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To future college applicants, PLEASE do not fall into the essay trap

Random throwaway account but I need to get my message across somehow.

I’m a senior deciding between two very good schools. I won’t say the names because honestly it’s a pretty distinct combination lol (completely different vibes between both schools). But for context both of these schools are very reputable and have very low acceptance rates for the programs I applied for

I’m grateful that these 2 schools are my options, so trust me I’m not really salty about anything. However, like I said these are 2 very different schools w 2 very different types of applicants. I was kinda surprised I got admitted to both of these schools but not any of my other thousand reach schools.

And yeah, obviously there’s many factors to this. Also I’m lucky to have even had 2 acceptances from my reach list. But why these two in particular? It was weird to me until I realized that there was a commonality. I had rushed the essays for these schools a lot.

My college app process suffered thru lots of procrastination, so a few of the schools I applied to had rushed essays (not cus I didn’t like those schools, I was just doing things in a random order). But most of them took me quite a bit of time. These 2 schools just happened to be exceptions.

I showed these essays to very few people, and I didn’t listen to a lot of the advice given because I just didn’t have the time to.

But honestly, now that I’m looking back at these essay docs on my Google Drive with a fresh set of eyes and an adequate amount of sleep, I realize just how much better these essays were.

Conventional college advice treats supps like a checklist. It makes sense. These supps have long, prompts that somehow sandwich 5 questions into one. I don’t entirely disagree that you should try to answer everything. But this advice is taken to the extreme very often, to the point where influencers, private coaches, and AI models alike will convince you that your answers must follow an exact formula to even be considered. It seems as if each essay must be precisely engineered for maximum clarity to answer the AO’s questions, specially-designed to grill the brains of adolescents across the country.

I had followed this advice for most of the schools on my list. But for these two schools, I just wrote whatever came to mind (I was in panic mode, and I figured it’d be better to submit something than nothing). Now that I look back, these were really the only essays of mine that sounded human.

I nerded out way too much on these essays. I talked more about myself than about the school, even if the prompt asked for why I wanted to go to the school in the first place. But I could look back on these essays and really recognize that I was the one who wrote them.

I don’t write this to encourage people to rush essays without any research, or to ignore any and all advice. I just ask that people be a bit more conservative when listening to external advice on supps. If you follow conventional wisdom, you follow what a lot of other people are doing. Ironically, by trying to stand out even more, you blend in more.

You won’t be accepted into a college because you scrolled their club Insta pages, or stalked a random faculty member. You’ll be accepted for being you, as an individual. So instead of trying to hit every checkbox point, just write from the heart and mind. Even in your “why us” essays, don’t make a case for this college for you—make the case for yourself at this college. It’s ultimately all about you as a person. So don’t be self-important, don’t talk about other stuff, and don’t try to show off.

I’m reminded of the Ship of Theseus. If all the parts of the ship are replaced, is it really still the same ship? At the same time, if all your iterative essay refinements keep replacing parts of your writing, is any of it really yours? So, if you’re applying, don’t go crazy over essays! They are 100% important, but they’re not some kind of quantitative metric that you can optimize for. In fact, you shouldn’t optimize for them

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u/Key_Stranger6427 — 9 hours ago

Why are people so miserable

there was someone sharing their college acceptances and how excited they were and ppl were just in the comments criticizing them and saying how they won’t fit in at the school and basically insinuating that they were too unintelligent. Mind u, they weren’t a legacy or anything.

College admissions culture has become so toxic and demeaning. Why are you tearing down a teenager for a decision THEY didn’t even make? It’s most likely out of jealousy but that is still no excuse. They got it. Get over it. Stop being miserable and telling them they didn’t deserve it just bc they got in. They worked hard and they deserve it just as much as anyone else

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u/ejstudent25 — 40 minutes ago

Everyone's a published researcher now

current junior. I work wetlab at a university hospital in genetics. I do basic biotech practices in lab (PCR, Plasmid Isolation, etc) and I did gentics bioinformatics work my freshmen year. I can't even imagine publishing anything in my current state with my education despite being at a heavy STEM research high school school (its not common for kids to publish papers in my school either). Lately every peer of mine has a computational neuroscience, buzzword, buzzword, research paper with an award at some symposium buzzword buzzword. Is everyone just publishing with polygence or am I out of the loop how are you guys doing ts. I feel like my application won't get me anywhere now 😭

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u/Cautious_Raisin8966 — 31 minutes ago
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Anyone else gotten into HYPSM yet?

Has anyone else gotten into Harris-Stowe, Youngstown State, Pittsburg State, Southern University at New Orleans or Missisippi Valley State yet?

I mean of course they are highly selective so I don't expect anyone to

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u/Extension_Day2038 — 8 hours ago

im petty and i don't know what to feel about it

context: got in ucla, uc berkeley and upenn.

unfortunately i can't go this fall (im really sad abt it) bcs of personal reasons. I have this classmate of mine's who got in uc b and ucla, waitlisted at cornell + penn, and she feels like it's not enough for her. she wants to go ivy, and keeps shatting on uc b. now that she's heard of me being unable to go, she's vying for my spot.

it's not even the first time she took the same things as me. when i wanted cornell, she suddenly made it her dream school. once i got in penn, she wanted penn.

to put salt in the wound, she doesn't play fair. she lied about 80% of her CA, used an expensive af counselor to make up her essays and write it for her. she also once broke in a teacher's class to steal documents, got suspended, but the school wrote her off. because of that, i was planning to not withdraw my penn acceptance until the very last day.

but when i was looking at the posts here, i thought about my withdrawal actually making a GENUINE candidate have their deserved spot. so now, i'm a bit conflicted.

just wanted to get this off my chest lol

EDIT: even if i defer, unfortunately i can't go there still :(

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u/SignificantJunket103 — 1 hour ago

stanford vs georgia tech

is stanford worth 150k more than in debt than georgia tech?

