the garden, which I hadn't seen. It's so lovely, and I'm so devastated. Seeing those new pictures was really hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that the timing was off and besides, the layout wasn't perfect; I was just impressed and wow-ed by the place.
On top of that, I'm very nervous about the fast-approaching surgery. I have trauma with being abused by drunk people, which is being triggered when I imagine him coming off anaesthesia, in pain, dysregulated and possibly snappy or mean. I am very sensitive anyway and struggle with any blunt or snappy communication, which he's usually great about, bar mistakes and things coming out wrong, so this will be a real challenge.
Then there's the actual sitting around for hours waiting to see if he'll be okay, and the days/weeks of caring for him post-op. I don't really have any friends, certainly none in the area to talk to. I have spoken to my mam, but it's not the same. He has lots of friends and siblings he's close to, family, and people in his life. He's going out after work for a drink with a friend and to talk. I'm happy he has that support, but my family live almost an hour away, and I don't really have friends, so I'm struggling now.
I have BPD and he's my FP so I struggle not to only go to him and only care about him. I also only have one day off for his surgery (Fri), then the weekend to help him, then I'm back at work, though I only work part-time.
I'm also a little worried about how he'll react and post-surgery. He's never had one before, and it may affect our sex lives and his self-esteem. We have a great sex life so I'm worried how our connection may suffer. It may also affect us in the future with fertility issues, not that we're really into the idea of kids but maybe.
I also get really depressed sitting in the house and need to go out and do stuff every day so the idea that he'll be house-bound for a week is hard, and I am going to be taking care of him.
We find out on Sunday if the health issues are serious or if he only needs the surgery. If it's serious, I will find that very, very hard.
I suppose I could go on and on, but I'll leave it at that for now. Looking for support but tend not to check DMs
I (23f) have been in a relationship for 8 months, and we're so great together, but it feels like the universe is against us.
We were going to move in together next month because he's been basically living with me since January anyway. I looked for months, a very intense search because my ADHD hyper-focused on it as it does on any task that can be completed. I worked at it for months and found a place we loved a lot, great location, price, everything
He is having health issues, and right when our offer got accepted, he got his surgery date for the move-in date. I also found out his finances are a mess, with some debt and no savings. I was a little devastated but anxious about the move anyway, so we cancelled it, and we'll just split the rent in my current place for a few months, then start looking again. We want to be in our comfort zone for this difficult period.
Today I was on my computer, decided to take a quick glance at RightMove because the tab was open, and I saw new pictures of the flat, including the garden, which I hadn't seen. It's so lovely, and I'm so devastated. Seeing those new pictures was really hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that the timing was off and besides, the layout wasn't perfect; I was just impressed and wow-ed by the place.
On top of that, I'm very nervous about the fast-approaching surgery. I have trauma with being abused by drunk people, which is being triggered when I imagine him coming off anaesthesia, in pain, dysregulated and possibly snappy or mean. I am very sensitive anyway and struggle with any blunt or snappy communication, which he's usually great about, bar mistakes and things coming out wrong, so this will be a real challenge. Then there's the actual sitting around for hours waiting to see if he'll be okay, and the days/weeks of caring for him post-op.
I don't really have any friends, certainly none in the area to talk to. I have spoken to my mam, but it's not the same. He has lots of friends and siblings he's close to, family, and people in his life. He's going out after work for a drink with a friend and to talk. I'm happy he has that support, but my family live almost an hour away, and I don't really have friends, so I'm struggling now. I have BPD and he's my FP so I struggle not to only go to him and only care about him.
I also only have one day off for his surgery (Fri), then the weekend to help him, then I'm back at work, though I only work part-time.
I'm also a little worried about how he'll react and post-surgery. He's never had one before, and it may affect our sex lives and his self-esteem. We have a great sex life so I'm worried how our connection may suffer. It may also affect us in the future with fertility issues, not that we're really into the idea of kids but maybe. I also get really depressed sitting in the house and need to go out and do stuff every day so the idea that he'll be house-bound for a week is hard, and I am going to be taking care of him.
