u/Classic_Fondant_2545

i’m trying to decide where i want to live, but everywhere has such great things to offer that i’m so lost. city’s like ny can be so pretty and elegant but i’d hate to live somewhere to hectic, but i also wouldn’t live somewhere boring where the nightlife isn’t good, i still want a cool vibe. i like going on hikes and love the outdoorsy/cabin feel of places like yosemite for example, but i also love going to the beach. i also would hate to live somewhere where its constantly windy or snowy. i don’t mind it but it gets to a point. i’m not expecting anyone to magically find a place like this but it’s just frustrating finding a city to live in when im so indecisive, but if anyone has any suggestions in the usa im very open. i’m mainly looking at places in ca but again im open to anything

Me (19f) and my boyfriend (19m) went out on a walk, and i decided to wear a sports bra and track pants. this was kinda a big deal for me because i have struggled with body image issues my whole life (mainly my stomach) which he definitely knows by now, but im trying to be less self conscious. my bf loves me a lot and loves my stomach as well so sometimes when we’re at home he’ll squish my waist/stomach or face or something like that lightly. while we were walking out of no where, just in silence he puts his hand over my stomach and grabs me which was more aggressive and out of nowhere than how he’ll normally squish me, and i was kinda shocked because he normally doesn’t grab me like that, especially because i was wearing something that showed my stomach which i’m not normally comfortable in. without raising my voice ‘wtf are you doing don’t do that’ or something like that, but even though i said it calmly it was obvious i wasn’t happy, even though by this point i wasn’t even super mad or anything just upset and shocked but an apology or something would’ve resolved it at that point.

he didn’t say anything and ended up just walking way ahead of me to where i couldn’t see him anymore, which was when i became more upset but this was in the evening so the sun was still out and we live in a very safe neighborhood, but still i was upset. when i got back home he was waiting outside for me to unlock my door and was lowk laughing like it was just a silly argument. i said don’t come in, he came in anyways to get his stuff, i said hurry up get ur stuff and leave, and when i came upstairs he was literally just laying down on his phone like nothing happened. this is when i started yelling for him to leave because he was laughing and he said that he left because i always do to much and that i needed time to self reflect on my over reacting. i don’t know what to do or if im overreacting ? because i understand why he got upset but if i was in his shoes i would never have left him

edit: i did communicate why i was upset🫩 and he did too, but i wish he had done that originally instead of leaving me so i could ‘reflect’ because that’s what im mainly upset about

him saying that i overreacted was in RESPONSE to me explaining why i got upset