EDIT: J'ai initié le premier date.
25F et 33M, on est allé en date lundi. Il a écrit "j'apprécie ta compagnie, see you soon" mais n'a pas proposé de second date.
Je continue à lui parler , mais j'hésite à complétement tout arrêter ...
25F met this guy 33M on Bumble. We talked for about 2 weeks and then ghosted each other because our schedules didn't fit so we couldn't meet.
But this week, we met over coffee. The chat was nice, we talked about our studies/work/travelling and he complimented me twice.
But he's the kind of dude that has a "sexual" humor, like a lot, especially over text (not a fan so sometimes I'll follow, or ignore completely).
He has a big work event he's prepping for and he's very stressed about it.
Right after the date, he texted me saying he enjoyed my company and wrote "see you soon" and then we are still talking now.
Does he actually like me?? why didn't he propose another date?
Example, I talk to this guy, we know each other in real life.
We talk, he tells me he's in town, and directly stops talking. He doesn't continue. He doesn't propose anything. Doesn't say he wants to try X coffee or else.
He wants me to initiate or what??? Be a man. Gosh.
Ma stagiaire mange et fait le bruit des bulles au boulot
Je travaille dans un cabinet de conseil et je supervise une stagiaire en fin d’études (Master) qui a rejoint l’entreprise il y a 4 mois, et honnêtement je ne sais plus trop comment gérer la situation.
J’ai déjà eu des discussions directes avec elle et clarifié mes attentes, mais le schéma ne change pas vraiment.
Ce qui complique les choses, c’est qu’il y a une autre stagiaire au même niveau qui, elle, rend systématiquement un travail propre et approfondi… donc la comparaison est difficile à ignorer.
Aujourd’hui, je me surprends à hésiter à lui confier des tâches importantes parce que je n’ai pas confiance dans le résultat, ce qui n’est pas une dynamique saine non plus.
Comment gérer ce type de situation ?
I work in a major consulting company and I’m managing a final-year Master’s intern who joined our company 4 months ago, and I’m honestly not sure how to handle the situation anymore.
I’ve already had direct conversations with her and clarified expectations, but the pattern hasn’t really changed.
The tricky part is that there’s another intern at the same level who consistently delivers clean, thorough work… so the contrast is hard to ignore.
Now I find myself hesitating to assign her important tasks because I don’t trust the output, which I know isn’t a great dynamic either.
How to deal with that?
I work in a major consulting company and I’m managing a final-year Master’s intern who joined our company 4 months ago, and I’m honestly not sure how to handle the situation anymore.
I’ve already had direct conversations with her and clarified expectations, but the pattern hasn’t really changed.
The tricky part is that there’s another intern at the same level who consistently delivers clean, thorough work… so the contrast is hard to ignore.
Now I find myself hesitating to assign her important tasks because I don’t trust the output, which I know isn’t a great dynamic either.
How to deal with that?
We started talking in July 2025, but I stopped because he told me he was still “recovering” from a breakup in May 2025.
Now we’ve reconnected (Feb 2026) and he’s honestly great over text… but there are a few things I just can’t get past :
First, his voice in the morning — he talks kind of nasally and it really throws me off. Then we had a video call… and I noticed he has really prominent “rabbit” teeth and like very big cheeks (not the cute kind, I’m sorry 😭).
And now I literally cannot unsee it.
I feel bad because he’s actually nice and the conversation is good, but I don’t feel physically attracted and it’s stuck in my head. We've never met irl yet since he studies in a different country, BUT HE TOLD ME HE BOOKED A FLIGHT TO COME SEE ME IN JULY???? 😭 😭 Like I will meet him for sure, but it will not exceed 1 date LOL
Has anyone else experienced this? Does it go away or am I just forcing it at this point?