We find out on Sunday if the health issues are serious or if he only needs the surgery. If it's serious, I will find that very, very hard.
I suppose I could go on and on, but I'll leave it at that for now. Looking for support but tend not to check DMs
I (23f) have been in a relationship for 8 months, and we're so great together, but it feels like the universe is against us.
We were going to move in together next month because he's been basically living with me since January anyway. I looked for months, a very intense search because my ADHD hyper-focused on it as it does on any task that can be completed. I worked at it for months and found a place we loved a lot, great location, price, everything
He is having health issues, and right when our offer got accepted, he got his surgery date for the move-in date. I also found out his finances are a mess, with some debt and no savings. I was a little devastated but anxious about the move anyway, so we cancelled it, and we'll just split the rent in my current place for a few months, then start looking again. We want to be in our comfort zone for this difficult period.
Today I was on my computer, decided to take a quick glance at RightMove because the tab was open, and I saw new pictures of the flat, including the garden, which I hadn't seen. It's so lovely, and I'm so devastated. Seeing those new pictures was really hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that the timing was off and besides, the layout wasn't perfect; I was just impressed and wow-ed by the place.
On top of that, I'm very nervous about the fast-approaching surgery. I have trauma with being abused by drunk people, which is being triggered when I imagine him coming off anaesthesia, in pain, dysregulated and possibly snappy or mean. I am very sensitive anyway and struggle with any blunt or snappy communication, which he's usually great about, bar mistakes and things coming out wrong, so this will be a real challenge. Then there's the actual sitting around for hours waiting to see if he'll be okay, and the days/weeks of caring for him post-op.
I don't really have any friends, certainly none in the area to talk to. I have spoken to my mam, but it's not the same. He has lots of friends and siblings he's close to, family, and people in his life. He's going out after work for a drink with a friend and to talk. I'm happy he has that support, but my family live almost an hour away, and I don't really have friends, so I'm struggling now. I have BPD and he's my FP so I struggle not to only go to him and only care about him.
I also only have one day off for his surgery (Fri), then the weekend to help him, then I'm back at work, though I only work part-time.
I'm also a little worried about how he'll react and post-surgery. He's never had one before, and it may affect our intimacy and his self-esteem. We have a great intimacy so I'm worried how our connection may suffer. It may also affect us in the future with fertility issues, not that we're really into the idea of kids but maybe. I also get really depressed sitting in the house and need to go out and do stuff every day so the idea that he'll be house-bound for a week is hard, and I am going to be taking care of him.
We find out on Sunday if the health issues are serious or if he only needs the surgery. If it's serious, I will find that very, very hard.
I suppose I could go on and on, but I'll leave it at that for now. Looking for support but tend not to check DMs
Edit: spam was accidental, I didn't have an 18+ account but was posting with NSFW tag because I mentioned intimacy, then when I posted I couldn't see because my age wasn't verified
I (23f) have been in a relationship for 8 months, and we're so great together, but it feels like the universe is against us.
We were going to move in together next month because he's been basically living with me since January anyway. I looked for months, a very intense search because my ADHD hyper-focused on it as it does on any task that can be completed. I worked at it for months and found a place we loved a lot, great location, price, everything
He is having health issues, and right when our offer got accepted, he got his surgery date for the move-in date. I also found out his finances are a mess, with some debt and no savings. I was a little devastated but anxious about the move anyway, so we cancelled it, and we'll just split the rent in my current place for a few months, then start looking again. We want to be in our comfort zone for this difficult period.
Today I was on my computer, decided to take a quick glance at RightMove because the tab was open, and I saw new pictures of the flat, including the garden, which I hadn't seen. It's so lovely, and I'm so devastated. Seeing those new pictures was really hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that the timing was off and besides, the layout wasn't perfect; I was just impressed and wow-ed by the place.