I would be majoring in ee/cs and trying to either go for big tech job or maybe even quant, i would need to sell out for the bag.

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u/Simple_Pride5529 — 1 hour ago
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choosing rice over stanford

hey all, i'm in a dilemna and really want some advice. i was admitted to both rice and stanford along with many other schools in the t20 range -- stanford was the only t5 i was admitted to. i was so, so grateful on the day i received my acceptance and was so excited. but upon further inspection, the startup culture and entreupreneurship and overall silicon valley pressure seem so stressful to me. i really really love rice -- yale used to be my dream school because of the residential college system (i got rejected from yale) -- and rice is honestly very similar to yale in culture and vibes. i visited the rice campus and just felt so so at home. i really really wanna go to rice.

would it be a mistake for me to pick rice over stanford? i'm from socal if that makes any difference.

Edit: Most likely going to commit to Stanford. Thanks for all the help!

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u/Competitive-Film7762 — 12 hours ago

Why T20?

Why is the arbitrary set of the top schools at 20? Is there a certain reason 20 is the go to number for the top blank number of schools in the US? I was admittedly uneducated about colleges and rankings up until I got into my first good school, when then I started doing actual research and learned so much including the helpfulness of the subreddit. But I’m still curious about why does everyone talk about a school being t20 and not like t10 or t30, why 20?

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u/The_REDDITOR1324 — 13 hours ago

what’s one thing you regret doing/not doing in high school?

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if you could go back, what is the one thing (or many things) you would change about your high school life, your application, etc? what are YOUR biggest regrets?

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u/academicss_anonymous — 11 hours ago

Should I write LOCIs or be grateful for my options and keep it moving?

Basically the title. I was admitted to Columbia and Duke and waitlisted from Williams, UPenn, JHU and Pomona for CS and polisci. Are any of the schools better for my majors, that i should choose them over Columbia or Duke? i'm kinda tired to write individual letters for each school, but i'm scared i'll regret it and think what if

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u/Old-Appointment5966 — 2 hours ago

Union or Hamilton or Mt. Holyoke for CS

All of them are LACs and I love that. Ik that Hamilton and Mt. Holyoke have dual enrollment program with Columbia which I will be considering because I am kinda interestedin electrical engineering. But Union already has engineering and cs. However, Hamilton and Mt holyoke are ranked better than Union. Any advice?

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u/Effective-Bee-7998 — 2 hours ago

Does Ivy League Tag Matter Compared to Other Top Schools?

For example, compared to schools like Stanford, MIT, Duke, etc. is there a reason to go to an Ivy? I know the Ivy League is just a sports conference, so is the Ivy tag just marketing from a sports conference who is incentivized to make themselves seem better academically while they're being carried by Harvard and Princeton? In reality, is it more about the individual school brand?

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u/slimsgoal — 12 hours ago

Any successful gap year stories?

Basically im taking a gap year as an international and im curious to what successful gap year students did. Dont say “volunteering” or “internships” i already know what im gonna do but id love to hear yall sucess tories

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u/Shazamalahazam — 2 hours ago

i hope colleges are hoping for my enrollment like i was hoping for their decisions

it makes me happy to think that some AO just got the email with extra info i just sent and is thinking “omg yes this means they’re considering us!!!” 😭😭

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u/CB7726 — 21 hours ago

call from harvard student email?

recently received an email from harvard admissions giving me a heads up that a current student will be calling me in april. is this common?? not sure what to expect LOL.

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u/tommzo28 — 15 hours ago

Pls don't ignore

19F so I just started my uni and have a single mother who have been managing job and house for past 30 years alone. We have been alot struggling financially because I feel like my mother can't manage everything alone anymore. and I am struggling to pay my uni fees and transport. I just wanted to know is there any funding organisations/networks/NGOs that can provide students with financial aid?? I'll be really grateful if anyone of you can help Thankyou.

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u/Ok_Divide_1635 — 3 hours ago

touring waitlisted school?

Im wondering if anyone has advice / suggestions on touring schools you’re waitlist from. I was waitlist at UCB and I honestly don’t know if I would go there if I got off. I feel like I need a tour to know and apparently you get only 48 hrs-maybe a week to accept it IF you get off. I live in socal so it’s something I def have to decide and plan out.

If you’ve been in this situation or also are currently waitlisted lmk!

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u/carebawf_5931 — 7 hours ago

can i put my sexuality on my application without my parents seeing it

closeted lesbian here who lives with two mildly-homophobic asian parents & one traditional korean grandmother. we're all christian (except for me, an athiest)

sorry to get controversial

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u/academicss_anonymous — 16 hours ago
Week