u/Careless_Pianist_840

I, 17F, have been best friends with Leah (fake name for privacy), 17F, for about 7 years. I have always been really shy so me and her have always been close having sleep overs and what not but recently I have been questioning our friendship. I have been beginning to make some new friends since I joined our schools band and I finally got a bf who is great. Leah often makes fun of my new friends cause they’re ’weird’ but they are really nice to me and make me feel great. Since being with these people, it’s made me realized how mean Leah has been specifically to me recently and as kids. To give some examples, we sit in our teachers room with two other friends for lunch. There have been time where she has told everyone embarrassing things I’ve done right in front of me as if she’s trying to make me feel bad. Another example is she will randomly make jokes about my body like how ‘flat my butt is’ and other comments that I didn’t really think about until now since they’ve started getting meaner. Even as kids, she wouldn’t let me use her coloring pencils because I ‘pressed too hard’ so I didn’t get to color while she did. Those are just some examples and there are more things. I told some of this stuff to my bf and he was the first to agree with me and say she shouldn’t treat me like that and I shouldn’t be friends with her. I have thought about it, but we’ve been friends for so long and I don’t have another best friend. Am I just being over dramatic? I’m really not sure to do so some advice would be greatly appreciated.

This is such a long, stressful story I will try to sum up to the best of my ability. I, 19F, have a brother, 35M. Even with our big age gap, we’ve been super close especially when I was a kid. Now, as a kid, I watched my brother go though a lot. Drug addiction, teenage pregnancy, dangerous friends, and a lot more. The worst was the first time he went to prison due to having sexual relations with a minor when he was in his 20s. This was hard for me as a kid. He went for a year and I didn’t get it but my mom told me the girl lied about her age and said she was 18. I went with it because I was so young. flash forward to about a year ago when we find out my brother is going to prison again. This time for 5 years. The story I was told is him and his girlfriend, 26F, had a fight, so he threw a house party and there were drugs and alcohol with his friends there. Also, his son’s sister who I will call Ashley, F16. For the record, Ashley is his son’s half sister and has no relation to my brother. My mom and brother told me he was getting arrested before they provided alcohol to a minor. I didn’t buy it now. I was older and knew better. I did some research and found out Ashley turned my brother in for him making sexual advances towards her and more stuff I won’t mention but you get it. With that, It made me realize all this stuff was true. He’s been accused multiple times and it was true. That’s why he was going. My mom and I had a huge fight and she’s tried to defend him saying it’s her fault he’s the way he is due to her past emotional abuse. I don’t care. It disgusts me. To top that off, my niece and brothers daughter, 16F, recently told us he has done similar things to her after I found out through some of her text messages and prying. My mom doesn’t believe her due to her being a frequent liar. But it all makes sense and I believe her. I keep telling my mom I want to cut him out of my life, but she gets so upset and tries guilt tripping me but I physically can’t speak to him because it disgusts me. My bf tells me i’m in the right but it feels bad. Am I the asshole?

This is such a long, stressful story I will try to sum up to the best of my ability. I, 19F, have a brother, 35M. Even with our big age gap, we’ve been super close especially when I was a kid. Now, as a kid, I watched my brother go though a lot. Drug addiction, teenage pregnancy, dangerous friends, and a lot more. The worst was the first time he went to prison due to having sexual relations with a minor when he was in his 20s. This was hard for me as a kid. He went for a year and I didn’t get it but my mom told me the girl lied about her age and said she was 18. I went with it because I was so young. flash forward to about a year ago when we find out my brother is going to prison again. This time for 5 years. The story I was told is him and his girlfriend, 26F, had a fight, so he threw a house party and there were drugs and alcohol with his friends there. Also, his son’s sister who I will call Ashley, F16. For the record, Ashley is his son’s half sister and has no relation to my brother. My mom and brother told me he was getting arrested before they provided alcohol to a minor. I didn’t buy it now. I was older and knew better. I did some research and found out Ashley turned my brother in for him making sexual advances towards her and more stuff I won’t mention but you get it. With that, It made me realize all this stuff was true. He’s been accused multiple times and it was true. That’s why he was going. My mom and I had a huge fight and she’s tried to defend him saying it’s her fault he’s the way he is due to her past emotional abuse. I don’t care. It disgusts me. To top that off, my niece and brothers daughter, 16F, recently told us he has done similar things to her after I found out through some of her text messages and prying. My mom doesn’t believe her due to her being a frequent liar. But it all makes sense and I believe her. I keep telling my mom I want to cut him out of my life, but she gets so upset and tries guilt tripping me but I physically can’t speak to him because it disgusts me. My bf tells me i’m in the right but it feels bad. Am I the asshole?