u/Alert_Air_6741

TLDR:
This girl won't stop attempting to force a friend group, even though it is clearly not materializing, and I do not know how to tell her I don't want to be her friend. We have no similar interests and the friendship feels completely forced and, I say with guilt, quite boring. How do I get this across to her kindly?

Some context:
I am an Asian American university student and I love diversity in my circles and natural formation of friendships. I just loathe cliques, especially race based ones.

During the beginning of a semester, this girl sat next to me and we began chatting like normal classmates would, and I love making new friends so I was very open to sharing social contacts with her etc., and eventually she started asking me to hang out w a group of girls I did not know. I was open as well and agreed but soon found out she barely knew these girls too, she had just met them in other classes similar to how she scouted me out.

Lo and behold they are all Asian and I felt a little weird about the fact that she probably scouted me out because I was Asian and was obviously gathering this group in attempts to create a friend group early in the semester. She even made a light hearted comment once about how I kinda look mixed but was glad I was fully Asian... weird.

I never really felt connected to any of them as it felt extremely forced and surface level and she almost made people talk when they were quiet. People kept canceling plans, not responding in the group chat, and continuously saying they were too busy, me included.

The friend group was clearly not forming and struggling to create any bond but she just won't give up. She keeps acting like everyone has been friends for years and we NEED to consistently catch up. I still barely know these girls and she continues attempting to make plans, it seems she is getting a bit desperate.

I have nothing in common with her or the others and do not find it pleasurable hanging out with them, it unfortunately almost feels like a chore. Our conversations quickly get bland, so I obviously don't think this friendship is right and I want to let her know politely to stop trying to make it happen or at least leave me out of it... how do I do this? She is a nice girl and I know she means well but I really am not interested...

TLDR:
This girl won't stop attempting to force a friend group, even though it is clearly not materializing, and I do not know how to tell her I don't want to be her friend. We have no similar interests and the friendship feels completely forced and, I say with guilt, quite boring. How do I get this across to her kindly?

Some context:
I am an Asian American university student and I love diversity in my circles and natural formation of friendships. I just loathe cliques, especially race based ones.

During the beginning of a semester, this girl sat next to me and we began chatting like normal classmates would, and I love making new friends so I was very open to sharing social contacts with her etc., and eventually she started asking me to hang out w a group of girls I did not know. I was open as well and agreed but soon found out she barely knew these girls too, she had just met them in other classes similar to how she scouted me out.

Low and behold they are all Asian and I felt a little weird about the fact that she probably scouted me out because I was Asian and was obviously gathering this group in attempts to create a friend group early in the semester. She even made a light hearted comment once about how I kinda look mixed but was glad I was fully Asian... weird.

I never really felt connected to any of them as it felt extremely forced and surface level and she almost made people talk when they were quiet. People kept canceling plans, not responding in the group chat, and continuously saying they were too busy, me included.

The friend group was clearly not forming and struggling to create any bond but she just won't give up. She keeps acting like everyone has been friends for years and we NEED to consistently catch up. I still barely know these girls and she continues attempting to make plans, it seems she is getting a bit desperate.

I have nothing in common with her or the others and do not find it pleasurable hanging out with them, it unfortunately almost feels like a chore. Our conversations quickly get bland, so I obviously don't think this friendship is right and I want to let her know politely to stop trying to make it happen or at least leave me out of it... how do I do this? She is a nice girl and I know she means well but I really am not interested...

TLDR:
This girl won't stop attempting to force a friend group, even though it is clearly not materializing, and I do not know how to tell her I don't want to be her friend. We have no similar interests and the friendship feels completely forced and, I say with guilt, quite boring. How do I get this across to her kindly?

Some context:
I am an Asian American university student and I love diversity in my circles and natural formation of friendships. I just loathe cliques, especially race based ones.

During the beginning of a semester, this girl sat next to me and we began chatting like normal classmates would, and I love making new friends so I was very open to sharing social contacts with her etc., and eventually she started asking me to hang out w a group of girls I did not know. I was open as well and agreed but soon found out she barely knew these girls too, she had just met them in other classes similar to how she scouted me out.

Low and behold they are all Asian and I felt a little weird about the fact that she probably scouted me out because I was Asian and was obviously gathering this group in attempts to create a friend group early in the semester. She even made a light hearted comment once about how I kinda look mixed but was glad I was fully Asian... weird.

I never really felt connected to any of them as it felt extremely forced and surface level and she almost made people talk when they were quiet. People kept canceling plans, not responding in the group chat, and continuously saying they were too busy, me included.

The friend group was clearly not forming and struggling to create any bond but she just won't give up. She keeps acting like everyone has been friends for years and we NEED to consistently catch up. I still barely know these girls and she continues attempting to make plans, it seems she is getting a bit desperate.

I have nothing in common with her or the others and do not find it pleasurable hanging out with them, it unfortunately almost feels like a chore. Our conversations quickly get bland, so I obviously don't think this friendship is right and I want to let her know politely to stop trying to make it happen or at least leave me out of it... how do I do this? She is a nice girl and I know she means well but I really am not interested...

I know this can be very subjective, but I really want to know what classes, whether that be part of your major or just a general elective you took, have genuinely brought you enjoyment and interest in taking.

Additionally, out of these classes, who were some of the best professors you could tell had a genuine passion for what they do BUT ALSO a passion to pass that knowledge on. I say this as I know some professors who are incredibly knowledgeable but lack even the want to teach at all, making them subpar educators. I do not care about profs who are just lenient and give out easy A's, nor profs who are just funny and easy to get along with (though appreciated). I want to know who you can tell properly love and care for their subject, their lectures, and their students.

Preferably classes that don't require majoring in certain fields as I am wanting these types of classes for my electives in my remaining years (I love branching out), however, I am also just curious to know in general so please share any and all.