u/Altruistic_Froyo_174

My BCA will complete this month. I had a dream of going to an IIT but couldn't. That pushed me into a really bad mental state. I got in the worst possible college for BCA. Now my final sem exams are over, I want to give gate. Till last year there wasn't the option of BCA honours and i didn't know we can give gate after that, so didn't prepare. I was only planning on MCA till the last moment. What i want to ask is, should i do MCA from a tier 3 college, or extend my BCA for one year to an honours, to give gate exam?

I'm aiming for a Rank>100 so i can get in IIT Bombay. Need some advice. And before you say it's impossible, please don't. I need to make it. Have no other option but to study and I'm not having any jobs this year either. Plus, my college has zero. Zero placements.

I resent the kids who had the opportunities and exposure at 15. They had parents who knew what should be done, they engineered their lives around it. And some people who got in were super rich. I resent not being able to get in. So im just looking for some consolation.

No one in my near or whole family knew about it, when i was in 8th grade, the greatest achievement here is to become a Ca, doctor, engineer. And when i was a kid, these were my dreams too. My family was kinda toxic and i could never do any ECs as they always said just study. And we weren't super rich so i couldn't do those private elite things, or play sports at a great level or anything like that. Now that I'm 21, i feel so sad and behind. And i hate myself that i can never get in those tier 1 colleges. Ivy is just not something i should even dream of, but even tier 2 colleges are out of my hand.

I see people who were poor, immigrants, lost a parent, had a lot of difficulties getting in, and here i am, failing at life. I should have been better.

Can anyone please give me some realistic scenario? please tell me it's not my fault?

(And please do not tell me that i can't handle rejection, or it's that i should have given value, that's not what I'm asking. I'm asking, the people who get in, what are the realistic factors that lead them there?)

I didn't give Nimcet as i can't take a 3 year MCA, and i didn't give mah cet or cuet. Had some issues back then so missed the forms. Now I'm thinking i should just take some private college.

My long term plan is to do an MBA or MS abroad anyway, or do an MTECH. Or maybe i should just pivot and change into Law or finance. I'm really confused. I'm just not in a great state of mind so i can't decide it right now. I'm treating this as a bridge as i can't afford to take any gap years, and can't find a job with my current skills.

Can anyone share their experiences or any advice?

I'm 21f. Did BCA from a tier 69 college. Have a gap year after 12th. I didn't give any entrance exams for MCA as i was not sure. So i don't know what to do this year. I don't want to have a gap year anymore but i don't want to join another mediocre college.
Willing to work 16 hours a day to change my life now, but just don't know what to do. I've been looking everywhere for advice on what to do. But i can't find it. Can anyone help me with some advice here?

Myquals - 9/7/8 profile.

I'm graduating BCA this month from a tier 69 college. Had a gap year after 12th due to trying ca from family pressure. Those 3 years after 10th messed with my mental health badly and i started failing at my own life. And i was in an extremely bad college, just kept surviving. Couldn't do anything. There was no exposure, no opportunities. Nothing to do. I know i should've done it on my own but couldn't due to my depression. Learnt no skills in CSE. Now i need to figure out what to do with this. I don't know if i want to do CS or not, but the thing is, i could never give it a fair chance due to all these things happening. I want to make an academic comeback, and i know I'm behind already, so willing to work 16 hours a day to catch up.

I'm confused between choosing an MCA, to be eligible and prepare for gate to aim for IITs MTECH. Or i have the option to switch and go to do an LLB from some NLUs, think some of them have an option to give the entrance for LLB after grad. I'll search that too. Or i have the option to quit after BCA rn, get a small job, prepare for cat and get in IIM by aiming for 99+ percentile, though those are not guaranteed so i don't know what to do about that.

I have no option but to study, so I'm willing to do whatever it takes. And i have the freedom to study for next few years. Need advice.

Myquals- 90 in 10th, 75 in 12th, grad 8 cgpa im guessing.

Need advice. 21f. BCA.

I had a gap year after 12th, as i was preparing for ca foundation. Couldn't clear it , had no interest and did it out of family pressure. All those 3 years in family pressure, choosing commerce, they ruined my mental health. Then i chose BCA at a tier 69 college in my hometown. This was a really bad college. This ruined me further. Now, i have no interest in computer science. And i don't know what to do. I've lost all image as a student. Everyone is disappointed in me, I'm disappointed too. I really want to study further, but i have no idea where to go on from here.

I couldn't do anything in these years as i was constantly surviving, bad mental health and trying not to just kill myself. So i don't have any justification for this.

I don't know if an MCA is even a good thing for me or not. I just feel that maybe i would have liked computer science if i gave it a fair chance, but I'm not even sure about it either. So I'm just feeling like i should transfer to a creative career, or theory based ones. I'm not sure about Law, humanities, as they don't have such good trajectory unless you've been a stellar grades 1 student and that. And i lost that privilege.

I did digital marketing, so maybe if i try hard i can get a small job in that. But it's not prestigious and there's not much growth in here.

My long term plan was to do an MBA from IIMs, or go abroad for masters. But that seems impossible this year, as i couldn't use those college years to do anything or build profile at all.

Now my options are to either take an MCA here in a low tier college again, build myself at home. Or take a drop year again, which i really don't want. Or i can wait this year and try to get in some creative degrees which I'm not sure what the scope is for me.

I'm feeling extremely behind, and i have no idea what to do. Someone please give me some advice.

