u/AdCautious7005

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Has anyone not experienced the 4 month regression ?

Wondering if anyone didn’t even experience a sleep regression at four months and what it looked like. My boy is 3.5 months old and sleeps 4-5 hours the first stretch it really depends on the day, and then after about 3am, he wakes up every hour/hour and a half until 7am. He also recently in the last week or two started whining when he wakes up super frustrated. Not enough to wail or cry like crazy he just seems mad and acts like he’s annoyed or something. This is how it’s been for weeks now. After 3am each wake up I usually have to help him settle by picking him up and just rocking him for up to 15 mins. I just am curious if it will just stay the same for a while and this is the sleep regression or???
Any tips on how to help him to settle without booby or paci in the middle of the night ?
Thank you !!

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u/AdCautious7005 — 5 days ago

I feel terrible. I’m realizing that my babies latch does not transfer him enough milk per feeding which causes him to eat up to 20+ times in 24hrs if I don’t pump and give him bottles. he usually only feeds on boob for 4-7mins max and once and a while will go up to 15 but usually falls asleep after eating that long. He has a really shallow latch and I know this now, they never checked at the hospital which now I’m wishing they did. Pretty sure he has a lip tie but can’t get him in to see his ped for another month. Is it possible to help him learn to have a deeper latch when he’s nursing Eventhough he’s 13.5 weeks old ?? And how would I do that ?? Ugh

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u/AdCautious7005 — 8 days ago

13 weeks pp and my baby went through a nursing strike for a few weeks from weeks 7-10ish. He would refuse my breast and so I started pumping a lot to compensate. Ever since, my supply has not been the same. He also started sleeping longer chunks at night and that also contributed to the drop I think too. I used to produce at least double the amount of milk I used to make and it’s scary to think although I’m still pumping very often everyday (up to 5 times a day), I’m still not getting the milk supply to not need to top him off with bottles. To be honest, I haven’t tried a day where I just feed him with my breast only and avoid bottles to see if he is satisfied. I’m worried he’s hungry !! I usually at this point offer anywhere from 8-16oz a day and I usually pump whenever I can and it’s fresh milk from that day. I breastfeed him in between bottles thru the day. On average he’s eating about 12-16 times or more in 24 hours. He never does a full feed anymore on my breasts unless he’s really tired or starving because I think it’s a lot of work for him vs the bottle.
I tried power pumping for two days and noticed a little more engorgement by the end of the 3rd day but then back to square one. I’m really worried that I’m going to dry up and have to use formula. Anyone that has been in my situation pls help me understand how I can curve this lul and help my supply come back ?! I really want to continue to breastfeed my baby and I’m really struggling :(

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u/AdCautious7005 — 9 days ago

I’m so sad because my little sister is flying in from Guatemala to visit my new baby. He’s 13 weeks now so a little over three months but she has a cold sore and she treated it with some things that the Guatemalan pharmacy gave her but I think it was just medication to help it not last so long. Last I talked to her she still has the cold sore and it’s healing, but I’m just wondering how serious is it to be around an any with a cold sore ?
Should I have her cover it with a patch and just wash her hands all the time or not have her hold the baby at all? Can it spread from them touching just skin to skin and not touching her lip? She also had food poisoning from parasites a few days ago too so now I’m worried about that also. There’s no way for her to change her flight and this is the only place that she can stay. On top of that I am also feeling sick with a sore throat and fever so the baby is just full-blown going to get Introduced to all these crazy things, but I just want to know how severe of precautions we should take with my sister’s visit?
TIA

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u/AdCautious7005 — 9 days ago
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I’m so sad because my little sister is flying in from Guatemala to visit my new baby. He’s 13 weeks now so a little over three months but she has a cold sore and she treated it with some things that the Guatemalan pharmacy gave her but I think it was just medication to help it not last so long. Last I talked to her she still has the cold sore and it’s healing, but I’m just wondering how serious is it to be around an any with a cold sore ?
Should I have her cover it with a patch and just wash her hands all the time or not have her hold the baby at all? Can it spread from them touching just skin to skin and not touching her lip? She also had food poisoning from parasites a few days ago too so now I’m worried about that also. There’s no way for her to change her flight and this is the only place that she can stay. On top of that I am also feeling sick with a sore throat and fever so the baby is just full-blown going to get Introduced to all these crazy things, but I just want to know how severe of precautions we should take with my sister’s visit?
TIA

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u/AdCautious7005 — 9 days ago

My 3-month-old loves being outside, but he absolutely hates the car seat. Since he was born, we’ve mostly stayed close to home because he struggles to fall asleep anywhere but there. We took a trip to visit family (about a 4.5-hour drive), and it ended up taking over 9 hours because he cried almost the entire time and we had to stop constantly.

He’ll sleep in the carrier on me but only for maybe 25–30 minutes max. Otherwise, he has never fallen asleep on his own—only on me. And I’ve really tried everything.

I’m honestly starting to lose my sanity being stuck at home. It’s extremely isolating..
I try to get out for walks around the block, but we live in the high desert and it’s not exactly beautiful or nature-filled. Before having him, I was barely ever home except to sleep, so this has been a huge shift for me. I feel such a strong pull to get out and explore with him—not anything big yet, but even just visiting friends, going to parks, or the river.

The thing is, he does enjoy being out. He’s super content, doesn’t cry and is so observant for over an hour but at that hour and a halfish mark, he becomes a crazy mess because we’re not in the comfort of our home, I can’t bounce him to sleep, we aren’t in the dim room, there’s no white noise, etc etc… I would say for the most part It’s just the process of getting there and back that’s so hard. Everything we do usually lasts more than an hour or two, or three. He thrives on his schedule, and I think he’s really sensitive about his naps and bedtime—if we miss that window, everything falls apart.

I’d really love to hear from moms who’ve been through this and came out the other side. How did you help your baby tolerate the car seat and get out of the house more? Eventually wanting to take him to Hawaii this summer but am questioning if it’s even do-able because of his temperament. Also worth mentioning—I’m doing this solo, so everything already feels like double the effort.

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u/AdCautious7005 — 12 days ago