r/workplace_bullying

I'm really having a problem dealing with people at work. I've had bullies in my workplace spreading some nasty lies about me having a small penis.

It started because someone didn't like me for some reason. This person then went around trying to recruit people to hate me with her. I didn't realize it was bullying at the time. I thought she just didn't like me and unfortunately some people are just toxic like that.

So I just tried to ignore her. Then I noticed that people were just accusing me of all kinds of things. That I was leaving messes and accusing me of trying to steal food. I also noticed that people were bonding by saying bad things about me. I still continued to ignore them.

So I guess they escalated and now started saying that I have a small penis. Which I don't, I'm average size and they haven't seen it. They've been making small penis jokes around me for a while but I didn't think they were talking about me. Then someone said it and I realized that they were saying that about me all this time.

I kinda messed up and got visibly upset. So they think they stuck a nerve. But seriously who wouldn't get mad if people were saying this about them. I was even so mad that I was planning on showing someone so they could shut up because I don't think being average sized is something to be embarrassed about. Luckily the person wasn't there that day and I came to my senses before I lost my job.

Now I seriously don't know what to do. I feel so disgusted that they went that far and been saying this about me. It's just so infuriating and humiliating to even be around these people now. I don't know how I can continue working with them. But I have to because I make good money. They since stopped saying anything but I bothers me so much that they now think I'm the small penis guy that they laugh about when it's not even true. I never even done anything to these people. They're just demented when they're supposed to be professional educated people.

I also don't know if going to HR is a good idea at this point. Because I wasn't on point and documenting things and many of these things happened a while ago. Not to mention that even more people will then think I have a small penis.

I don't know I guess I'm just venting and wondering if anyone knows how can I even continue with these people. Because finding another job like this isn't easy. Not to mention that I don't want to lose my pension by leaving.

Let me describe my current workplace

1. They pay salary 20 days late sometimes a month later as well
2. They deduct income tax from salary but don’t deposit to government
3. They deduct PF from salary and don’t deposit and for some people they didn’t open PF account only
4. Verbal harassment is very common. And openly threaten people by saying things like you’re fired, fire this and that person
5. Block salaries during notice period and PIP
6. They say they will give FnF and relieving letter within 45 days but they haven’t given to people who left even an year ago till today

They pay higher than market rate and keep a very good reputation in US. They also have business jurisdiction in US. Also, it’s remote in India with office registered in Hyderabad via LLP. I’m planning to send a legal notice 45 days after my last working day. Any thoughts?

He wouldn't look at me for my first three months. He was extremely combative to my ideas or suggestions. He made faces when I talked, he would interrupt me constantly, and would try to undermine my experience or efforts. He really tried to make me feel small. It got to the point where his behavior felt like flat-out misogyny.

I reported him a number of times over the course of three years. Roughly two years ago, we were put together in a meeting facilitated by HR. Unfortunately, nothing changed in our dynamic.

Since February, our working relationship had gotten extremely strained. He had been granted permission to start working on a function of our team that I have been the principal lead on. Prior to, my supervisor had asked if I was comfortable with him coming on to help-- I had requested an additional headcount for coordination. I thought maybe this was an opportunity to finally collaborate and work together.

For the first couple months of this change, our communication was pretty one-sided until it all came to a mount a couple weeks ago. In a meeting with our supervisor present, he threatened to sue me for asking him for 50/50 collaboration on a project the two of us were working on. I immediately moved to end the meeting and reported the incident to HR. They were confused over what he was going to sue me over just as much as I was.

Well, fast forward to today and our supervisor announces to the team he has his last day.

I'm kind of in shock. I spent years dealing with stress from his intimidation and meanness. I've talked about this to no end in therapy for months. And now he's just gone. I feel a mixture of relief, a little guilt (it's a hard job market and I don't wish the struggle of job searching on anyone), and some other feeling I can't quite put my finger on.

Putting this out there as a success story I guess? It doesn't feel successful to be bullied and have someone fired for it. However, it does feel good to be seen, heard, and protected. So, I'm hoping this also becomes the story for someone else out there who is currently struggling in a similar situation.

I've worked as a cashier in a pharmacy since mid-January. There is a client that has made it a point of belittling me, laughing at me and making derogatory comments each time he comes in. So far I've remained a professional and polite approach, but I've reached a boiling point. This morning, I brought it to the attention of my manager, but he says that that is not intimidation nor harassment, totally disregarding how upset I am by the situation. I was basically told that any client can be difficult and that if I can't handle the situation, I should resign. My mind is pretty much made up. I lost all respect for management.

I feel like I’m being bullied at work by my own boss. They seem to push every button to make my job and my life miserable. I get yelled at for things no one else is expected to do, yet nothing is ever said to them. When I try to help, I’m shut down, and when they speak to me, it’s always cold and rude.

I have anxiety, depression, and ADHD, and I was actually told to leave them “at the door”—as if I can just turn off my mental health. I’ve been written up twice, including once for making people “uncomfortable” because I was anxious and worried about losing my job due to how I’ve been treated.

Now I’m being excluded from group chats, my coworkers ignore me, and I’m left out of everything. I feel completely isolated. I wish I could just quit, but I need the paycheck, so I’m trying to find another job.

This situation has seriously affected my mental health. I cry every day, and it’s made me feel completely worthless.