u/Adventurous-Menu1062

helloo!! bit of a random one, but i’m looking for some extra part-time work to pick up in Bristol. i’m a very qualified barista and a somewhat decent barmaid, and was wondering if anyone knows of any cafés/pubs/bars where lots of students typically work?

for context, i’m not a student myself, but i’m f20 and don’t really get to work with people my age in my day job, so i thought it’d be nice to meet some people my age for once aha!

For some context before I get into the reason as to why I’m breaking up with him.

We’ve been together for over a year, started talking Nov 24 and started dating in Feb 25. I was 18 when we met and he was 21, now F20 and M22 (he’s turning 23 in about 3 weeks). We are long distance, he was at uni in my city when we started but now he’s back home, so we try and see eachother twice a month for more than a weekend at a time, but it can be hard because we both have full time jobs.

A while back, we talked about futures. He wants kids, I don’t. I know he’s really keen to have a proper family set up, whereas I don’t want that. I completely respect and understand his choices, and he does mine too, but we agreed to stay together and enjoy some time together before we inevitably have to break up due to life differences. A part of me however has always felt guilty, I feel like I’m holding him back from starting that life with someone, and I think I now feel similarly, but about exploring myself. And I don’t mean that in a sexual way at all, but I mean in my career (I’m in a very freelance/creative world) and in my friends.

I recently finished a desk job so I can explore this career more, and I’m living at home. Everything feels all over the place and up in the air, and I really like it. I feel more connected to myself than I ever have, but the small snag is him. He is lovely, and so so kind, but I’m really quite a solitary person and this life change has only enhanced my feeling to be like that.

I also grew up with a “high school sweetheart”, so I feel like I’m one of those people that didn’t grow up knowing themselves inside and out before dating and being with someone 24/7. So I find myself longing for that “single” life (again, not at all in a sexual way), quite a lot at the moment.

Ultimately, I know he’ll be very upset. And so will I. I’ve gotten to know all his friends so well, and his family. I want to do this in the kindest way possible. I’d love to know what to say, where I should say it (in person/online??) etc. I’m meant to be going up this weekend to his house for a BBQ with his friends, would it be cruel to do it after? It’s also quite close to his birthday.

Any thoughts are appreciated, thank you.

For some context before I get into the reason as to why I’m breaking up with him.

We’ve been together for over a year, started talking Nov 24 and started dating in Feb 25. I was 18 when we met and he was 21, now F20 and M22 (he’s turning 23 in about 3 weeks). We are long distance, he was at uni in my city when we started but now he’s back home, so we try and see eachother twice a month for more than a weekend at a time, but it can be hard because we both have full time jobs.

A while back, we talked about futures. He wants kids, I don’t. I know he’s really keen to have a proper family set up, whereas I don’t want that. I completely respect and understand his choices, and he does mine too, but we agreed to stay together and enjoy some time together before we inevitably have to break up due to life differences. A part of me however has always felt guilty, I feel like I’m holding him back from starting that life with someone, and I think I now feel similarly, but about exploring myself. And I don’t mean that in a sexual way at all, but I mean in my career (I’m in a very freelance/creative world) and in my friends.

I recently finished a desk job so I can explore this career more, and I’m living at home. Everything feels all over the place and up in the air, and I really like it. I feel more connected to myself than I ever have, but the small snag is him. He is lovely, and so so kind, but I’m really quite a solitary person and this life change has only enhanced my feeling to be like that.

I also grew up with a “high school sweetheart”, so I feel like I’m one of those people that didn’t grow up knowing themselves inside and out before dating and being with someone 24/7. So I find myself longing for that “single” life (again, not at all in a sexual way), quite a lot at the moment.

Ultimately, I know he’ll be very upset. And so will I. I’ve gotten to know all his friends so well, and his family. I want to do this in the kindest way possible. I’d love to know what to say, where I should say it (in person/online??) etc. I’m meant to be going up this weekend to his house for a BBQ with his friends, would it be cruel to do it after? It’s also quite close to his birthday.

Any thoughts are appreciated, thank you.