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I am a tamil myself and I just returned from jaffna after a trip.

I noticed that there's a lot of caste discrimination based on the village you're from, your family profession (toddy tapper, fishermen) and there's untouchability (parayar, dalits, etc.,)

The whole notion of Tamils wanting a separate country in my understanding had been them undergoing discrimination by the sinhalese.

But the Tamils have systematic and institutionalized discrimination within themselves upto this date.

Had they gotten an own country, what would have happened to this system? Or was it through out the elites trying to use their political clout for their advantage?

I recently went to OGF and noticed that most dudes never use the urinals. I personally prefer them over the stalls as the urinals tend to be much more clean and maintained. You do tend to get stated at while taking a piss but I don't really care lol, not much of a big deal lol. I just smile back at if there's a person next to me.

I have a bunch of issues.

First, I went to eat at the food court with my sister (we're both two women in our early twenties) and this guy came up to us, asking us for money to eat. We were obviously uncomfortable and said no, hoping he would go away. After asking us a bunch of times and us eventually ignoring him (we didn't know what to do), he left. Then after we finished eating, he came back again to bother us. The heck? I didn't expect this level at OGF.

Second, just the amount of men in groups hovering around the escalators staring at women. It's so... weird. And nobody does anything about it. Technically they aren't hurting anyone, but obviously it makes women feel unsafe at a PUBLIC mall. Though i don't see that much anymore, it was very common when OGF first opened. On top of that, one time I was walking from the exit in the car park towards the car, with my family (there were about 5 of us) and we had about 5 guys catcalling us and following us almost half of the way. Nothing happened because we turned the corner and they didn't follow us, but that was scary because they were yelling and whistling, and i've never experienced that even at MC or CCC.

Third, the washrooms. The mirror selfie taking, the wet floors, unflushed toilets, the whole thing. I mean come on. They maintained it very well at the start, but now unless you go to the top floors you can't expect the washrooms to be usable anymore.

What do you think that the OGF staff can do to stop these kind of things from happening? It feels that since the "hype" for OGF has died, they don't maintain the level of standard that they used to. Is it just me?

Like if you were able to get first class pass. I know how hard it is get into the final 4th year but still I wanna know if people had gone abroad to pursue higher studies in Cs/Ai/machine learning or something preferably to top US universities from UCSC Cs.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and wanted to see if anyone else in Sri Lanka has had similar experiences.

Did anyone have teachers who genuinely seemed like they disliked kids… or even enjoyed putting them down?

I’m not talking about strict teachers who wanted discipline or pushed you to do better. I mean the kind who:

Reward snitching and “teacher’s pet” behaviour

Encourage ass-kissing over actual thinking

Shut down any form of individuality or questioning

Expect extreme compliance rather than understanding

It felt like the system rewarded blind obedience, not intelligence.

And the way teenage relationships were treated… like it was some kind of crime. Always labelled as a “distraction from studies”, but ironically, the teaching quality itself was poor. So what exactly were they against?

Looking back, it sometimes felt like certain teachers were projecting their own issues onto students. Almost like they hadn’t healed from their own past, and they were using authority as a way to feel in control. And students became easy targets.

I don’t want to generalise because there are a handful of good teachers out there who genuinely care and change lives. But the negative ones can leave a lasting impact.

Curious to hear:

Did you experience this?

Do you think it’s a systemic issue or just a few individuals?

Has it affected how you view authority or education today?

Would be really interesting to hear different perspectives.

Just annoyed. I was watching a schools rugby game yesterday on Thepapare.com and the commentators had some “accent”. Wonder why they kept pronouncing some usual Sri Lankan names differently.

I’ve been contemplating separating from my husband for various reasons. It’s been over a year now, but I have a strong trauma bond with him. I just feel exhausted at this point…like nothing can save this marriage anymore. Has anyone here gone through a divorce? What happened after you separated, apart from the usual gossip from the aunties?

Colombo Street in Christchurch was named after an Anglican bishop's diocese in Ceylon (now Sri Lanka): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colombo_Street

so to give you guys some context, whenever there's this, specific smell (really bad, funky, like a rotten animal) is around my mom says there's a viper slithering nearby. when it's near i can't even be in my room and i feel like vomiting.mostly caught this smell at night. after 4-6 minutes the smell dissapear. i did some research and it says most snakes don't have a smell. even if they do it's not a strong oder. is this a myth? i even heard my grandma say the same thing.

. the no of foreigners owning lodges ,hotels , cafes even in interiors is shocking. europeans literally have taken over colombo.

So many damn places artificially hiked the prices. Where can I get it for around 280k-290k?

The name written on my citizenship certificate, birth certificate, and NIC are incorrect. My NIC & citizenship certificate are missing a letter, whilst my birth certificate is missing a letter and an entire name.

I do not live in Sri Lanka and I was born outside of Sri Lanka.

When I renewed my passport last year, I entered my correct name (the one with the letter that was missing) and it has the correct and updated name printed on the bio page. With this, I have updated my name for my residency in the UAE and applied and received visas with the new name.

How do I go about changing my name on my citizenship certificate and birth certificate from abroad?

When applying for certain visas, there is a discrepancy between my birth certificate name and passport name. This can cause problems which I want to avoid so I want to update my birth certificate to fix this.

Since my childhood I didnt like to work for someone else. I hated to do an 8-5 job and to live pay slip to pay slip. But the reality is far more different. You gotta have a job to be stable and to have food on your table. So I joined a company and worked like a robot for 9 hours everyday. I dont know but something inside is always telling me if you follow your passion you will be able to overcome your plight. Also like every company you gotta kiss your managers ass and bow down to his orders to get an effing promotion. But till death i wont stoop down to that level. So should I quit and follow my gut feeling or should I just be patient until the opportunity comes?

PS- Always wanted to be a lyrical rapper but I am scared to perform or express my thoughts.