u/Alternative_Low_4897

Does anyone have any queer friendly AA meetings or resources they would recommend for the Sacramento area? I’m closer to Folsom but figure that Sacramento may have better options. I’m looking around and they all seem very god based and I’m not looking for that. I need to make big changes in my life to better myself so any guidance is welcome.

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u/Alternative_Low_4897 — 16 days ago

I don’t really know what the point of this post really is. I just need to write it I guess.

My wife (34f) is leaving me (32f). I got drunk and said some things I shouldn’t have and it’s not the first time it’s happened. The last time was almost 2 years ago and a year the time before that.

I have known I need to lay off drinking because I generally have these things happen when I’m overly stressed out and I have been mentally tapped from worked and just so overwhelmed and unhappy in that aspect of life. I’m awful at asking for help and was genuinely scared to quit drinking. It wasn’t that I didn’t think she would leave if it would happen again.

I don’t blame her. I feel awful for hurting her. I truly love this lady with all of my being she was just on the receiving end of a not good night.

I wish there was something I could say or do to make her stay but I know that’s really not an option at this point. She won’t even entertain it. I wish that this part of our vows and sickness and health related to this situation. I need help with my drinking and mental health and I wish I could have her support through it.

I’m a mess right now. I’m terrified of what my life is going to look like. I miss her and my animals already. I’m not a bad person or a bad wife I just made a bad decision one too many times. I hope I can make it through this.

I am getting help because even if I have lost the greatest thing in my life already I can’t let my drinking ruin anything else. Being able to stay with her or not I’m never having another sip.

Overall I’m just really mad at myself and I’m feeling very broken and scared.

Thanks for reading I just needed to get it out.

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u/Alternative_Low_4897 — 16 days ago

I don’t really know what the point of this post really is. I just need to write it I guess.

My wife (34f) is leaving me (32f). I got drunk and said some things I shouldn’t have and it’s not the first time it’s happened. The last time was almost 2 years ago and a year the time before that.

I have known I need to lay off drinking because I generally have these things happen when I’m overly stressed out and I have been mentally tapped from worked and just so overwhelmed and unhappy in that aspect of life. I’m awful at asking for help and was genuinely scared to quit drinking. It wasn’t that I didn’t think she would leave if it would happen again.

I don’t blame her. I feel awful for hurting her. I truly love this lady with all of my being she was just on the receiving end of a not good night.

I wish there was something I could say or do to make her stay but I know that’s really not an option at this point. She won’t even entertain it. I wish that this part of our vows and sickness and health related to this situation. I need help with my drinking and mental health and I wish I could have her support through it.

I’m a mess right now. I’m terrified of what my life is going to look like. I miss her and my animals already. I’m not a bad person or a bad wife I just made a bad decision one too many times. I hope I can make it through this.

ETA: I’m getting help because even if I have lost the greatest thing in my life already I can’t let my drinking ruin anything else. Being able to stay with her or not I’m never having another sip.

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u/Alternative_Low_4897 — 16 days ago