r/thepassportbros

And I want to know how normal this is or if I should be concerned. So I'll try to keep things short.

• Looking into The Philippines to stay longer term as Digital nomad
• Got an exploration trip booked for <30 days (visa free)
• Changed my location on dating site because why not
• Got tons and tons of likes, many obvious scammers and some golddiggers but still plenty of very legit seeming profiles at first glance, a lot of filtering and chatting
• Been chatting with this one woman and it feels good, even did some video calls and she is the person on the picture, not a deepfake (walking around the house/place, hands multiple time in front of face, eating in front of camera, other people been on camera)
• According to people here in the west I'm a "7", but I'm also on the very short side here (just for your info)
• We agreed to meet in person on my trip

So here is the thing: she has somewhat of a trip to do to go to the city where I stay and suggests staying there. She just graduated and is obviously not rich. So far she never hinted at money problems, or asked for anything and even suggests me cheaper things and seems to live frugal.

I offered to pay for a room for her (really fucking cheap IMO) but she insist on staying with me in my room because "I should save money". It matches her prior more frugal mindset but I'm worried if there is a catch? Is it normal she wants to stay with a foreigner in the same hotel room without even having met in person yet? Or is it more likely she might... steel my stuff and run off while I'm asleep?

That's actually why I prefer to pay for a room for her actually. Want to make her comfortable but I'm also worried about myself. Or is it just common for a 20 something Filipina to want to stay in the same hotel room with a 30 something foreigner after a first date?

The Economist did a bit about passport bros. You need a subscription to read it, but the main points are (summarised using AI):

• Western Dating Exit: Men are leaving Western dating markets because they believe the system is "broken" and feel mistreated by women in their home countries.
• Pursuit of Tradition: They use social media to identify countries where women are perceived to be more "traditional," "feminine," and "compliant".
• Economic Leverage: Remote work and digital-nomad visas allow these men to use Western salaries to easily support a traditional single-income household in cheaper foreign markets.
• Power Dynamics: Critics raise concerns about exploitation*, noting that the vast income gap between the men and their partners creates "disproportionate levels of power"*

None of these points are new. The main thing I took away is that even highly established news mediums like The Economist are now reporting on this trend, which means the dating difficulty for men in the west is very real. Whenever I've spoken to others who aren't dating (due to having families, or already being married), they tend to point to things I personally should work on or personal attributes that need changing, rather than acknowledging (at least to some degree) a wider systemic issue in society. I don't see the increasing trend of men moving abroad as just more men wanting to engage in sex tourism... I think men are moving abroad because they have no choice. They want romance, but simply can't find it in the West.

Its very frustrating that many western women don't see the issue here. Ultimately, women are the 'selectors' and the fact that less people are successfully coupling up in the West, means less women are selecting men.

And it's not like I've haven't tried... I've really really tried to adjust to what I've been told women like... including having much to offer financially... but yet I've still failed. I really don't want to leave my country and job (especially in this economy) in search for romance... but I also want my own family... so I don't have much of a choice. I don't have siblings and my parents are very old and could pass away in the coming years... I am scared of being all alone. I was even thinking about my will last night (I don't hope to die soon, but was wondering what would happen to my assets should I pass), and I literally could not think of anyone I'd pass my assets to...

I hope a woman reads this and at least acknowledges that there are men out there who are really trying their best to be a good partner, but for whatever reason, they are still not being accepted by women.

Just needed to vent tonight... feeling particularly defeated.

Sharing this tip I heard while travelling in Colombia but probably applies to all foreign countries.

If traveling with a mobile phone please lock or better delete your banking apps. Don’t forget cached passwords on browsers.

The value of stealing your phone is not only in the device itself but in the apps on the phone. While in Colombia someone advised me that people are stealing phones, brute forcing access to the device and then using the banking apps to move all your money out.

Sharing, as this didn’t cross my mind. Sorry if everyone already knew.

I’ve noticed that Thai women are slowly choosing to date foreign men closer to their age (less than 5 years).

