I don’t know if this is the right sub to post. I am married 32F, had a love marriage at 25. Now I want to divorce my partner because of infidelity, emotional and sexual neglect. My parents especially my mother is vehemently against it. They want me to adjust, take time and give him a chance. But I am emotionally drained and now checked out of the relationship after I found about the cheating. My mother says she’s ashamed to have a daughter who can think of a divorce, that I have already found someone else and want to get rid of him. She also said that my husband cheated because I am a cranky wife and I look bad. When divorce and fear of the unknown post divorce is draining me, my mother pushes me enough to consider self harm. I don’t have anyone else except them right now. It’s draining my soul.
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Weighing infidelity, an almost dead bedroom against companionship and stability, I decided to divorce my husband of 6 years. On the outside he is a text book nice guy, calm and easy going. Only I know how exhausting it has been for the last 6 years being the one who plans trips/anniversaries/finances. He cheated and I got a reality check on my relationship. I strangely don’t hate him for his infidelity, I feel like I now have a second chance to make things right, before I have kids. I decided to divorce him. He is begging for a chance, some part of me hurt seeing him vulnerable. I don’t want to go back. We had a love marriage against a lot of family drama and he still could cheat on me. My parents empathise with me but are not supportive of divorce. They want me to give him a chance, I’ve given him many micro-chances all through. I am guilty for letting them down, but going back feels like hell. My mental health is wrecked up. Is there a way to get them support me through the divorce. Can our parents actually support us at a point? How do I stay strong in this long and lonely journey?
I found out my husband (35M) had an affair with his aunt(by marriage) when he was 23. She had two kids by that time. It lasted for a month, involved intimate chats for a month and got physical once.
My husband and I have been married for 5 years. I come from an abusive household. Growing up we were always struggling financially. Not to mention my toxic ex, with my husband I felt I hit the jackpot. He’s an easy going and a calm guy, it was very easy in the beginning because he never made an issue for anything and everything was going as per my wish. No shouting, no fighting. As time went by, he is just easygoing and doesn’t do anything for this marriage or me. We both earn. But I’m the only one who’s worried about household work, saving for the future, planning anniversaries, planning our career, setting everything ready for the kid we are planning for. So basically all be provides is just some money. I can only hear the love but never feel it. No random I love you’s or hugs. I feel exhausted/suffocated/unloved. I have seen many unhealthy marriages in my life, now I can’t help but feel that I am in one.