My dad has a face-to-face PIP review tomorrow in Northern Ireland. He’s 65 with COPD and arthritis, and my mum is going with him as his carer.
He’s very anxious about it and I was wondering if anyone has had a recent PIP review and could share what the assessment was like and what kinds of questions they asked.
Any advice would really help. Thanks.
My dad has a face-to-face PIP review tomorrow in Northern Ireland. He’s 65, has COPD and arthritis, and my mum is going with him as his carer. He also has a pacemaker for AFib, although the main issues affecting him day to day are the COPD and arthritis.
He genuinely struggles with chronic pain, breathlessness, walking distances, stiffness, and day-to-day tasks depending on the day. The whole process is also making him very anxious because he’s had bad experiences with the Jobs & Benefits office in the past.
I was wondering if anyone here has been through a recent PIP review and could share:
He’s worried about saying the wrong thing or minimising his difficulties, so we’re just looking for honest experiences/advice so he’s prepared. Thanks.
Does anyone have any strategies for overcoming social anxiety and introversion? I have had this for about 22 years now and am currently on a waiting list (2 years now) for CBT, although I don't expect 12 weeks of it would realistically undo the habit of a lifetime (I was also a bit of a loner in primary school too). I wish I'd have gotten help with it when I was a teenager because there would have been less chance of it becoming as chronic.
I'm in my mid-30s now and I see the grey hairs coming in slowly, and it's a reminder of how much I have missed out on when I was younger. I never had a normal adolescence or 20s. I look back on the person I used to be when I was a young man and feel sorry for him, though for some reason it's harder to do that for your current self.
All the people I could have been friends with, all the people I could have been introduced to, all the women I could have dated, and all the places I could have visited with my people by my side instead of just my shadow if I'd not have been like this.
I am trying to turn this loss around by reminding myself what that young kid didn't get to have, and am trying to turn it into self-compassion and self-love for my current self, so that it at least wasn't a complete waste.
I know it might sound like I'm trying to make myself into a martyr, but I hope I get to see my nephews and nieces do well in life, and find some peace in that — like life still gave me something good to witness, even if I missed out on much of my own. I hope when I pull the blinds I see them call up to see their uncle in their fancy motor with their GF or friends in the car, and then get to hear them tell me how much money they're making in their jobs, putting down money for a mortgage and building a life for themselves that isn't like the one I have now. See I like to sit around and sigh sometimes and whisper 'I am so screwed.' I know a CBT would consider this all or nothing thinking, and maybe it is a touch, but objectively my prospects in life aren't great.
I was trying to build a life for myself in my early 20s, but it was one of those things — my heart was in the right place, I was just too naive. I worked so hard and am so thankful a regular customer who would watch me work once pointed over the counter at me and said 'see you, ..you deserve the most amount of respect.' I don't think many 20-somethings could work like that everyday, so I am proud of the heart I had, just wish I'd of had the wisdom too. Kind of the cruel thing about life and getting older, eh? Maybe that's partly why they say youth is wasted on the young. So glad he said that though because it's like a little uplift even years later after it was said.
So I just checked and this is getting a bit too much like a rant now (sorry, I'm a slabber).
Does anyone have any strategies for overcoming social anxiety and introversion? I have had this for about 22 years now and am currently on a waiting list (2 years now) for CBT, although I don't expect 12 weeks of it would realistically undo the habit of a lifetime (I was also a bit of a loner in primary school too). I wish I'd have gotten help with it when I was a teenager because there would have been less chance of it becoming as chronic.
I'm in my mid-30s now and I see the grey hairs coming in slowly, and it's a reminder of how much I have missed out on when I was younger. I never had a normal adolescence or 20s. I look back on the person I used to be when I was a young man and feel sorry for him, though for some reason it's harder to do that for your current self.
All the people I could have been friends with, all the people I could have been introduced to, all the women I could have dated, and all the places I could have visited with my people by my side instead of just my shadow if I'd not have been like this.
I am trying to turn this loss around by reminding myself what that young kid didn't get to have, and am trying to turn it into self-compassion and self-love for my current self, so that it at least wasn't a complete waste.
I know it might sound like I'm trying to make myself into a martyr, but I hope I get to see my nephews and nieces do well in life, and find some peace in that — like life still gave me something good to witness, even if I missed out on much of my own. I hope when I pull the blinds I see them call up to see their uncle in their fancy motor with their GF or friends in the car, and then get to hear them tell me how much money they're making in their jobs, putting down money for a mortgage and building a life for themselves that isn't like the one I have now. See I like to sit around and sigh sometimes and whisper 'I am so screwed.' I know a CBT would consider this all or nothing thinking, and maybe it is a touch, but objectively my prospects in life aren't great.