I had a gap year after 12th, as i was preparing for ca foundation. Couldn't clear it , had no interest and did it out of family pressure. All those 3 years in family pressure, choosing commerce, they ruined my mental health. Then i chose BCA at a tier 69 college in my hometown. This was a really bad college. This ruined me further. Now, i have no interest in computer science. And i don't know what to do. I've lost all image as a student. Everyone is disappointed in me, I'm disappointed too. I really want to study further, but i have no idea where to go on from here.

I couldn't do anything in these years as i was constantly surviving, bad mental health and trying not to just kill myself. So i don't have any justification for this.

I don't know if an MCA is even a good thing for me or not. I just feel that maybe i would have liked computer science if i gave it a fair chance, but I'm not even sure about it either. So I'm just feeling like i should transfer to a creative career, or theory based ones. I'm not sure about Law, humanities, as they don't have such good trajectory unless you've been a stellar grades 1 student and that. And i lost that privilege.

I did digital marketing, so maybe if i try hard i can get a small job in that. But it's not prestigious and there's not much growth in here.

My long term plan was to do an MBA from IIMs, or go abroad for masters. But that seems impossible this year, as i couldn't use those college years to do anything or build profile at all.

Now my options are to either take an MCA here in a low tier college again, build myself at home. Or take a drop year again, which i really don't want. Or i can wait this year and try to get in some creative degrees which I'm not sure what the scope is for me.

I'm feeling extremely behind, and i have no idea what to do. Someone please give me some advice.

I have a gap year after 12th, in that year tried for ca, couldn't do it then dropped after one year. 90 in class 10th, grades dropped to 75 in 12th as there was covid and i was forced into a stream i didn't want, and mental health got messed up. I'll graduate BCA this month with an 8 i guess, but I'm not sure about computer science. I don't even think i want to do coding as a job. But I'm not sure, as i didn't really try it at even 80 percent so i don't know if i should give another try and go for an MCA. I'm confused between switching to law, mca or MBA. I really want to do an MBA from IIM but i don't know if the top 5 ones will even take me even if i get 99+ in cat. I genuinely want to work hard now and give it my all to change my trajectory. Can someone please give me advice?

Myquals: BCA grad.

I'm from a tier 3 college in rajasthan, done BCA this year. 90 in class 10th, 75 in 12th, 8 in graduation. I've got some volunteering experiences, no work ex. Should i even dream of getting in these IIMs if i get a rank in cat?

Ps- i know my trajectory has been extremely down. I was dealing with extreme mental health issues. I genuinely want to change my life now. I'd really appreciate any advice i can get.

I'm about to graduate in BCA soon, 21f. I'm so lost in life, i don't know what to do. I was fascinated with engineering and tech and wanted to get in IITs and chased big names. But got nowhere in life. Then that destroyed me mentally and i couldn't study at all. Now my brain is just at its lowest.

I now realise my brain was always best meant for humanities, social sciences, arts. Why didn't i chose it, i don't know. I feel like i would have reached somewhere better in life if i just gone that path.

Can anyone give me genuine advice what is the scope of this in India? I didn't get into a top college for arts, so obviously it's not possible now. And doing an MA is how much better of an option, i don't know.

What do people actually do who genuinely loved humanities. What are you doing now?

Myquals: BCA grad

I want some guidance. Or maybe the problem is i can't get over it.

I'm 21f. About to complete BCA in a month. When i was a kid, my dream was to go to an IIT, Or a top college. I was always a topper, but then things happened and i was forced to take some other streams and give CA. I lost all motivation. That was the start of my misery, and everything went downhill after that. So i gave the exam and failed, and then left it after wasting one year. Mental health got totally ruined, always thought about ending myself. Then my family was in problems and i was always in a toxic environment. So my studies didn't have any chance.

I have no friends, no emotional support from anyone. Living at home with parents with no income. I want to study, build myself up and build my own business, and start posting content and filmmaking and cinematography as i love films.

I've always been fascinated with the idea of getting in Ivy leagues or atleast a top 100 college. I understand that people who genuinely worked hard deserve to get in and they are the ones who should get in. But i also know that i did not come from the same privilege, and where they start with a kickstart, i had to push through from a negative start line. Now, i genuinely want to take my chance now and re-start my life.

What i want to know is, is there any chance for me to get in such places? For master's degrees or even diplomas or any programs? I'm willing to give it 5 years if i have to. But i just want to achieve it, and fulfill what i lost. Can anyone be willing to offer some advice?

my_qualifications: 10th-90%, 12th-75%, graduation - 8.

I'm 21f. About to complete BCA in a month. When i was a kid, my dream was to go to an IIT, Or a top college. I was always a topper, but then things happened and i was forced to take some other streams and give CA. I lost all motivation. That was the start of my misery, and everything went downhill after that. So i gave the exam and failed, and then left it after wasting one year. Mental health got totally ruined, always thought about ending myself. Then my family was in problems and i was always in a toxic environment. So my studies didn't have any chance.

I've always been fascinated with the idea of getting in Ivy leagues or atleast a top 100 college. I understand that people who genuinely worked hard deserve to get in and they are the ones who should get in. But i also know that i did not come from the same privilege, and where they start with a kickstart, i had to push through from a negative start line. Now, i genuinely want to take my chance now and re-start my life. What i want to know is, is there any chance for me to get in such places? For master's degrees or even diplomas or any programs? I'm willing to give it 5 years if i have to. But i just want to achieve it, and fulfill what i lost. Can anyone be willing to offer some advice?

my_qualifications: 10th-90%, 12th-75%, graduation - 8.