On top of that, I'm very nervous about the fast-approaching surgery. I have trauma with being abused by drunk people, which is being triggered when I imagine him coming off anaesthesia, in pain, dysregulated and possibly snappy or mean. I am very sensitive anyway and struggle with any blunt or snappy communication, which he's usually great about, bar mistakes and things coming out wrong, so this will be a real challenge. Then there's the actual sitting around for hours waiting to see if he'll be okay, and the days/weeks of caring for him post-op.
I don't really have any friends, certainly none in the area to talk to. I have spoken to my mam, but it's not the same. He has lots of friends and siblings he's close to, family, and people in his life. He's going out after work for a drink with a friend and to talk. I'm happy he has that support, but my family live almost an hour away, and I don't really have friends, so I'm struggling now. I have BPD and he's my FP so I struggle not to only go to him and only care about him.
I also only have one day off for his surgery (Fri), then the weekend to help him, then I'm back at work, though I only work part-time.
I'm also a little worried about how he'll react and post-surgery. He's never had one before, and it may affect our sex lives and his self-esteem. We have a great sex life so I'm worried how our connection may suffer. It may also affect us in the future with fertility issues, not that we're really into the idea of kids but maybe. I also get really depressed sitting in the house and need to go out and do stuff every day so the idea that he'll be house-bound for a week is hard, and I am going to be taking care of him.
We find out on Sunday if the health issues are serious or if he only needs the surgery. If it's serious, I will find that very, very hard.
I suppose I could go on and on, but I'll leave it at that for now. Looking for support but tend not to check DMs
I (23f) have been in a relationship for 8 months, and we're so great together, but it feels like the universe is against us.
We were going to move in together next month because he's been basically living with me since January anyway. I looked for months, a very intense search because my ADHD hyper-focused on it as it does on any task that can be completed. I worked at it for months and found a place we loved a lot, great location, price, everything
He is having health issues, and right when our offer got accepted, he got his surgery date for the move-in date. I also found out his finances are a mess, with some debt and no savings. I was a little devastated but anxious about the move anyway, so we cancelled it, and we'll just split the rent in my current place for a few months, then start looking again. We want to be in our comfort zone for this difficult period.
Today I was on my computer, decided to take a quick glance at RightMove because the tab was open, and I saw new pictures of the flat, including the garden, which I hadn't seen. It's so lovely, and I'm so devastated. Seeing those new pictures was really hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that the timing was off and besides, the layout wasn't perfect; I was just impressed and wow-ed by the place.
On top of that, I'm very nervous about the fast-approaching surgery. I have trauma with being abused by drunk people, which is being triggered when I imagine him coming off anaesthesia, in pain, dysregulated and possibly snappy or mean. I am very sensitive anyway and struggle with any blunt or snappy communication, which he's usually great about, bar mistakes and things coming out wrong, so this will be a real challenge. Then there's the actual sitting around for hours waiting to see if he'll be okay, and the days/weeks of caring for him post-op.
I don't really have any friends, certainly none in the area to talk to. I have spoken to my mam, but it's not the same. He has lots of friends and siblings he's close to, family, and people in his life. He's going out after work for a drink with a friend and to talk. I'm happy he has that support, but my family live almost an hour away, and I don't really have friends, so I'm struggling now. I have BPD and he's my FP so I struggle not to only go to him and only care about him.
I also only have one day off for his surgery (Fri), then the weekend to help him, then I'm back at work, though I only work part-time.
I'm also a little worried about how he'll react and post-surgery. He's never had one before, and it may affect our sex lives and his self-esteem. We have a great sex life so I'm worried how our connection may suffer. It may also affect us in the future with fertility issues, not that we're really into the idea of kids but maybe. I also get really depressed sitting in the house and need to go out and do stuff every day so the idea that he'll be house-bound for a week is hard, and I am going to be taking care of him.
