I F(U) have known my boyfriend M(S) for a year and half. We were so crazily in love, we started dating last year in January 2025 but unfortunately broke up in July 2025. He broke up with me and said some vvery hurtful stuff to me. We went no contact for 7 months and in February of 2026 we met again. And we got back together. But in between, I found out he told someone we know that’s a mutual of ours that he broke up with me because I was too in love with him. God this hurts just typing. During the seven months apart he went back to his ex, which I also ended up finding out, he had a very toxic situation ship with her. But regardless of that, he blocked her again before getting back with me. He’s so affectionate with me now and I know he loves me. Here’s the catch, please don’t attack me. But he doesn’t know I found out about his past. Hence, why im not content. I doubt everything. Due to some reasons I can’t ask him about his past or tell him I know he went back to his ex in between. I’m being immature when it comes to this but trust me I’m trying my best to handle this situation with as maturity I can. After finding out, which I found out in November of 2025, I was so incredibly heartbroken. I just prayed and prayed, and cried. When we met again. It truly felt ethereal. I kept my distance for a good month until he broke the silence.. blah blah and we got back together. My heart still isn’t content. I don’t know how to tell him I found out. Why am I even with him if I know? But I love him so much, I’m unable to trust him though? I truly feel as if I’m spiraling. He didn’t tell me about his ex because we believed it would cause me unease, so he hid it from me. To this day he hasn’t told me. I don’t know what to do, I know about him and how he felt towards her. He felt so strongly towards her. It eats me up alive. I want to get it out of him, but what satisfaction will it do to me after he tells me? If I want to move on I should forgive him, but how when he doesn’t even know I know. Also mind you I only found out he messed with girls before me in November of 2025 aswell, imagine how much heartache that bought me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t anymore. He was never the type of guy to download snap or TikTok. But all of the sudden I found it just a few hours ago, why does he have them? He’s strongly against using TikTok especially, I checked his acc it’s private and has only one follower? Who could it be? Could it be her? Could it be his friend. Please to whoever is reading this, remain patient with me. And I know I could communicate but I can’t stress this enough he can’t know that mutual friend told me. Every time I think of what he said to her, it makes me sick. He was telling her how he would marry her, calling her things he is currently calling me. I feel sick to my stomach. Please share any advice.
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I F(U) have known my boyfriend M(S) for a year and half. We were so crazily in love, we started dating last year in January 2025 but unfortunately broke up in July 2025. He broke up with me and said some vvery hurtful stuff to me. We went no contact for 7 months and in February of 2026 we met again. And we got back together. But in between, I found out he told someone we know that’s a mutual of ours that he broke up with me because I was too in love with him. God this hurts just typing. During the seven months apart he went back to his ex, which I also ended up finding out, he had a very toxic situation ship with her. But regardless of that, he blocked her again before getting back with me. He’s so affectionate with me now and I know he loves me. Here’s the catch, please don’t attack me. But he doesn’t know I found out about his past. Hence, why im not content. I doubt everything. Due to some reasons I can’t ask him about his past or tell him I know he went back to his ex in between. I’m being immature when it comes to this but trust me I’m trying my best to handle this situation with as maturity I can. After finding out, which I found out in November of 2025, I was so incredibly heartbroken. I just prayed and prayed, and cried. When we met again. It truly felt ethereal. I kept my distance for a good month until he broke the silence.. blah blah and we got back together. My heart still isn’t content. I don’t know how to tell him I found out. Why am I even with him if I know? But I love him so much, I’m unable to trust him though? I truly feel as if I’m spiraling. He didn’t tell me about his ex because we believed it would cause me unease, so he hid it from me. To this day he hasn’t told me. I don’t know what to do, I know about him and how he felt towards her. He felt so strongly towards her. It eats me up alive. I want to get it out of him, but what satisfaction will it do to me after he tells me? If I want to move on I should forgive him, but how when he doesn’t even know I know. Also mind you I only found out he messed with girls before me in November of 2025 aswell, imagine how much heartache that bought me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t anymore. He was never the type of guy to download snap or TikTok. But all of the sudden I found it just a few hours ago, why does he have them? He’s strongly against using TikTok especially, I checked his acc it’s private and has only one follower? Who could it be? Could it be her? Could it be his friend. Please to whoever is reading this, remain patient with me. And guide me. Thank you.
I F(U) have known my boyfriend M(S) for a year and half. We were so crazily in love, we started dating last year in January 2025 but unfortunately broke up in July 2025. He broke up with me and said some vvery hurtful stuff to me. We went no contact for 7 months and in February of 2026 we met again. And we got back together. But in between, I found out he told someone we know that’s a mutual of ours that he broke up with me because I was too in love with him. God this hurts just typing. During the seven months apart he went back to his ex, which I also ended up finding out, he had a very toxic situation ship with her. But regardless of that, he blocked her again before getting back with me. He’s so affectionate with me now and I know he loves me. Here’s the catch, please don’t attack me. But he doesn’t know I found out about his past. Hence, why im not content. I doubt everything. Due to some reasons I can’t ask him about his past or tell him I know he went back to his ex in between. I’m being immature when it comes to this but trust me I’m trying my best to handle this situation with as maturity I can. After finding out, which I found out in November of 2025, I was so incredibly heartbroken. I just prayed and prayed, and cried. When we met again. It truly felt ethereal. I kept my distance for a good month until he broke the silence.. blah blah and we got back together. My heart still isn’t content. I don’t know how to tell him I found out. Why am I even with him if I know? But I love him so much, I’m unable to trust him though? I truly feel as if I’m spiraling. He didn’t tell me about his ex because we believed it would cause me unease, so he hid it from me. To this day he hasn’t told me. I don’t know what to do, I know about him and how he felt towards her. He felt so strongly towards her. It eats me up alive. I want to get it out of him, but what satisfaction will it do to me after he tells me? If I want to move on I should forgive him, but how when he doesn’t even know I know. Also mind you I only found out he messed with girls before me in November of 2025 aswell, imagine how much heartache that bought me. I don’t know what to do. I don’t anymore. He was never the type of guy to download snap or TikTok. But all of the sudden I found it just a few hours ago, why does he have them? He’s strongly against using TikTok especially, I checked his acc it’s private and has only one follower? Who could it be? Could it be her? Could it be his friend. Please to whoever is reading this, remain patient with me. Thank you
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