u/Aromatic_Garlic_7314

I only saw him once, we met at weightlifting. We're both in our 20s. He helped me with some equipment and we exchanged a few words about music taste, training and in the end he asked me for my Instagram but we never texted.

I stopped going to WL bc of illness so I never saw him again:( it's been like three months now

He's really cute, attractive and we're both queer (trans/bi) and into lifting. I thought it would be super random to just text him out of the blue BUT today is his birthday and that gives me the opportunity to slide into his DMs.

The problem is, I have social anxiety and from what I can tell from his social media, he's a pretty social person. I'm actively working on my SA but I still have some days when I'm all gloomy, scared and nervous and pretend to fit in. I'm scared to make a move:

1. if he says NO: scary, bad, feeling like I'm a looser and super awkward the next time I see him

2. if he says YES: even scarier, I have to keep up with my mood, keep my anxiety at bay when meeting, RISKING FUCKING IT ALL UP bc I'm still too socially incompetent

I don't wanna ruin a good opportunity because I'm not ready yet.

I only saw him once, we met at weightlifting. He helped me with some equipment and we exchanged a few words about music taste and in the end he asked me for my Instagram.

I stopped going to WL bc of illness so I never saw him again:( it's been like three months now

But he's really cute, attractive and we're both queer and into lifting. I thought it would be super random to just text him out of the blue BUT today is his birthday and that gives me the opportunity to talk to him.

What should I do? I don't want to seem like a creep or obsessive person.

I only saw him once, we met at weightlifting. He helped me with some equipment and we exchanged a few words about music taste and in the end he asked me for my Instagram.

I stopped going to WL bc of illness so I never saw him again:( it's been like three months now

But he's really cute, attractive and we're both queer and into lifting. I thought it would be super random to just text him out of the blue BUT today is his birthday and that gives me the opportunity to talk to him.

What should I do? I don't want to seem like a creep or obsessive person.

I'm in kind of a weird position now.

I'm gonna change my legal name very soon, in the span of next few months. I would have already done it but I live in an unsupportive household so waiting till I move out. I'm gonna keep my original name and add chosen name to it (that is very traditionally masculine). This name is 100% me, loved it for five years now. The name is very "normal".

Even tho it's gonna be on my documents soon, I still haven't told anybody in real life.

I have friends that would support me and know about my gender struggle. I have LGBTQ friends that are trans. I go to trans support group, full of trans people. I have a sweet sister that would certainly understand. But I'm still ASHAMED. I just can't bring myself to tell anyone. It's too much, I'm scared and feel horrible and just wanna run at the mere thought of actually telling them.

Wtf? How do I overcome this?