We find out on Sunday if the health issues are serious or if he only needs the surgery. If it's serious, I will find that very, very hard.
I suppose I could go on and on, but I'll leave it at that for now. Looking for support but tend not to check DMs
I (23f) have been in a relationship for 8 months, and we're so great together, but it feels like the universe is against us.
We were going to move in together next month because he's been basically living with me since January anyway. I looked for months, a very intense search because my ADHD hyper-focused on it as it does on any task that can be completed. I worked at it for months and found a place we loved a lot, great location, price, everything
He is having health issues, and right when our offer got accepted, he got his surgery date for the move-in date. I also found out his finances are a mess, with some debt and no savings. I was a little devastated but anxious about the move anyway, so we cancelled it, and we'll just split the rent in my current place for a few months, then start looking again. We want to be in our comfort zone for this difficult period.
Today I was on my computer, decided to take a quick glance at RightMove because the tab was open, and I saw new pictures of the flat, including the garden, which I hadn't seen. It's so lovely, and I'm so devastated. Seeing those new pictures was really hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that the timing was off and besides, the layout wasn't perfect; I was just impressed and wow-ed by the place.
On top of that, I'm very nervous about the fast-approaching surgery. I have trauma with being abused by drunk people, which is being triggered when I imagine him coming off anaesthesia, in pain, dysregulated and possibly snappy or mean. I am very sensitive anyway and struggle with any blunt or snappy communication, which he's usually great about, bar mistakes and things coming out wrong, so this will be a real challenge. Then there's the actual sitting around for hours waiting to see if he'll be okay, and the days/weeks of caring for him post-op.
I don't really have any friends, certainly none in the area to talk to. I have spoken to my mam, but it's not the same. He has lots of friends and siblings he's close to, family, and people in his life. He's going out after work for a drink with a friend and to talk. I'm happy he has that support, but my family live almost an hour away, and I don't really have friends, so I'm struggling now. I have BPD and he's my FP so I struggle not to only go to him and only care about him.
I also only have one day off for his surgery (Fri), then the weekend to help him, then I'm back at work, though I only work part-time.
I'm also a little worried about how he'll react and post-surgery. He's never had one before, and it may affect our sex lives and his self-esteem. We have a great sex life so I'm worried how our connection may suffer. It may also affect us in the future with fertility issues, not that we're really into the idea of kids but maybe. I also get really depressed sitting in the house and need to go out and do stuff every day so the idea that he'll be house-bound for a week is hard, and I am going to be taking care of him.
We find out on Sunday if the health issues are serious or if he only needs the surgery. If it's serious, I will find that very, very hard.
I suppose I could go on and on, but I'll leave it at that for now. Looking for support but tend not to check DMs
I (23f) have been in a relationship for 8 months, and we're so great together, but it feels like the universe is against us.
We were going to move in together next month because he's been basically living with me since January anyway. I looked for months, a very intense search because my ADHD hyper-focused on it as it does on any task that can be completed. I worked at it for months and found a place we loved a lot, great location, price, everything
He is having health issues, and right when our offer got accepted, he got his surgery date for the move-in date. I also found out his finances are a mess, with some debt and no savings. I was a little devastated but anxious about the move anyway, so we cancelled it, and we'll just split the rent in my current place for a few months, then start looking again. We want to be in our comfort zone for this difficult period.
Today I was on my computer, decided to take a quick glance at RightMove because the tab was open, and I saw new pictures of the flat, including the garden, which I hadn't seen. It's so lovely, and I'm so devastated. Seeing those new pictures was really hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that the timing was off and besides, the layout wasn't perfect; I was just impressed and wow-ed by the place.
