I’ve been with my girlfriend for two years. Before we started, I was completely transparent about who I am and my financial status. She accepted everything back then.

Now, when its time to talk about marriage, she is giving me a new excuse: she says that in her "lineage" (vongsho), love marriages are seen as a disgrace, so she can't even bring up a proposal to her parents.

​My question is: if she knew her family’s views on "relationship marriages" were so strict, why did she get involved with me in the first place? she says she can’t talk to her family because they consider relationship marriages shameful.

​I’ve lost so much time I could have used to grow my business and now she’s refusing to even try. It feels like she’s just waiting for an arranged marriage and used me for company for two years.

​She took my time, my energy, and my focus, and now she's throwing it away because she thinks she has better options. This isn't just a breakup; it feels like a scam. I’ve lost 2 years and massive professional growth. What should I do now for get cheated? What action can be take? What are the strict steps I can take? I feel completely cheated.

আপনারা যারা বাড়িওয়ালা আছেন, তারা আপনাদের বাসার ভাড়ার হিসাব কীভাবে রাখেন এবং কী কী সমস্যায় পরেন?

আমরা ভাড়ার হিসাব প্যাডে রাখি। আমাদের বাসায় ২৫ টা ইউনিট আছে। সাবমিটারের মাধ্যমে কারেন্টের লাইন দেয়া। তো প্রতি মাসের ১ তারিখে সাবমিটার দেখে রিডিং নিয়ে কারেন্ট বিল বানাতে হয় প্রায় আধা ঘণ্টা ধরে। তারপর সেটা প্যাডে তুলা হয়। প্রতি ইউনিটের ভাড়া আগের মাসের ভাড়া দেখে দেখে নতুন মাসের বিলে লিখতে হয় কারণ একেক ইউনিটের ভাড়া একেক রকম। তারপর কারো কোন বাকি থাকলে বা কিছু টাকা এক্সট্রা দেয়া থাকলে সেটা লিখে সব মিলায় যোগ করে হিসাব করা লাগে। প্রায় ঘণ্টা খানিক সময় প্রতি মাসে শুধু এই বিল বানাতেই যায়। তারপর আবার সেগুলা স্লিপ বানায় সবাইকে দিয়ে আসতে হয়। এর মধ্যে অনেকে চাকরি করে, এবং সবসময় পাওয়া ও যায় না।

Hello, Is anyone interest to practice speaking regularly, as a Sylheti i'm looking for someone from Sylhet who really committed to improve speaking, i recently got my visa,Hence i desperately want to improve my speaking ability

I'm 24 Male soul living in Dhaka, studying in a reputed private university & my family lives in Sylhet ( Hometown ). Because of my father's job posting was in Chittagong and moved to sylhet in 2023 after retirement, i have no friend or known mates here. Whenever i come to see my parents, my friendless & unsocial life becomes heavier.

Being alone is good but constant days can make the day worst of all.

If anyone is there for making friends and Hangouts. Please let me know and DM me.

Let's get to know mates!

Please suggest some dating spots in sylhet town.

Somewhere private and safe as sylhet is a small everyone knows eachother

সিলেট শহরে নতুন একটা ফুটবল ইন্ডোর গ্রাউন্ড (টার্ফ) করতে চাইলে, লোকেশন কোন দিকে হইলে ভালো হবে?

Basically wanted to ask what’s the Gulshan of Sylhet? A nice place with security upscale, and resources like hospitals schools madrasa etc in an affluent neighborhood.

Is there any way to get sylhet club memberships. What’s the process how do I get it ? What are the benefits

I’m 21 years old, and I’ve never dated anyone. Not because I never wanted love, but because every guy I’ve ever gotten close to always tells me the same thing: “You’re too good for me.” At first, I thought it was a compliment, but now it just feels exhausting and painful. There was a guy I had known for 7 years, and we were really close friends. He always used to tell me how much he liked girls like me kind, funny, caring, a good listener, someone with a good personality but I always avoided those conversations because I wanted to know if he genuinely meant it or if he was just saying nice things. Earlier this year, we stopped talking for a few weeks, and after Ramadan when we started speaking again, I found out he had gotten into a relationship. What hurt the most was that just days before, he had been saying things that made it seem like he liked me, so I asked him how he suddenly had a girlfriend. His answer honestly broke me. He said I was “too good” for him and that someone more responsible deserved me. I didn’t even know what to say after that. Then my cousin and best friends started telling me that if I ever date someone, it should be someone I can actually see a future with, someone serious and genuine. So I decided to open myself up to someone new, and I started talking to one of my seniors who had already graduated. For the first time in my life, I genuinely felt like I might finally fall for someone, but I had no idea what his real intentions were. As we got closer, he started saying inappropriate things, and when I didn’t respond the way he wanted, he suddenly told me we should stop talking because I was “too much of a green forest” for him. He said he wasn’t looking for someone like me because right now he only wanted to have “fun.” Then he added that his family would never accept him marrying someone “Deshi” anyway. So basically, he wanted to date me for entertainment while planning to marry whoever his family chose in the future, and once he realized I wasn’t that type of girl, he walked away too. After that, I just sat there completely stunned, wondering what is actually wrong with my love life. I’m tired of being appreciated but never chosen, tired of hearing that I’m “too good” while people still leave me behind. Sometimes being a “green forest” feels less like a blessing and more like a curse.

