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AITA for getting upset that my girlfriend keeps accusing me of looking at other women and sometimes gets physical with me?

I (28M) have been with my girlfriend (26F) for two years. I love her deeply. I’m genuinely attracted to her, our sex life is great, and I’ve never cheated, flirted, or even looked at another woman in a way that would disrespect her.

But she frequently accuses me of “checking out” other girls when we’re in public. Sometimes it’s someone walking by, sometimes it’s a waitress, sometimes it’s literally someone on TV or in a movie. The thing is: I’m not doing it. At all. I’m not even tempted. I’m madly in love with her.

These accusations get much worse when she’s on her period. I understand hormones can make emotions stronger, and I try to be patient and supportive. But it gets to a level I’ve never experienced before with anyone. I grew up around women, I’ve dated before, and I’ve never had this kind of issue.

When she gets into this mindset, I can’t reason with her. She’ll yell at me, accuse me of being “distracted by other girls,” and a few times she has pushed me or hit me out of anger. I’ve never yelled back or gotten physical. I just shut down or walk away because I don’t know how to handle it.

Afterward, she’ll calm down and act like nothing happened, or say she was just “emotional.” But the accusations come back the next month, and the cycle repeats.

We live together and I want a future with her, but this is becoming a huge problem for me. I’ve never given her a reason to distrust me, and being yelled at or shoved over something I didn’t even do is wearing me down. I don’t know how to bring this up without her getting defensive or angry again.

So Reddit… AITA for feeling like this behavior is becoming a dealbreaker and wanting it to stop?

AITA for getting upset that my girlfriend keeps accusing me of looking at other women and sometimes gets physical with me?

I (28M) have been with my girlfriend (26F) for two years. I love her deeply. I’m genuinely attracted to her, our sex life is great, and I’ve never cheated, flirted, or even looked at another woman in a way that would disrespect her.

But she frequently accuses me of “checking out” other girls when we’re in public. Sometimes it’s someone walking by, sometimes it’s a waitress, sometimes it’s literally someone on TV or in a movie. The thing is: I’m not doing it. At all. I’m not even tempted. I’m madly in love with her.

These accusations get much worse when she’s on her period. I understand hormones can make emotions stronger, and I try to be patient and supportive. But it gets to a level I’ve never experienced before with anyone. I grew up around women, I’ve dated before, and I’ve never had this kind of issue.

When she gets into this mindset, I can’t reason with her. She’ll yell at me, accuse me of being “distracted by other girls,” and a few times she has pushed me or hit me out of anger. I’ve never yelled back or gotten physical. I just shut down or walk away because I don’t know how to handle it.

Afterward, she’ll calm down and act like nothing happened, or say she was just “emotional.” But the accusations come back the next month, and the cycle repeats.

We live together and I want a future with her, but this is becoming a huge problem for me. I’ve never given her a reason to distrust me, and being yelled at or shoved over something I didn’t even do is wearing me down. I don’t know how to bring this up without her getting defensive or angry again.

So Reddit… AITA for feeling like this behavior is becoming a dealbreaker and wanting it to stop?

AITA for getting upset that my girlfriend keeps accusing me of looking at other women and sometimes gets physical with me?

I (28M) have been with my girlfriend (26F) for two years. I love her deeply. I’m genuinely attracted to her, our sex life is great, and I’ve never cheated, flirted, or even looked at another woman in a way that would disrespect her.

But she frequently accuses me of “checking out” other girls when we’re in public. Sometimes it’s someone walking by, sometimes it’s a waitress, sometimes it’s literally someone on TV or in a movie. The thing is: I’m not doing it. At all. I’m not even tempted. I’m madly in love with her.

These accusations get much worse when she’s on her period. I understand hormones can make emotions stronger, and I try to be patient and supportive. But it gets to a level I’ve never experienced before with anyone. I grew up around women, I’ve dated before, and I’ve never had this kind of issue.

When she gets into this mindset, I can’t reason with her. She’ll yell at me, accuse me of being “distracted by other girls,” and a few times she has pushed me or hit me out of anger. I’ve never yelled back or gotten physical. I just shut down or walk away because I don’t know how to handle it.

Afterward, she’ll calm down and act like nothing happened, or say she was just “emotional.” But the accusations come back the next month, and the cycle repeats.

We live together and I want a future with her, but this is becoming a huge problem for me. I’ve never given her a reason to distrust me, and being yelled at or shoved over something I didn’t even do is wearing me down. I don’t know how to bring this up without her getting defensive or angry again.

So Reddit… AITA for feeling like this behavior is becoming a dealbreaker and wanting it to stop?