On top of that, I'm very nervous about the fast-approaching surgery. I have trauma with being abused by drunk people, which is being triggered when I imagine him coming off anaesthesia, in pain, dysregulated and possibly snappy or mean. I am very sensitive anyway and struggle with any blunt or snappy communication, which he's usually great about, bar mistakes and things coming out wrong, so this will be a real challenge. Then there's the actual sitting around for hours waiting to see if he'll be okay, and the days/weeks of caring for him post-op.
I don't really have any friends, certainly none in the area to talk to. I have spoken to my mam, but it's not the same. He has lots of friends and siblings he's close to, family, and people in his life. He's going out after work for a drink with a friend and to talk. I'm happy he has that support, but my family live almost an hour away, and I don't really have friends, so I'm struggling now. I have BPD and he's my FP so I struggle not to only go to him and only care about him.
I also only have one day off for his surgery (Fri), then the weekend to help him, then I'm back at work, though I only work part-time.
I'm also a little worried about how he'll react and post-surgery. He's never had one before, and it may affect our sex lives and his self-esteem. We have a great sex life so I'm worried how our connection may suffer. It may also affect us in the future with fertility issues, not that we're really into the idea of kids but maybe. I also get really depressed sitting in the house and need to go out and do stuff every day so the idea that he'll be house-bound for a week is hard, and I am going to be taking care of him.
We find out on Sunday if the health issues are serious or if he only needs the surgery. If it's serious, I will find that very, very hard.
I suppose I could go on and on, but I'll leave it at that for now. Looking for support but tend not to check DMs
I (23f) have been in a relationship for 8 months, and we're so great together, but it feels like the universe is against us.
We were going to move in together next month because he's been basically living with me since January anyway. I looked for months, a very intense search because my ADHD hyper-focused on it as it does on any task that can be completed. I worked at it for months and found a place we loved a lot, great location, price, everything
He is having health issues, and right when our offer got accepted, he got his surgery date for the move-in date. I also found out his finances are a mess, with some debt and no savings. I was a little devastated but anxious about the move anyway, so we cancelled it, and we'll just split the rent in my current place for a few months, then start looking again. We want to be in our comfort zone for this difficult period.
Today I was on my computer, decided to take a quick glance at RightMove because the tab was open, and I saw new pictures of the flat, including the garden, which I hadn't seen. It's so lovely, and I'm so devastated. Seeing those new pictures was really hard, but I keep trying to remind myself that the timing was off and besides, the layout wasn't perfect; I was just impressed and wow-ed by the place.
On top of that, I'm very nervous about the fast-approaching surgery. I have trauma with being abused by drunk people, which is being triggered when I imagine him coming off anaesthesia, in pain, dysregulated and possibly snappy or mean. I am very sensitive anyway and struggle with any blunt or snappy communication, which he's usually great about, bar mistakes and things coming out wrong, so this will be a real challenge. Then there's the actual sitting around for hours waiting to see if he'll be okay, and the days/weeks of caring for him post-op.
I don't really have any friends, certainly none in the area to talk to. I have spoken to my mam, but it's not the same. He has lots of friends and siblings he's close to, family, and people in his life. He's going out after work for a drink with a friend and to talk. I'm happy he has that support, but my family live almost an hour away, and I don't really have friends, so I'm struggling now. I have BPD and he's my FP so I struggle not to only go to him and only care about him.
I also only have one day off for his surgery (Fri), then the weekend to help him, then I'm back at work, though I only work part-time.
I'm also a little worried about how he'll react and post-surgery. He's never had one before, and it may affect our sex lives and his self-esteem. We have a great sex life so I'm worried how our connection may suffer. It may also affect us in the future with fertility issues, not that we're really into the idea of kids but maybe. I also get really depressed sitting in the house and need to go out and do stuff every day so the idea that he'll be house-bound for a week is hard, and I am going to be taking care of him.
We find out on Sunday if the health issues are serious or if he only needs the surgery. If it's serious, I will find that very, very hard.
I suppose I could go on and on, but I'll leave it at that for now. Looking for support but tend not to check DMs