u/Background_Ear_7024

Hi all, I’m just looking for honest insight and advice from ppl who might have been in a similar situation and how things have turned out for you.

I am 37, just found out I’m about six weeks pregnant. Was under the impression I might not be able to get pregnant so have been hit with a lot of feelings of excitement and also fear.

I have been dating the father for seven months. From the beginning he had said how it had always been his dream to be a dad but when it became actual reality he has really freaked out and got depressed and have said he would prefer for me to abort as he doesn’t feel like he is financially ready or at a good place in life yet. He said if I do decide to keep the baby, he plans to be a present father for the child. Throughout the time we have dated, I have not felt like he was the right partner for me. There were aspects that I liked, but ultimately I do not like the way he treats me. I feel that I shrink when I’m around him and don’t feel comfortable with him. He has been pretty neglectful thus far in this process as well and I don’t envision wanting to continue a romantic relationship with him.

But the idea of being a single mom terrifies me. I have recently pivoted careers and am working three part-time jobs that barely cover my own bills. I do have 30k in savings and some retirement accounts that I can pull from if I really need to. I am originally from Thailand so don’t really have any family support available here in the US. Thinking about having to go through the difficulties of pregnancy, child birth, and taking care of an infant on my own feels overwhelming. On the one hand I want to have a baby, on the other hand, doing it alone with little support feels almost impossible.

I’m seeking any advice from moms who have done this and made it work. Any tips on budgeting/public assistance/resources for low income moms would be greatly welcomed as well.

I am not sure if this is the right subreddit to post this so please me know if it is not. I just learned that I am six weeks pregnant and am in the throes of trying to decide what to do. I am looking for perspectives from moms who are or have been in similar situations as me and how things have turned out for you.

I am 37, first time pregnant. Me and the father have only been dating for seven months. Originally he had said he had always dreamed of being a dad and have always wanted to be a dad, but then once we learned that I was pregnant, he has been freaking out and going through depression and have said he doesn’t feel financially ready. He had expressed that he would prefer I abort but if I were to decide to keep the baby he plans to be present and involved as a dad. His family lives in NJ and his sister is also pregnant and has her due date in August. I have not met his family yet. Speaking honestly, I am unsure of whether I want to continue my relationship with him as a romantic partner but at least I know he will be a present father and will be able to provide child support.

I am originally from Thailand so don’t really have any family support here in the US. I currently live in PA. I just decided to pivot careers and am currently holding 3 different part-time jobs and can barely keep up with expenses just for myself as is. I do have $30k in savings currently plus retirement. Before becoming pregnant I had been under the impression I could not have children and so learning that I am pregnant has first made me so happy and full of joy. Yet the reality of raising a child on my own is daunting. And so am just seeking any insight from ppl who are in or have been in similar situation. And if you decided to keep the child, how you made it work. Thank you!!!

I am not sure if this is the right subreddit to post this so please me know if it is not. I just learned that I am six weeks pregnant and am in the throes of trying to decide what to do. I am looking for perspectives from moms who are or have been in similar situations as me and how things have turned out for you.

I am 37, first time pregnant. Me and the father have only been dating for seven months. Originally he had said he had always dreamed of being a dad and have always wanted to be a dad, but then once we learned that I was pregnant, he has been freaking out and going through depression and have said he doesn’t feel financially ready. He had expressed that he would prefer I abort but if I were to decide to keep the baby he plans to be present and involved as a dad. His family lives in NJ and his sister is also pregnant and has her due date in August. I have not met his family yet. Speaking honestly, I am unsure of whether I want to continue my relationship with him as a romantic partner but at least I know he will be a present father and will be able to provide child support.

I am originally from Thailand so don’t really have any family support here in the US. I currently live in PA. I just decided to pivot careers and am currently holding 3 different part-time jobs and can barely keep up with expenses just for myself as is. I do have $30k in savings currently plus retirement. Before becoming pregnant I had been under the impression I could not have children and so learning that I am pregnant has first made me so happy and full of joy. Yet the reality of raising a child on my own is daunting. And so am just seeking any insight from ppl who are in or have been in similar situation. And if you decided to keep the child, how you made it work. Thank you!!!