Last Thursday I went to a doctor who told me I might have thyroid cancer, so I needed to go through a round of screening to make sure it was just a thyroid nodule, not a tumor. Right after the appointment, I texted my girlfriend saying I was feeling anxious and asked her if she wasn't busy that evening. The only thing I wanted was to be around someone so I wouldn't cry all evening. She said she had a dance rehearsal that had been scheduled long before, then on Friday she had to run some errands, and on Saturday she had a dance competition. She said that the next day she was free was Sunday. I went to my hometown for the screening and came back on Monday. We barely even talked all this time. She didn't call, asked about my day one or two times. I don't want to answer her texts at all. Then she asked me if I was free this Thursday ( a WEEK later) to grab some coffee. I can't find a solid reason to ignore a girlfriend's potential cancer diagnosis in order to run errands and just live your life like nothing happened. We have been together for a year and a half at this point, and it was the best relationship I've ever had. The only thing I wanted from her was to get moral support. I don't understand why she would act like that. I honestly would have forgiven her if she had had rehearsals every day because it means a lot to her, but running errands??? I don't want to beg for the bare minimum, and the only logical thing I can do is to break up with her. The suspected diagnosis turned out to be false, but I'm afraid she would act like that even if I had something more serious going on. I really want to find a reason to forgive her, but right now nothing comes to mind. Should we just break up?
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Last Thursday I went to a doctor who told me I might have thyroid cancer, so I needed to go through a round of screening to make sure it was just a thyroid nodule, not a tumor. Right after the appointment, I texted my girlfriend saying I was feeling anxious and asked her if she wasn't busy that evening. The only thing I wanted was to be around someone so I wouldn't cry all evening. She said she had a dance rehearsal that had been scheduled long before, then on Friday she had to run some errands, and on Saturday she had a dance competition. She said that the next day she was free was Sunday. I went to my hometown for the screening and came back on Monday. We barely even talked all this time. She didn't call, asked about my day one or two times. I don't want to answer her texts at all. Then she asked me if I was free this Thursday ( a WEEK later) to grab some coffee. I can't find a solid reason to ignore a girlfriend's potential cancer diagnosis in order to run errands and just live your life like nothing happened. We have been together for a year and a half at this point, and it was the best relationship I've ever had. The only thing I wanted from her was to get moral support. I don't understand why she would act like that. I honestly would have forgiven her if she had had rehearsals every day because it means a lot to her, but running errands??? I don't want to beg for the bare minimum, and the only logical thing I can do is to break up with her. The suspected diagnosis turned out to be false, but I'm afraid she would act like that even if I had something more serious going on. I really want to find a reason to forgive her, but right now nothing comes to mind. Should we just break up?
Last Thursday I went to a doctor who told me I might have thyroid cancer, so I needed to go through a round of screening to make sure it was just a thyroid nodule, not a tumor. Right after the appointment, I texted my girlfriend saying I was feeling anxious and asked her if she wasn't busy that evening. The only thing I wanted was to be around someone so I wouldn't cry all evening. She said she had a dance rehearsal that had been scheduled long before, then on Friday she had to run some errands, and on Saturday she had a dance competition. She said that the next day she was free was Sunday. I went to my hometown for the screening and came back on Monday. We barely even talked all this time. She didn't call, asked about my day one or two times. I don't want to answer her texts at all. Then she asked me if I was free this Thursday ( a WEEK later) to grab some coffee. I can't find a solid reason to ignore a girlfriend's potential cancer diagnosis in order to run errands and just live your life like nothing happened. We have been together for a year and a half at this point, and it was the best relationship I've ever had. The only thing I wanted from her was to get moral support. I don't understand why she would act like that. I honestly would have forgiven her if she had had rehearsals every day because it means a lot to her, but running errands??? I don't want to beg for the bare minimum, and the only logical thing I can do is to break up with her. The suspected diagnosis turned out to be false, but I'm afraid she would act like that even if I had something more serious going on. I really want to find a reason to forgive her, but right now nothing comes to mind. Should we just break up?