u/Accomplished-Cod-274

I’ve been trying to create a positive mindset for myself, and I’ve even made a few posts on Reddit looking for advice and had some wonderful conversations. I was feeling really great about this cycle. One thing that I also was holding onto hope for was that my cycle was regular. Well, scratch that… it is now CD 17 for me. I always get a positive OPK on CD 15 and ovulate CD 16. There’s not even a hint of a positive OPK in sight. I was already struggling so much just with the weight of TTC already, now I have to be worried about my cycles now becoming irregular, anovulatory cycles, it just never ends. The one thing I introduced this month was coq10, but other than that nothing has changed. I’m just feeling really devastated that I thought things were going well, and now I probably have to go run a bunch more tests to figure out where my hormonal imbalance is or why my cycles are now irregular.

I wanted to ask for some advice or any tips on what to change up for cycles! For reference, both my husband and I are 30 TTC #1.

I’ve already gotten hormone bloodwork done, everything is in normal range. TSH 1.4, AMH 3.4, etc. My husband has done sperm analysis, also normal. I’ve gotten a trans vaginal ultrasound, everything so far normal. I take a prenatal and coq10. I track my cycles with Mira and Oura, I ovulate pretty much on CD 16 every cycle and have 12 to 13 day luteal phases.

Only potential factor in our way is my weight. I currently am considered overweight, but I ovulate regularly so my doctor didn’t think this to be an issue. I also was on a BC pill for 15ish years, but went off a few months before TTC.

We track ovulation and completely cover our fertile window.

Just wondering if there’s anything we are possibly missing or could add into our routine. I’ve been seeing a ton of videos that say that if you don’t conceive within 3 mo., then that means there’s something wrong. Well, we’ve been trying longer than that… so just a bit concerned.

Thank you for your input!

I know so many of us on here during this journey are only able to see each month as period, ovulation, TTW, end of cycle, next cycle, etc. and it can be extremely exhausting. It’s hard to look at months of my life as only another opportunity to conceive a child.

I am 30 years old TTC #1 and I want to stop letting life pass me by. I absolutely want to continue focusing on TTC, but I also would love some thoughts or input on someone sees the bigger picture. How do you enjoy life month to month even with the constant weight of uncertainty or TTC or “is this my cycle.”

I want to start living my life again and not feel like I’m in this dark hole where time feels so heavy. Even looking back and knowing I spent months of only focusing on TTC makes me sad, but it’s hard to change those habits moving forward, especially when those around me already have kids or are currently pregnant. I’d love to hear the little things that make the months easier, or how you were able to see the positive month to month. 💛☀️