u/AppropriateBus1528

My GF and I have been dating for about 3 months, but it took us a while to actually become officially GF/BF. Before knowing we were dating, her friends would constantly make jokes about her exes and tease her about them. Their humor is really intense, and they just try to find ways to tease each other and get under each other's skin. It seems like they are all fine with it. It made me uncomfortable, but we weren't official then, so I didn't really pay too much mind. I would just stay quiet while they made those jokes.

However, even now, after they all know, they still make the same jokes about some ex she had. They were asking her about a promise ring he had given her and asked her what she had done with it, and they kept stretching out the joke. I don't really like them going into details of romantic gestures her ex did for her, but I also don't want to seem like I am an insecure or jealous buzzkill who is not letting them make jokes.

Is it worth it to confront them about this or just deal with it?

I [23M] matched with Emma [21F] on Hinge 2 months ago. Since then, we have gone on a several dates and I was introduced to her friend group and have been hanging around them since they liked our first meeting. I've even met her mom who's made jokes about wanting us to be officially BF/GF since we look so good together and that I treat her like a proper gentleman. I asked her out to dinner at a michelin star restaurant of her favorite cuisine and had planned to ask her to be my girlfriend during a waterfront walk after dinner. However, now I am considering telling her I am no longer interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with her because of things involving one of her friends who I'll call Peter. I've already done many things that would classify as BF things like helping her tour apartments, taking her home and staying over after dates, going out with her family to a concert, etc.

During this initial group hangout, Peter was pretty quiet and didn't really talk to me much aside from asking me about my salary and some other peculiar questions, but I did not think much of it. I was walking Emma (who was stumbling because she was drunk) home while grabbing her waist, Peter lived nearby so he also came, but just walked in front of us. I noticed that he avoided looking at us and told her that he wanted to ask her something when we got to her house. I dropped her off and he sort of gave me a look of I wanna talk to her privately. I honestly didn't think too much about it, and left.

A week later, I am talking to Emma and she confesses that after I left they talked and he confessed that he still had feelings for her. Apparently, he had done so before, but she turned him down and didn't talk to him for a while. But, after a few months he said he was over it and would like to try to be friends again, since she was one of his few friends. She told him that she was seeing me and that she was not interested in him in that way and never has been. He said that he won't reach out to her again because it hurts him to see her with me. She went to give him a goodbye hug and he grabbed her head and kissed her. She doesn't remember it well, but she was caught off guard and just went to her house and closed the door. He then texted her the next morning, "Do you like me or not?" and she did not open the message. She then removed him from the friend group group chat.

I assumed she had blocked him or at least cut communication with him. But, during her birthday he apparently offered her a brand new gaming PC and she accepted it despite her friends advising her not to. But, when she showed me this PC, she told me she had bought it herself because she didn't think her friends had told me it was a gift from him. I also noticed while she showed me some pictures on her phone, that she had him pinned on Imessage and they had been texting.

She described the kissing situation as traumatic, yet she is still in communication with this person and is accepting expensive B-day gifts and lying to me about it. IDK if I should ask her why did she feel the need to lie. I definitely would not feel like I can ask her to be my GF after this situation, but I would feel awful canceling that date, since she's told me it's the only thing she's been looking forward to this week since she had to work several 10-hour shifts as a nurse and felt like trash.

TLDR; I feel like I just want to cut things off completely because the whole situation makes me feel like I'm playing second fiddle to her long time friend.

We have gone on several dates over the last 2 months. I asked her if she would be interested in becoming BF/GF, and she really liked me and the way I treat he, but asked me if I was sure it was worth the risk of ruining our friend group since they have no idea we've been going out without telling them. Since then, we've still gone out and been texting/calling regularly. Until this weekend, when she told me she was on her period and rainchecked the dates we planned for this week, and said she just wanted to stay in bed and sleep after work. Our other friends have told me she also has not reached out to any of them over the last week.

I did not want to bother her while she was not feeling well, so I also did not reach out much and gave her space, but I don't know if that is what she needs. I don't want to make it seem like I am not interested or like I would not be there if she is not feeling well. So, idk how best to move forward?

I [23M] have been seeing this Emma 21F for about 2 months, sometimes alone, sometimes as a group. I talked to her about how I liked her and wanted to pursue a romantic relationship with her. She said she liked me as well, but she didn't know if it was worth the risk of causing problems in the friend group since previous relationships within the group had caused issues. I told her I think it would be worth the risk, and she smiled, and we agreed that she would let me know later.

Since then, a bit over a week has passed, and I joined her to search for apartments (for herself), and I helped her find apartments and set up viewings. So, this Sunday, we woke up early and went to view several apartments for her. Whenever we sat down to take the train, she would put her legs towards me, and I had to lift my leg a bit, and she would put her legs under mine. She would also put her elbows on my knees while telling stories. While crossing the street, I would occasionally put my arm around her waist, and she would smirk.

I know those are good signs, but I don't want to be overly flirty before she has given me a concrete answer. I don't know if I should bring it up again. A few things that have made me question things are that she often diverts eye contact when we talk, and I. There have been times when the tension is strong, and I feel like I would go in for a kiss while we are looking at each other, but she would look away, and I would back off. IDK if I'm just overthinking because I really like her and don't want to ruin it, but I know not being assertive can be an issue.

(Another reason why I have been a bit reserved is that she told me about how a previous friend randomly kissed her on a day she was drunk without her permission, and she had made it very clear that they were just friends and never felt anything for him. So, I am erring on the side of caution to avoid making her uncomfortable.)

TLDR; Girl, I am seeing told me she would let me know if she would be open to pursuing a romantic relationship with me, but IDK if I should halt romantic body language till then.

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