u/Bivagial

TW: poop

So my flatmate and I are both disabled. Both of us have an issue where we can't tell that we need the bathroom until it's _urgent_. We only have one toilet.

Today, we were both urgent at the same time. Unfortunately my flatmate was the one to have the accident. Her adult diaper saved our kitchen floor, but didn't contain the mess completely.

This is no big deal, really. Neither of us are embarrassed or judgemental. The accident itself isn't the issue.

Our issue is that she can't actually take her clothes off without assistance. Normally, I don't mind helping - we can work together to mitigate most of our difficulties.

But I react strongly to the smell and sight of poop. Like, if I try to help her, I _will_ end up vomiting on her. And then she'll vomit, and then there'll be more of a mess.

She can cut the nappy off with scissors, and put it in a bag, but can't get her pants off or put a new nappy on without help.

So far, I've basically put on a mask, held my breath, and closed my eyes. But that isn't really a good solution.

Does anyone have any tips?

It's not just the smell, but also the sight. It makes me gag with even a glimpse.

I'd really like to be able to help her if this situation happens again - and it likely will eventually. We're surprised it hasn't happened before, since we've been living together for the last two years.

Probably a good thing I never had young children. I imagine changing dirty nappies would be hell for me lol

I found some executive function. It's weird.

Yesterday, I wanted a shower so I just... showered?

I saw stuff that needed to be put away and just put it away without having to think about it.

Today I reorganized the plastics storage and under my sink _while_ making a proper meal. Including chopping potatoes!

I even _did laundry_. And was able to just get up and transfer it from the washer to the dryer.

I did get Cynthia to put the dry clothes on my bed when they were done because my back was aching and I didn't want to bend over that much. (Physically disabled).

But then I _folded and put the laundry away_.

What. The. Fuck?

Is this how normal people function?

I have _never_ functioned like this. I can't think of anything I've done differently in the last few days, except I went for a walk (recovering from being in a wheelchair.)

Did one, painful and awful walk really make that much difference?

I'm not medicated. I have AuDHD and OCD. Usually every action I take has to be thought over and planned several times in my head before I do it. I need to know every step in advance and figure out the most efficient order to do things in.

I often see things that need to be done and file it away for later. That's a "not now" job because I haven't already planned it.

But yesterday I saw a towel on the floor and just... hung it up. Where it was supposed to go. (That towel is specifically for drying the bathroom floor after a shower).

Will winz pay for compression socks and clothing, and thermal underwear?

I'm on the SLP due to disability. Part of that disability is chronic pain, and I've found that tight clothing can help a huge amount. Like, reduces my pain from a 7 to a 3. My pain also gets worse if I get cold, especially in my joints.

But being on the SLP, I have next to nothing left over after bills. I have to save up to top up my phone $20. There's no way I can afford to go shopping for enough compression/tight clothing and/or thermal clothing to be able to wear them often. I figure 3 sets of each would be my minimum (one I'm wearing, one in the wash, and one aside to change into after accidents). I would prefer 5-6 sets to reduce wear and tear.

Before bothering with dealing with winz, I thought I'd ask here to see if anyone has any thoughts. I also have a doctors appointment coming up, and can probably get him to write them a letter to say it would be beneficial.

I don't mind if I have to pay it back, but would prefer it if there was a one off grant or something so my meagre weekly money won't be eaten into any more than it already is.

Since it wouldn't be a cost that reoccurs often, I don't think the disability payments would count for it.

There are only 3 other things that I've found that helps, and they're inaccessible to me (hot bath - don't have a tub -, daily massage -cant do it myself and have nobody who can-, cannabis oil -can get a prescription but it's out of my budget).

The man sensed a large flux in the Lifestream. A sign of another, different defeat. When the Lifestream erupted onto the surface of the planet, the man thought that Cloud was no doubt certain of his victory. Cloud was the one who had twice sent the man into the Lifestream. The man knew that if one could hold onto some core of their spirit, then one could remain a separate entity, independent from the planet’s system. Cloud. The man decided to make Cloud that core. And he wanted to let Cloud know of that. I’m still thinking of you. And I’ll show you the proof of that as well.

From On the Way to a Smile.

Tldr: Sephiroth retained his sense of self within the Lifestream by using Cloud as his anchor.

I wonder if this is how he came back in time in Rebirth. Rebirth certainly showed Sephiroth's obsession with Cloud. It would make sense to me if the Lifestream didn't experience time as linear, so theoretically if Sephiroth fails again in Rebirth, he can just go back and try again over and over unless the third part finds a way to sever the anchor.

Do you guys think this will come up?