u/Ancient_Pot_8482

She’s still put off by how I lost my virginity at 29 and said it’s best if I stop asking women (all women) out because of how late I started.

Today, I said that I believed the fact I dated a woman and had sex with her for a whole year qualified me for “experience”. But she still said this wasn’t enough and wondered why. I even bothered trying. She said she wants a guy who’s at least been active for a decade.

I dated a cheating woman for a year before I met this new woman, though I only stayed as a way to learn how to f_ck. Nothing more, I intended on leaving the cheater from the moment I learned what she was doing.

I can almost guarantee she’ll tell other people now to keep her “girlie friends” away from me.

Original post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/1t0a7xj/tifu_by_thinking_i_had_enough_sexual_experience/

TLDR; lost virginity at 29, lost a good woman because of it

I am 32 now and I will explain this with a timeline.

29 - I lose my virginity super late at that age, and it’s to a bad woman (Leah) who used me as an ATM and cheated on me

30 - I stay with Leah whilst planning to leave her, to be more experienced in the bedroom so I can use it for someone better

31 - Repeat what I did at 30, but leave Leah because she never changed

32 - Find Lauren, my new girlfriend. Lauren now got told by a mutual friend about how I “used” Leah even though Leah was the one using me.

Im trying to explain that I did this for Lauren, I’m fairly sure I can please her in the bedroom. But she still thinks I was manipulative and exploitative. I wanted skills to please a GOOD woman, I did this for her. She’s not buying it. Makes me wonder if I’m TA after all.

last time I posted something similar, but got only bullshit answers (like “become an 8-figure earner and women will look past that”).

I am a virgin at 29? Why? My sex drive died for 7 years (20-27). So, my lack of experience is hopefully understandable. You really can’t gain experience if your drive is that dead. Usually these posts have people saying that a man should’ve gotten experience when younger, but… I COULDN’T, I HAD NO USE OF MY SEX DRIVE.

I don’t plan on telling women this anymore, it always ends badly, even though I wait until the car ride home for our first time to do so. What to say instead? And what type of women should I go for?

I am a male virgin at 29. I don’t expect my first gf to be my last even if we marry (few are). So I feel I may as well date for experience.

How long till I catch up to most men in terms of skill?

ETA: Let’s just say you can’t screw anyone if your dick don’t work for 7 years (inb4 “but whyyy at 29?”)

She was physically attracted to me, so there’s that.

I am now 31, but I didn’t lose my virginity until 29. The woman I lost it to was a cheater, and when I learned this, I chose to stay with her for a year just to gain sexual experience for the next woman who doesn’t cheat. Like a career path in a way. But I wasnt gonna just put up with being cheated on forever. I ditched her on April 4 of this year.

I‘ve been talking to a new girl ever since and she asked about my past. I just said I lost my virginity to the woman I was with, then I left her when I learned she wasn’t a good person. I DID NOT SAY I USED MY EX FOR EXPERIENCE AFTER SHE STARTED CHEATING, I WON’T EVER TELL A WOMAN I DID THIS. She was still put off by how late I got started so I guess I should’ve known better. And that’s how I f’d up.

TLDR; I got cheats on and stayed for experience and TIFU by realizing I should’ve stayed longer.

I am a male virgin at 29. I don’t expect my first gf to be my last even if we marry (few are). So I feel I may as well date for experience.

How long till I catch up to most men in terms of skill?

My goal couldn’t be easier to understand: learn to fuck so that this way, I won’t be an inexperienced loser for my first woman.

Yes I know most escorts are there to please their John, and I’ll avoid those. I don’t know how I‘m going to do it, but I’ll find someone who will actually teach me through the hard work of learning, instead of just taking my money and getting me to cum.

  

When to stop doing this and start looking for a real woman?

I’ve not noticed checkouts from women, but I’ve never seen myself get treated like shit by bitchy women the way some men do (ex: walking past two guys and just going ”ew”).

I am intimidating so maybe that’s the only reason they don’t go “ew” is because they’re too scared of me.

So, how tf am I supposed to know?