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Our timeline keeps getting pushed back. We’re both mid 20’s, bf is struggling with his career so obviously getting married and starting a family are on the back burner. I have a good job, but I’m also in school and won’t graduate for another 2-3 years. He says maybe we’ll be ready in 5 years, but I’ll be 31 and the idea of beginning to try then is really stressing me out. I told him when we got together I wanted to start trying at 28 (I just turned 26) but ofc life happens. Does anyone who is/was in a similar situation have any advice? Is there any testing I should have done now, if that’s even possible?

My bf and I have a good relationship, but lately I haven’t felt great and I don’t know if it’s just due to my overthinking and anxiety. Whenever we first got together he made a lot of jokey comments about a heavily sexualized actress to the point where I now refuse to watch anything with her in it with him. Whenever we watch a movie he often comments on actresses, how hot he thought they were (always someone who looks nothing like me.) I was talking about how I went golfing with someone before and he joked that if it was who he was thinking about (he went on to tell me about a hot golfer he saw that wears shirts with her tits out) then that’s cool. I was talking about my body goals and wanting to be a bit leaner and he starts going on about loving big boobs and ass. He got a new job and was joking about seeing how the work wife situation is. We had a solicitor come to our door when I wasn’t home and he teased me saying that she gave him her number and was flirting with him. I know he doesn’t do any of this to hurt my feelings and most of the time is just teasing me to see my reaction, but I’ve asked him not to make comments about other women and it still keeps happening. This is my first relationship and I know I definitely have insecurity problems, but I’m also not sure if this behavior is normal. Whenever I bring it up, he says he’s sorry, but I think he’s starting to become annoyed with me being so sensitive about it. I worry if he’s so lustful towards people online, then he’s probably also checking out women in person.

My bf and I have a good relationship, but lately I haven’t felt great and I don’t know if it’s just due to my overthinking and anxiety. Whenever we first got together he made a lot of jokey comments about a heavily sexualized actress to the point where I now refuse to watch anything with her in it with him. Whenever we watch a movie he often comments on actresses, how hot he thought they were (always someone who looks nothing like me.) I was talking about how I went golfing with someone before and he joked that if it was who he was thinking about (he went on to tell me about a hot golfer he saw that wears shirts with her tits out) then that’s cool. I was talking about my body goals and wanting to be a bit leaner and he starts going on about loving big boobs and ass. He got a new job and was joking about seeing how the work wife situation is. We had a solicitor come to our door when I wasn’t home and he teased me saying that she gave him her number and was flirting with him. I know he doesn’t do any of this to hurt my feelings and most of the time is just teasing me to see my reaction, but I’ve asked him not to make comments about other women and it still keeps happening. This is my first relationship and I know I definitely have insecurity problems, but I’m also not sure if this behavior is normal. Whenever I bring it up, he says he’s sorry, but I think he’s starting to become annoyed with me being so sensitive about it. I worry if he’s so lustful towards women online/on tv, then he’s probably also checking out women in person.