u/AlternativeTie8084

Hello!

I don't have DID but thought I'd post here to get some nuanced, empathetic (as much as Reddit can be) advice from the community.

I've been talking to this girl with the disorder and a problem I have been facing is that whenever I try and draw a boundary with her, one of her alters comes out and says (her name) is resting etc. We don't end up being able to have a conversation about said boundary.

I understand sometimes someone setting a boundary can be triggering for people, so how do I navigate this while still standing firm?

I see a lot of discussion about folks not feeling enough x for one group, and not x enough for the other but in my personal experience I've actually been super accepted by both sides.

Just curious if anybody else has had a similar experience. Maybe it's a generational thing, my circle etc. I've just never had anyone say I'm not enough before.

It could also help that I'm very comfortable and confident in my cultures so maybe the people who would otherwise make those comments don't around me because they know it won't be taken seriously?

Family wise I know I'm lucky to have to biracial parents, it means that everyone's used to interracial relationships and kids. I'm talking more about friendships and social interactions.

I've had the same issue with multiple therapists and counsellors where I end up listening to them process their thoughts on things rather than being able to express myself.

For instance, in my last therapy session I was validating the diasporic experience my therapist had because they started talking about their own experience after I started to bring up mine. They even asked for documentary recommendations and almost started tearing up.

Before this current one, my last therapist I had to do a lot of explaining how to empathise more with queer people.

Is there a name for this phenomenon so I can call it out/work on it if it's a problem with my approach? Thanks in advance.

it's just a bummer because I'd really like some mental health help!