I was trying to build a life for myself in my early 20s, but it was one of those things — my heart was in the right place, I was just too naive. I worked so hard and am so thankful a regular customer who would watch me work once pointed over the counter at me and said 'see you, ..you deserve the most amount of respect.' I don't think many 20-somethings could work like that everyday, so I am proud of the heart I had, just wish I'd of had the wisdom too. Kind of the cruel thing about life and getting older, eh? Maybe that's partly why they say youth is wasted on the young. So glad he said that though because it's like a little uplift even years later after it was said.
So I just checked and this is getting a bit too much like a rant now (sorry, I'm a slabber).
Does anyone have any strategies for overcoming social anxiety and introversion? I have had this for about 22 years now and am currently on a waiting list (2 years now) for CBT, although I don't expect 12 weeks of it would realistically undo the habit of a lifetime (I was also a bit of a loner in primary school too). I wish I'd have gotten help with it when I was a teenager because there would have been less chance of it becoming as chronic.
I'm in my mid-30s now and I see the grey hairs coming in slowly, and it's a reminder of how much I have missed out on when I was younger. I never had a normal adolescence or 20s. I look back on the person I used to be when I was a young man and feel sorry for him, though for some reason it's harder to do that for your current self.
All the people I could have been friends with, all the people I could have been introduced to, all the women I could have dated, and all the places I could have visited with my people by my side instead of just my shadow if I'd not have been like this.
I am trying to turn this loss around by reminding myself what that young kid didn't get to have, and am trying to turn it into self-compassion and self-love for my current self, so that it at least wasn't a complete waste.
I know it might sound like I'm trying to make myself into a martyr, but I hope I get to see my nephews and nieces do well in life, and find some peace in that — like life still gave me something good to witness, even if I missed out on much of my own. I hope when I pull the blinds I see them call up to see their uncle in their fancy motor with their GF or friends in the car, and then get to hear them tell me how much money they're making in their jobs, putting down money for a mortgage and building a life for themselves that isn't like the one I have now. See I like to sit around and sigh sometimes and whisper 'I am so screwed.' I know a CBT would consider this all or nothing thinking, and maybe it is a touch, but objectively my prospects in life aren't great.
I was trying to build a life for myself in my early 20s, but it was one of those things — my heart was in the right place, I was just too naive. I worked so hard and am so thankful a regular customer who would watch me work once pointed over the counter at me and said 'see you, ..you deserve the most amount of respect.' I don't think many 20-somethings could work like that everyday, so I am proud of the heart I had, just wish I'd of had the wisdom too. Kind of the cruel thing about life and getting older, eh? Maybe that's partly why they say youth is wasted on the young. So glad he said that though because it's like a little uplift even years later after it was said.
So I just checked and this is getting a bit too much like a rant now (sorry, I'm a slabber).
Does anyone have any strategies for overcoming social anxiety and introversion? I have had this for about 22 years now and am currently on a waiting list (2 years now) for CBT, although I don't expect 12 weeks of it would realistically undo the habit of a lifetime (I was also a bit of a loner in primary school too). I wish I'd have gotten help with it when I was a teenager because there would have been less chance of it becoming as chronic.
I'm in my mid-30s now and I see the grey hairs coming in slowly, and it's a reminder of how much I have missed out on when I was younger. I never had a normal adolescence or 20s. I look back on the person I used to be when I was a young man and feel sorry for him, though for some reason it's harder to do that for your current self.
All the people I could have been friends with, all the people I could have been introduced to, all the women I could have dated, and all the places I could have visited with my people by my side instead of just my shadow if I'd not have been like this.
I am trying to turn this loss around by reminding myself what that young kid didn't get to have, and am trying to turn it into self-compassion and self-love for my current self, so that it at least wasn't a complete waste.
I know it might sound like I'm trying to make myself into a martyr, but I hope I get to see my nephews and nieces do well in life, and find some peace in that — like life still gave me something good to witness, even if I missed out on much of my own. I hope when I pull the blinds I see them call up to see their uncle in their fancy motor with their GF or friends in the car, and then get to hear them tell me how much money they're making in their jobs, putting down money for a mortgage and building a life for themselves that isn't like the one I have now. See I like to sit around and sigh sometimes and whisper 'I am so screwed.' I know a CBT would consider this all or nothing thinking, and maybe it is a touch, but objectively my prospects in life aren't great.
I was trying to build a life for myself in my early 20s, but it was one of those things — my heart was in the right place, I was just too naive. I worked so hard and am so thankful a regular customer who would watch me work once pointed over the counter at me and said 'see you, ..you deserve the most amount of respect.' I don't think many 20-somethings could work like that everyday, so I am proud of the heart I had, just wish I'd of had the wisdom too. Kind of the cruel thing about life and getting older, eh? Maybe that's partly why they say youth is wasted on the young. So glad he said that though because it's like a little uplift even years later after it was said.
So I just checked and this is getting a bit too much like a rant now (sorry, I'm a slabber).