I was talking to a few mid 20s to mid 30s Thai women who are generally open to foreigners. However the idea of dating a man in their 40s and up was not something they welcomed. These women had decent jobs but nothing hiso.

I’ve also heard frustrations from older men that it is becoming harder to date due to many younger foreign guys coming to Thailand and living long term. These younger guys have good jobs and savings too.

Is this me or has anyone noticed this shift too?

I cant be the only one that notices how mentally ill, paranoid, and delusional American women have become after the pandemic. Every conversation I see online is about how men are predators, mysoginusts or “groomers”. I’ve never heard a girl outside of America rant about this kind of shit ever. Was reading a Reddit post this morning by a 21 yr old girl literally just talking about a guy flirting with her at work, who she flirted back with, then goes on to say “guy at work must be grooming me! Need advice”. This is how warped their brains have become from social media and feminism. When I tell my Filipina girlfriend about it she laughs is like man they’re fucking weird af over there lol. Stay safe out there boys.

Looking for real experiences only — not opinions.

I keep seeing people say she'll "become like Western women" once she moves here. I'm not interested in speculation. I want to hear from guys who have actually done this.

Did bringing your partner back to North America negatively affect your relationship? If so, how and why?

Please only comment if you've been through this exact situation. No hypotheticals.

I dont want your short answer. I want your story as to why it failed.

In the Philippines, it's the main way to date, but my experience is absolutely brutal.

Lies from the beginning. I don't understand the reason, but lies without having to do so.

Women you can't tell if they're prostis.

Women well past their prime with very high demands.

Ghosting.

Demands like "please be tall", "don't be broke." I comply, but I find it disgusting and transactional to write that in your profile.

Switching to WhatsApp, and they delete you from the app.

Suddenly, they ask you for money on WhatsApp.

Having to deal with catfishing and whether they're trans or biological women.

Being one swipe away from being replaced by someone else.

Dealing with the possibility that the woman you meet might be addicted to swiping on the app.

I also notice that I feel better, happier, with less anxiety if I stop using them and focus on living my life. I'm close to deleting them all, but I don't have any other way to meet women. Maybe I'll hire someone to manage them.

Any advice for navigating the brutality?

Some minor inconveniences aside, Cuenca let me quit the career grind years earlier than I could have most anywhere else

Hey folks, I'm looking for advice on whether I should move out of my country and what the best options are for me.

I'm a 24 (soon to be 25 year old) from the United States and am 5'5. I work in tech and make a decent salary. I'm pretty outgoing and social; I love reading classics, learning about history and the world, practicing jiu jitsu, and I self study mathematics on the side. I also go country swing dancing these days, as a way to meet women and socialize. I have no dating however, and it's really been killing me these last few years. I am motivated by self improvement (athletically, intellectually, and socially) and I feel that I can talk to most people about anything. I'm not socially perfect, I know I have things to work on, however, I know I'm not such a social imbecile that I should not have a dating life. I'm seriously considering moving to a different country in order to find love, but I'm not sure where I should go.

Because I love history, if there is a country I would actually enjoy moving to and living, it would be Italy. However, I don't think I'd have better prospects in another Western country, particularly a European one. Because of how many passions that I have, adding the learning of a foreign language to my life would take away energy from those other things that I'm passionate about, so I'd prefer to be in some country which speaks English, or which understands it well enough. I don't care much about Latino culture, and so am thinking that Asia would be a better fit for me.

And lastly, the thought of having to leave my home country just to be able to have a dating life is a depressing thought to me. I love my country, and this culture is the one I grew up in and feel the most at home with (but for the fact that life is so lonely).

So it seems like the Philippines is the best option for me, but I'm not opposed to Latin America either. I'm also considering SE Asia.

I’m 19M 6’0 Mexican-American and in the United States Marine Corps and will be going to Okinawa Japan. How are women over there in general for both casual relationships and maybe long term. In the near future, I plan to travel to Taiwan, Australia, Thailand, Sweden, Germany, France, and Serbia. Although I won’t be primarily there for women I would still like to have fun and want to know how it is over there.

