He ghosted me.
He could have simply said that he doesn’t feel it anymore.
He said he was sick and he had lots going on at work. I believed him because he is a doctor and works shifts. He literally said he can’t wait to see me again when he is healthy again. When he first went silent for a week out of nowhere (a third date was being planned) I reached out (assuming that he ghosted me) and asked him what’s wrong. If something happened. He said that he was so sick he forgot to check the app for a week. Ok, I thought, no problem. He wrote an extremely lovely text. He ended on he doesn’t know exactly when he will feel better again and when work will be lighter again. He asked what communication I would prefer moving forward. I wanted to give him space and simply said to wait until he gets better.
It‘s been two months since I‘ve heard from him.
He didn‘t unmatch.
We only went on two dates and the entire thing lasted for a month up until his last message.
I was new to online dating and dating in general. I just can‘t believe someone would be so callous while hiding behind nice words. This has really broken something in me.
It would have been ok if he had simply said he doesn’t want to move forward with this. But this … my mind keeps going in circles and he just gets away with this.
He didn’t even have to give a reason, simply be done with it. He could have given so many plausible reasons as well. His city is 1,5 hrs from mine, he is in his mid/late 40s while I‘m 30, I‘m just starting my career and he is thinking about working less. So many „friendly“ reasons he could have used, instead I‘m left wondering … I thought maybe he felt like I was too new to this, new on the apps and before that only having been in one relationship. Maybe he wanted me to date more before settling down. Maybe that’s why he took a step back.
Anyway, I feel ridiculous for being this upset. Most stories on here are much worse than this.