u/Alarming_State8965

tl;dr I need help with this lack of trust.

Hey guys I 25F have been dealing with this issue for a while where my partner 24M will say he will go somewhere or do something but I don’t trust that he is where he says he is. Any help to solve this anxiety ig or how to bring it up because it’s not working for me.

For example he’ll say I’m grocery shopping but then later he’ll say oh didn’t buy much or it didn’t work out. I’m not sure if it’s the lack of communication or if he’s actually being not truthful and dishonest.

Is this also something worth breaking up over if this.

Tl;dr he cheated I love him I’m done but can’t seem to actually leave. Help me understand and end it.

23f started seeing 27m for over a year last year but then things ended because he cheated and I mean CHEATED. He basically had a whole affair with her texting her sleeping with her saying I love you to her making her gifts (that one hurt the most because he never really made me anything). This went on for around a month normally I feel like I would have caught on earlier but I was so busy at work working super long hours and couldn’t really see him during that time so how convenient for him. Anyways he lies to me gaslights me about why he did it says he stopped but kept talking to her etc. This started in June/July. I only found out when I did because he texted me a paragraph that was meant for her… he called me by the wrong name.

Were done in August a lot of messed up things happened between July and then but yea. More lying cheating hiding things etc

He ends things in the most awful way yelling berating I didn’t cry or anything I was done. I didn’t text or call him after that but I still loved him. He texts me all mad two days later why I haven’t texted him I don’t respond he texts me later on a half ass apology. Here is the thing fast forward he gives me a real apology or maybe I was being manipulated and gaslit again but moving on …. And we don’t get back together right away but I wasn’t against it anyways again fast forward I’m not over what he had done and now the issues lies on I think he’s doing it again but he’s hiding it much better but I saw her number unsaved texts on his phone byt couldn’t see more than that. Same girl he cheated on me with if it wasn’t obvious.

I am no longer at peace I am angry that he’s doing all this and that he did that he said he wouldn’t again he loved me etc etc wtv but here I am so I am done but still love him I’ve been thinking of leaving for a while weeks. I just can’t seem to ever get it done.

Hey guys I’m new using an alt account to make sure none of my mutuals find this. I have been having this issue recently… I found out some of my partners fantasies however they do not involve me (he has someone else in mind). He has not expressed these fantasies to me I just found out. He mentioned not wanting to do it with someone he is emotionally attached to but proceeds to say he is sexually attracted to her. I am not sure why he would want to share his fantasies with her or worse they do not involve me/ about me. I do not think he trusts me or is comfortable to confide in me with this but I am not sure why. I have not done anything to make him feel uncomfortable or unable to open up to me. He has but about other things. He says he loves me but I am not sure about that anymore.

Second thing is I recently mentioned a kink or fantasy of mine that I might be interested in and he immediately said what the fuck… which fucked me up. His fantasy that he has not shared with me is I wouldn’t say worse but heavily more out there more open minded etc.

Anyways any advice or other concerns I should look into or raise.

Is this clearly cheating or am I overthinking this… he also planned on actually pursuing it without me knowing it so I guess yea cheating.

Thanks