hey guys, planning a 1 day tour around sylhet. any suggestions where i should go?

looking for chill nature spots, nice views, maybe some good local food too.

Anyone looking to invest your savings to a good company for future profits?

The following text outlines my own observations regarding the state of Sylhet's economy (particularly Sylhet city). It explores the factors that makes Sylhet's economy truly unique from other regions in BD, as well as their implications for Sylhet's long-term economic tragectory.

I personally tended to feel pretty pessimistic regarding Sylhet's economic future.

1. The handful of sectors Sylhet's economy excessively depends on (e.g., remittances, tourism, tea) are not only at the mercy of external factors beyond its control, but remittances in particular (which have long insulated Sylhetis from the socioeconomic realities of BD) are also about to be hit hard by economic downturns + stricter immigration laws in the West.

2. Although those remittances have done wonders for Sylhet's economy in the past, they've also led people to neglect other vital sectors such as education, investment and infrastructure, resulting in a Nauru-esque "resource curse" of sorts:

> "why study for a degree or build a new road in my village, when I can just hop onto a plane to Heathrow and make a quick buck that way?"

The result is widespread poverty and low social mobility (especially for those living in tea plantations or haor areas) among those without the backing of rich relatives.

3. The prosperity stereotypically associated with Sylhet is also only really true for a minority of very rich and influential families rather than the majority. This steep social inequality, coupled with the aforementioned economic insulation, has created a tribalist and reactionary climate that is hostile towards any whiff of dissent or social change.

Given these factors, I'm highly doubtful whether Sylhet can develop economically while still retaining its unique cultural identity. It isn't just the poverty or standards of living for the majority, but also the friction between the strong reactionary elements of Sylheti society and the rapid social changes it will inevitably have to confront, which will cause a lot of social upheaval and internal resentment later down the line.

Although the presence of many Sylheti people in the new BNP government may offer a glimmer of hope, even they cannot do much if the underlying structural issues I mentioned aren't addressed. It is high time the more educated or better off of Sylhet's residents discussed all of these issues more openly and loudly.

Even with all of those social constraints, awareness and acknowledgement can go a long way into laying the groundwork for positive change in the long-run.

I am considering to go sust for bsc in mathematics. I don't any person who lives in sylhet. What barriers are there to live there .I never left Dhaka entire my life.

Hey, i am currently living in Laldighir Par, near Nobab Road. For broad band connection I was using Global Link, their connection is very poor. I need to switch. Now, who should I go for. I looked into google map, there are quite a few, I am getting confused.

To the mods (whoever you are) could you please update the subreddit's icon and banner? This sub is getting more active by the day and there are real organic conversations happening. The best part is that it genuinely represents Sylheti people, without being overrun by people with specific agenda or belief. Now, it deserves some proper treatment, so please give it a decent icon and banner.

২ রাত ৩ দিনের জন্য সিলেট যাচ্ছি ৫ জন বন্ধু মিলে। সকালে পারাবাত এক্সপ্রেসে করে শ্রীমঙ্গল নামার প্ল্যান করেছি। আনুমানিক কত সময় লাগে ঢাকা কমলাপুর থেকে শ্রীমঙ্গলে পৌঁছাতে? যাওয়ার ঐদিন কি শ্রীমঙ্গল, লাউয়াছড়া, মাধবকুণ্ড লেক ঘুরে আশেপাশেই অন্য কোথাও যাওয়া সম্ভব?

Anyone selling laptop?

Comment specs, if possible add photos

Mid-range and must be inside city

Hello everyone, I'm from chittagong and I'm planning a trip to sylhet w bunch of my frenz. We'll be going there on the 22nd of this month. We'll be living in a friend's house at Lake City R/A. As we're jus students, our budget is pretty tight so we're hoping to make it affordable. We wanna checkout these places:

>Ratargul Swamp forest

>Lalakhal

>Sust

>Sada Pathor

>Khadimnagar Park

We'll be living there for two days and two nights. Can any local from sylhet, give us a cost breakdown of the transportation and expenses at the visiting spots. Also you could suggest the routes to cover these locations in two days. You can exclude or include more spots too. It'd be really helpful. TIA.