Is this a common Tinder pattern in the Philippines, or a red flag?
I would like some feedback from people familiar with dating in the Philippines (Manila).
I have noticed a pattern on Tinder that is starting to worry me. I match with women, we get along well, the conversation flows, and then later they reveal serious financial problems, such as being unemployed, struggling with bills, depressed, or being in a survival-type situation.
What makes this hard for me to read is that it is usually not direct. I cannot always tell whether they are simply venting and opening up about their life, or whether this is an indirect way of expecting me to help or offer something.
I am 41, so this topic is not completely new to me. In the past, for example in Brazil, I had cases where women asked me directly for financial help, and I immediately cut that off. Here it feels less direct, which makes it harder for me to understand what is really going on.
What is making me uneasy is that I seem to be running into this more often than expected. So now I am wondering whether this is just bad luck..., or whether this is a more common pattern there?
Has anyone else experienced this?