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I'm 22 year old female and I’m autistic and I’m trying to figure out whether what happened to me was sexual coercion or if I’m overthinking it.

This happened with a guy from a social club who knows I’m autistic.

Things became sexual and I felt hesitant. I told him maybe not, but he kept asking. At one point he brought up my autism and said that was probably why I was being hesitant.

We eventually did it but it didn’t feel like I actually wanted to. It felt more like I did it because he kept asking and it felt easier and less awkward than continuing to resist or explain myself.

I’ve had consensual sex before with a boyfriend, and this felt completely different. Looking back, I feel like I didn’t really know how to stop it or how to handle the pressure in the moment.

I’m just trying to understand whether this sounds like coercion, and whether my discomfort about it makes sense.

I’m 22 year old female and I’m autistic and I’m trying to figure out whether what happened to me was sexual coercion or if I’m overthinking it.

This happened with a guy from a social club who knows I’m autistic.

Things became sexual and I felt hesitant. I told him maybe not, but he kept asking. At one point he brought up my autism and said that was probably why I was being hesitant.

We eventually did it but it didn’t feel like I actually wanted to. It felt more like I did it because he kept asking and it felt easier and less awkward than continuing to resist or explain myself.

I’ve had consensual sex before with a boyfriend, and this felt completely different. Looking back, I feel like I didn’t really know how to stop it or how to handle the pressure in the moment.

What’s making this hard is that being autistic can make it difficult for me to process social situations and pressure clearly so I keep questioning whether I’m reading too much into it.

I’m just trying to understand whether this sounds like coercion, and whether my discomfort about it makes sense.

I’m 19F and I recently left my restaurant job because of my manager’s behavior and I’m struggling to process everything that happened.

For months my manager was making me uncomfortable with inappropriate comments, getting too close to me at work and sending me messages that crossed boundaries. I felt intimidated and I kept hoping if I ignored it it would stop.

Part of why I took it so badly is because I was abused when I was younger and his behavior was extremely triggering for me.

It brought back a lot of feelings I thought I had buried. Instead of dealing with it directly I shut down and tried to pretend it wasn’t happening.

I didn’t tell my boyfriend I couldn’t even fully process it myself let alone explain it to someone else. Then he saw some of the messages my manager had sent me and assumed I was cheating.

Because I had kept it from him he felt betrayed and didn’t believe me when I tried to explain. It caused arguments we couldn’t come back from and our relationship ended.

Now I’m left feeling devastated and angry that someone else’s inappropriate behavior triggered so much for me and spiraled into losing my relationship.

I keep replaying everything and wondering if things would be different but I also know my past trauma made it incredibly hard for me to respond clearly in the moment.

I’m 19F and recently left my restaurant job because of my manager’s behavior toward me.

For months he kept making me uncomfortable with comments and physical contact that felt inappropriate. It started with things that were easy to second guess standing way too close, touching my lower back when walking past, lingering touches on my shoulders and finding reasons to brush against me.

Then it got worse. He started making comments that felt creepy and personal, and there were times he touched me in ways that made my stomach drop.

I kept telling myself I was overreacting or imagining it because everyone else seemed to act like he was normal. But I got to the point where I dreaded going into work and felt anxious every shift.

I ended up changing jobs because I couldn’t deal with it anymore.