I met this couple about 8 months ago and we usually hang out every week or so. They are a regular at the place I like to go to and friends with everyone there. The husband has always seemed meh but he's fun to hang out with and the wife is fun to hang out with.
Tonight, we went out to a bar where this guy was harassing women all night. Offering to buy every women in the bar drinks. If they said no, he would keep trying to ask them and if they said yes, he would start feeling them up. There were these two girls who said yes who happened to be dressed a little provocatively. Eventually they got too uncomfortable and said he was being creepy and asked him to stop. The bartender stepped in and got the girls away. Then the next set of attractive women walked by to go outside and smoke and he followed them outside to hit on them.
I rode home with the couple and we started talking about it. He ended up defending the guy saying that they shouldn't have dressed so slutty if they didn't want to be hit on. I said, sure, if they dress like that then guys will hit on them but as soon as they say no, they should leave and respect her decision. They are dressing like that for themselves, not for guys, especially not for guys twice their age. He said that guys produce so much sperm all the time that they are horny all of the time and it's not their fault whereas women only have a set amount of eggs in their life and it's just biology why this happens. And that if a women dresses like that it's always somewhat her fault.
So I asked him if a women was just walking on the street with a short skirt and she got raped, would it be her fault and he said yes it would be. His wife started crying next to him for obvious reasons.
Idk what to do going forward because I want to talk with her but not him. But he also spends the most money at our local brewery every year. I'm not good with confrontation, idk how to say I like your wife but you're a POS.
As with most breweries vs. bars, I feel like this place is a little more progressive and if people know about this, they wouldn't accept him anymore.
I'm not good if we show up to the same place, me saying I don't want to hang out with you. Especially when we go out for trivia and we usually have to sit at the same table. I want to hang out with your wife but not you.