u/CelebrationCool7393

I moved out with my boyfriend in December last year and one of the main reasons we moved was because we wanted our own space. We were previously living with my mum, her boyfriend and roommates, and the environment was pretty stressful and chaotic at times.

Lately their living situation has gotten worse with new roommates constantly arguing etc, so I’ve let my mum stay at my place a few times to help her out and have a break from it all. But tonight we were talking about weekend plans and I asked if she was staying at her boyfriend’s place like she normally does. She replied saying she wasn’t sure because she’s happy her “living situation has improved now” because she’s staying with me.

That upset me because it made me feel like she thinks she can just stay here whenever she wants or possibly move in. I love my mum and I’ll always help her out where I can, but my boyfriend and I worked really hard to get our own place and we genuinely value having our own space and privacy, especially since he works FIFO and we barely get time together as it is.

When I tried to explain that I don’t want her staying here all the time, she got angry and basically said “you’re my daughter, you should let me stay whenever I want.”

Now I feel guilty and don’t know if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are valid. Am I wrong for wanting boundaries in my own home?

I moved out with my boyfriend in December last year and one of the main reasons we moved was because we wanted our own space. We were previously living with my mum, her boyfriend and roommates, and the environment was pretty stressful and chaotic at times.

Lately their living situation has gotten worse with new roommates constantly arguing etc, so I’ve let my mum stay at my place a few times to help her out and have a break from it all. But tonight we were talking about weekend plans and I asked if she was staying at her boyfriend’s place like she normally does. She replied saying she wasn’t sure because she’s happy her “living situation has improved now” because she’s staying with me.

That upset me because it made me feel like she thinks she can just stay here whenever she wants or possibly move in. I love my mum and I’ll always help her out where I can, but my boyfriend and I worked really hard to get our own place and we genuinely value having our own space and privacy, especially since he works FIFO and we barely get time together as it is.

When I tried to explain that I don’t want her staying here all the time, she got angry and basically said “you’re my daughter, you should let me stay whenever I want.”

Now I feel guilty and don’t know if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are valid. Am I wrong for wanting boundaries in my own home?

I moved out with my boyfriend in December last year and one of the main reasons we moved was because we wanted our own space. We were previously living with my mum, her boyfriend and roommates, and the environment was pretty stressful and chaotic at times.

Lately their living situation has gotten worse with new roommates constantly arguing etc, so I’ve let my mum stay at my place a few times to help her out and have a break from it all. But tonight we were talking about weekend plans and I asked if she was staying at her boyfriend’s place like she normally does. She replied saying she wasn’t sure because she’s happy her “living situation has improved now” because she’s staying with me.

That upset me because it made me feel like she thinks she can just stay here whenever she wants or possibly move in. I love my mum and I’ll always help her out where I can, but my boyfriend and I worked really hard to get our own place and we genuinely value having our own space and privacy, especially since he works FIFO and we barely get time together as it is.

When I tried to explain that I don’t want her staying here all the time, she got angry and basically said “you’re my daughter, you should let me stay whenever I want.”

Now I feel guilty and don’t know if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are valid. Am I wrong for wanting boundaries in my own home?