u/Abioz_Aiz

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I(F, 24) have been with him (M, 27) for the past 1 and a half year. He has coerced me to send him nude pictures of myself on three separate occasions. All three occasions i have broken down crying asking him to respect me and how he can even do that when he claims to love me. After year later, he said it was due to insecurity and he thought it was odd i didn't want to do it because either he felt i was asexual or wasn't into him sexually. Throughout the relationship i have repeatedly affirmed him that i am very into him despite not wanting to sleep with him before we tie the knot.

He has also been verbally abusive, calling me an "insane bitch", "crazy" and worse. multiple times. I have spoken to him multiple times about this that i would not like to be spoken to like that at all over the past year. He gets jealous easily over me hanging out with other people who are not even men.

He offloads his frustrations on me whenever he fights with his parents and then tries to end the relationship or say get out and stuff. it is exhausting. After frequent repeated episodes of this shit show, i finally told him, i want to split up.

he started crying asking why what happened this and that and i told him i am done with his entire tantrums and i wanna leave. he asked me tell him about it and i told him he's abusive and an asshole. now he has been begging me to take him back and acting all goofy. Saying stuff like he's gonna work on himself for his future wife. he swore on god that he didn't understand the impact his words and actions were having on me and that losing me finally woke him up to how much of an asshole he's been.

he filled a form on better help for therapy to work on himself and is reading "Why does he do that" by Lundy Bancroft. I told him he has 3 months.

The thing is we are to be married by next year and i don't wanna realize at some point that he's worse than he has been with me so far and all of this has been a facade despite appearing quite genuine. he has been crying non stop and begging me on his knees and head on the ground to not leave and i am the love of his life.

I told him i am willing to try. he told me he feels absolutely pathetic for having to ask me to give him a final chance and to having have pushed me to my extent that i was about to leave him. The only other ugly fights he has had are with his parents and he has a very tight knit relationship with his sister with both of them being very good to each other.

What do i do? Do i stay or leave? i am scared he might revert or i might get trapped in a relationship i don't want to be in at some point if i do go ahead and end up marrying him

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Hello,

I (F, 24) have been dating A (M, 27) for the past 1 and a half year. We had been dating to marry and I was really happy that I'll get to start from scratch in a safe and secure environment and will finally be able to breathe. As time went on, A (M, 27) started yelling and swearing at Me and calling me dimwit, insane bitch and worse. He would crash out claiming I'm looking at other men and when I felt depressed and rely on him. He'd say all I do us cry and not work because I have too much free time. A (M, 27) knew the kind of abusive environment I grew up in and effectively mock me about it. There are times he's wonderful too and amazing and absolutely loml material but as soon as he got mad I wouldn't recognize the man I was speaking to. He'd ask me to cut off everyone who was asking me to leave him and monitor the kind of people I was hanging out with.

I really thought after almost a quarter of a decade of walking on eggshells and my nervous system being fried I'd finally find relief in a new home. All that came shattering down after I realised how much A (M, 27) had been emotionally/verbally abusing me and throwing tantrums in the name of being insecure whenever I didn't want to send him intimate pictures of myself.

I have been in similar relationships prior to this but I really thought He'd be the one because we had been friends for 3 years before we started dating .

On top of that, my mother who I have been trying to escape for the same abusive patterns that A was showing has been even more abusive because she didn't want me to be with A(M, 27).

I put my career on hold, I really thought i had some safe space for myself in this world.

I had a suicide attempt last year where I near hung myself, I wish I had gone through it because I don't see any point in continuing.

I'm leaving A (M, 27) in two days and I'll have to go back to living with my mom with no plan. I have been unemployed for 4 months with no savings and just rejections . I just don't know at this point.

I don't wanna be forced into a marriage by my mother to someone I dont even know. I just want to exist, on my own. But I don't think it's possible.

I'm tired of running or escaping.

I(F, 24) have been speaking to this guy(M, 27) for more than an year. He's honestly the best thing that has happened to me. We are mutuals through another friend of ours and had known each other a few years before we came upto each other and confessed our feelings. It felt like the perfect time to do so because he had graduated and was working and I was gonna graduate too. Most women where I come from marry around the time they graduate.

We discussed our long term plans with each other our dreams. One thing that took me a lot of time to understand that I should have as minimal contact with male friends as I can now which means none. I didn't know this at all before meeting him and him expressing this dislike and I understood that if I expect him to not talk to other women I shouldn't either. Ever since then, I had maintained an all women only friends group.

We went through a lot of fights and our insecurities manifested in ways that I didn't think would. He made some mistakes and I did as well. We forgave each other however.

Now the thing is when I told my mother who is the primary decision maker in our family about this, she was delighted to hear I had found the one person I wanted to marry. But things took a turn for the worse, when she asked me to send his details and his picture to show to an "aalim". This "aalim" who takes the help of "muaakil" said that this man that I want to marry is of bad character, will ruin my life if I end up marrying him because he is emotionally unstable.

Ever since then my mother has been against our marriage. I fought with her. I have been fighting with her for a year. The thing is my family firmly believes in this aalim's judgement . I told them that this is wrong and I would only not marry him if they actually brought me evidence.

My aunt and my grandma has been supporting me but they also asked another "aalim" and this "aalim" said the same thing.

The thing is this guy isn't from our culture and the culture he is from isn't exactly seen as good outside of it. But I am against stereotypes as well.

His parents have already called my aunt to ask for my hand in marriage since my mother refuses to speak to his parents.

My mother is hell bent that despite me struggling to get us married if I do end up marrying him what if this aalim's words turn out to be true. What will I do then?

I just feel so stuck.