u/Capital-Nose7022

I was terminated last week because I made a huge mistake and opened my email from my second job on my company laptop from my first and main job (lessons learned). Now I'm just having anxiety that they're going to look through all of my emails and files. I didn't show my second job anything from my full time job, but I'm just paranoid anyways and don't like imagining IT going through all of my stuff I guess. I logged out of all of my accounts, cleared all search history, but I didn't wipe it because I wasn't sure if that's something for IT to do instead.

Title says it all really. Worked at a consulting firm as a marketing account executive for a year and a half and got fired this morning out of the blue because IT security found out I had done freelance work for a media company on the side. I wasn’t hiding it, it’s literally on my LinkedIn, so I was completely blind sided. It’s on me for not reading the contract close enough when I started the job. I had been freelancing with this media company for years so it didn’t even cross my mind. Lesson learned. Anyways, i’m unemployed now and am back in the job search. My biggest concern is what will I do about references. I had a good relationship with my boss and coworkers, but I don’t know if they’d be comfortable doing any references for me. Thoughts?

Im 26 F, never been in a long term relationship because I have had avoidant attachment issues in the past, and I’m really trying to grow up and move on from that, because I do want a meaningful real relationship. Im in a relationship now with a man that I really like (30). The thing is, hes been in many different relationships, partly because he has no family so I think they’ve sort of been in replacement of that. I know how childish it sounds, but I cant get the constant thought out of my head of how hes been w so many people and it makes me feel like just a number. In my head it feels like anything we’ll experience will be insignificant to him because of how many times hes been in relationships VS how ive been in none (just casual dating/hookups). Like I said I know its childish and I can feel my self sabotaging things but I dont know how to let these anxious thoughts go.

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