Was texting this girl for 3 days and we were about to meet up tomorrow and then said "wait how tall are you?"

I told her and basically her world crumbled. She couldn't believe I was 168. She only dated 180+

She was trying to be nice about it and even said "well at least do you have big🍌?" Which I sadly don't.

Keep in mind she's 158cm she's tiny herself! Haha it does suck, as I really like this girl, but what can I do? Oh well on to the next one who hopefully isn't so shallow.

This question has probably been asked before… don’t take it down mods.

I’ve travelled to a few continents but haven’t been to Europe because I’d hate to spend hard earned money and have high hopes just to get discriminated against or looked at like a subhuman.

I would like some feedback from people familiar with dating in the Philippines (Manila).

I have noticed a pattern on Tinder that is starting to worry me. I match with women, we get along well, the conversation flows, and then later they reveal serious financial problems, such as being unemployed, struggling with bills, depressed, or being in a survival-type situation.

What makes this hard for me to read is that it is usually not direct. I cannot always tell whether they are simply venting and opening up about their life, or whether this is an indirect way of expecting me to help or offer something.

I am 41, so this topic is not completely new to me. In the past, for example in Brazil, I had cases where women asked me directly for financial help, and I immediately cut that off. Here it feels less direct, which makes it harder for me to understand what is really going on.

What is making me uneasy is that I seem to be running into this more often than expected. So now I am wondering whether this is just bad luck..., or whether this is a more common pattern there?

Has anyone else experienced this?

The girl I’m talking to from PH (we’ve met) told me about her ex. He’s from the same region of the US that I’m in.

He has:

1. Paid for tuition for her for two years
2. Completely upgraded and remodeled their family home, putting it in her name
3. Bought her a MacBook Air and fancy iPhone
4. Random money drops into her account (40k php)
5. Invested capital so her and her mom could start a pig butchering business

And then she fell out of love with him. He wanted to marry, she wanted to stay put. That relationship only lasted 2 years.

I can’t believe it. She also thinks it’s funny.

Hi,

At the moment living in USA, will be retiring at the age of 42 to a Spanish speaking country and my Spanish is pretty good, studying for 7 years.

I’m a dentist and 38 years old now. At 42 i will have had 4 million saved and ready to sell the dental office.

My goal is to date a girl between 25-30 years old. I don’t want to use dating apps, my plan is to go to the gym, sign up for dance classes and make friends men and women and attend events to build a social circle and hopefully I meet a girl through friends that I make.

Yet there will be times where I see someone that’s working at a cafe that I really find attractive. I will go to the safe cafe for weeks and just say hi nothing more until she gets to be familiars with me. Then maybe ask her if she would like to get some coffee or attend a event with me.

Which South American city or country can I go where women are approachable in this way ?

I truly just want one girl friend and build a relationship with her long term. I am not looking to date multiple people - I just want to find one person for long term an introduce her to my group friends that I made in the country and live a happy

Life with her

Can I get some advice on how best to handle this. I live in Virginia and I’m seeking a South America or Latina woman. Any advice on how best to do this. I’m 24 and I’d rather not be shilling premium online options. Is there anywhere I can go that will be safe, religious but also have the um… cafe con leche phenotype they call it? I’m just looking for guidance, not to be roasted so any help would be appreciated

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Hi Guys,

I am possibly moving to Norway. As such, I was hoping you would share your experiences with respect to the Dating Scene in Norway.

As an Indian man, I realize that we are often stereotyped and often not viewed positively by women who live outside of our home country. Some of this may be justified while other times it simply is a product of being misunderstood. Either way, I'd prefer to enter into a relationship here with my eyes open and not blindly.

Therefore, I'll ask you to give me the straight-up answer to the following questions:

How is the dating experience for an Indian man living in Norway?

Do people generally accept Indians when it comes to dating, or do they tend to shy away from them?

What types of behaviors/attitudes will cause people to lose interest in an Indian man, and what type of behaviors/attitudes can help foster long-term relationships?

Do cultural issues affect one's ability to form genuine connections with someone they meet in Norway?

Again, I'm looking for honest responses.