u/CARGYMANIMEPC

I 23m broke up with my girlfriend 22f of 7 months 2 days ago. She expected it coming and it became mutual because we agreed we weren’t “compatible” but neither of us wanted to end it.

We both cried and talked for a few hours and ended up breaking up. I said for her to block me on everything and she hasnt. Its been 2 days, i sent her a text the day of saying thank you for everything and she hasnt opened it but im sure shes seen it. I plan on sending her a congratulation text when she graduates tomorrow. I know she’s devastated and i didnt think it would hurt me this bad too but i feel like i made a huge mistake and really lost a good person in my life. I was her best friend and she was mine. I told her just loving each other isnt enough to have a relationship workout but im not sure if i believe that.

She had all these plans for us in the summer and was super excited but she said she might move back home a couple states away sooner (her lease ends late july), now that theres not much for her left here. Shes graduating tomorrow and her whole family will be there. (I met them the week prior). I was invited but i definitely cant and shouldn’t go now even if we get back together.

I definitely need time to fully process everything but i feel like im running out of time as she is making big decisions and i was a deciding factor in those. She wants to move to New York for work after college and i was going to move as well (not to new york). We agreed on long distance if it came to it. Everything about our relationship was amazing. Literally everything, we never had big arguments. Just disagreements that we actually communicated about very thoroughly and understood each other.

I feel like the biggest idiot in the world that threw away what makes life special for bs reasons and im realizing that now. I want to just show up with flowers and apologize and tell her everything. I hurt and betrayed her and i would understand if she wouldn’t take me back.

Any advice is appreciated

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u/CARGYMANIMEPC — 6 days ago

I 23m broke up with my girlfriend 22f of 7 months 2 days ago. She expected it coming and it became mutual because we agreed we weren’t “compatible” but neither of us wanted to end it.

We both cried and talked for a few hours and ended up breaking up. I said for her to block me on everything and she hasnt. Its been 2 days, i sent her a text the day of saying thank you for everything and she hasnt opened it but im sure shes seen it. I plan on sending her a congratulation text when she graduates tomorrow. I know she’s devastated and i didnt think it would hurt me this bad too but i feel like i made a huge mistake and really lost a good person in my life. I was her best friend and she was mine. I told her just loving each other isnt enough to have a relationship workout but im not sure if i believe that.

She had all these plans for us in the summer and was super excited but she said she might move back home a couple states away sooner (her lease ends late july), now that theres not much for her left here. Shes graduating tomorrow and her whole family will be there. (I met them the week prior). I was invited but i definitely cant and shouldn’t go now even if we get back together.

I definitely need time to fully process everything but i feel like im running out of time as she is making big decisions and i was a deciding factor in those. She wants to move to New York for work after college and i was going to move as well (not to new york). We agreed on long distance if it came to it. Everything about our relationship was amazing. Literally everything, we never had big arguments. Just disagreements that we actually communicated about very thoroughly and understood each other.

I feel like the biggest idiot in the world that threw away what makes life special for bs reasons and im realizing that now. I want to just show up with flowers and apologize and tell her everything. I hurt and betrayed her and i would understand if she wouldn’t take me back.

Any advice is appreciated

TL;DR: broke up with my girlfriend because of stupid reasons and i truly miss her.

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u/CARGYMANIMEPC — 6 days ago

I m23 and my girlfriend f23 have been dating for a bit over half a year. The issue happened the night i met her family. Theyre great people, i really love her and our relationship is great. Shes a wonderful woman who i want in my life but the issue is Alcohol and bars.

I absolutely despise going to bars, im not an antisocial person but the bars absolutely disgust me. To her it was a very fun night with people she loves but not to me i dont like her going to bars and drinking but shes moy crazy with it and she enjoys it with her friends but while we are there every other damn sentence involved alcohol. “Remember when you took 10 shots” “i was so drunk this one night then took and edible and it was crazy” alcohol this alcohol that etc. and i just do not want that in my life whatsoever. I had my college phase and ill drink every few months with some buddies but holy shit every other sentence even from her parents involved alcohol.

Her family goes to bars often and drinks and i really do not want any of that in my life. But i want her in my life. Do i move on and find someone more my speed or what do you recommend?

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u/CARGYMANIMEPC — 11 days ago

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a bit over half a year. The issue happened the night i met her family. Theyre great people, i really love her and our relationship is great. Shes a wonderful woman who i want in my life but the issue is Alcohol and bars.

I absolutely despise going to bars, im not an antisocial person but the bars absolutely disgust me. To her it was a very fun night with people she loves but not to me i dont like her going to bars and drinking but shes not crazy with it and she enjoys it with her friends but while we are there every other damn sentence involved alcohol. “Remember when you took 10 shots” “i was so drunk this one night then took an edible and it was crazy” alcohol this alcohol that etc. and i just do not want that in my life whatsoever. I had my college phase and ill drink every few months with some buddies but holy shit every other sentence i heard involved alcohol.

Her family goes to bars often and drinks and i really do not want any of that in my life. But i want her in my life. Do i move on and find someone more my speed or what do you recommend?

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u/CARGYMANIMEPC — 11 days ago