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I'm 21F(muslim) and I'm a lesbian. I don't have a partner. I haven't come out to my family bcs of how traditional and rigid my parents r...

They've been dictating my whole life and now when I said I didn't want to get married, theyre calling me names and trying to set me up with someone without my consent.

I can't move out bcs I don't have financial freedom and allowances.

How do I go through this?

As mentioned above is the quality of the food reduced when offers are run at your stores ?

So like from what I have see mostly though movies and TV shows other countries encourage dating in middleschool or highschool. I feel like both teachers and parents. I could be wrong because those are from movies. I mean they have like dances and prom by the school which you most likely would take someone with.

In sri lanka parent and teachers both discourage dating as teens so much. Literally teacher wouldn't care about bullying and stuff but 2 kids holding hands and they would do everything to stop that.

My question is why people look at dating as teens as a crime or a way to ruin their life?

Im not talking about cringe sudu ammi sudu thaththi couples btw.

So did you date during school and now are you a drug dealer?

Since everyone in Sri Lanka is proud about their schools, what are the best names others used to refer to your school?

I’m looking for some help with getting an abortion in Kandy. My wife and I have only been married for four months, and we were planning to have kids in a couple of years since she’s busy with her studies at university (second year). She also travels back and forth each week.
Now, we’re dealing with an unexpected pregnancy. She’s about 9 weeks along. Our usual doctor said he doesn’t perform abortion and suggested we find someone else who will. I also tried getting the pills from pharmacies, but no luck there either. Since it’s already been 9 weeks, I know we need a doctor’s supervision. I would be grateful if anyone helps us find a VOG in Kandy who will perform abortion?

Hi All,
I'm going to Thailand on 31st May for a week.

Today I tried multiple places, and there are no USD to buy
Also some places offer LKR 350 per 1 USD. Seems very unfair.
Thai Baht is also almost LKR 12.

Any suggestions or alternatives?

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I’m 24 and feel like I ruined my life. I need honest advice.

I did A/L in the Bio Science stream and had to sit for it three times. I failed twice and only passed on my third attempt with 3 S passes. Looking back, during the COVID period I got distracted, became addicted to my phone, lost interest in studying, and didn’t take my studies seriously. I regret that deeply now.

My parents told me to change subjects earlier, but I refused. My relatives also looked down on me for taking Bio Science, and I think my ego made me continue even when I should have made a different decision. In the end, I passed, but I didn’t get selected to a state university.

Now I feel very behind in life. My A/L batch friends have almost finished their degrees, while I still feel stuck. I’m currently doing an HND in English, but honestly I don’t even like it. I also registered for a BSc through Open University because I want some future, but I’m scared it will take many years.

I’m from a middle-class family and can’t afford an expensive private university. I feel like I wasted years, and I regret not studying properly when I had the chance.

Has anyone here recovered after feeling this behind in life?

What realistic degree/career path should someone in my situation look into?

Is 24 actually too late to restart, or am I just panicking?

I would really appreciate honest advice from people who have been through something similar.

Every culture has those rules nobody officially teaches you but somehow everyone just knows and breaking them immediately makes things awkward. It could be anything.

What’s one rule in Sri Lanka that you only realized existed after you accidentally broke it?

I’m a 20F junior in tech working at a pretty big company, and I’m realizing I don’t really enjoy the field enough to see myself doing it long term.

A big part of it is that the industry feels kind of cooked right now and every day feels like a competition to constantly keep up, learn more, and outperform everyone else. I’ve honestly lost interest in the day-to-day work because of that.

I wouldn’t even mind working hard, learning constantly, and performing well if it actually felt stable or meaningful. But it’s hard to stay motivated when it feels like we’re all pretty insignificant to the company and could get laid off at any moment.

Would especially love advice from people who left tech early in their career and didn’t regret it, or moved into something that felt healthier/more fulfilling.

Mobitel and Dialog are probably the shittiest companies in Sri Lanka. Scamming people into buying packages worth thousands and not delivering even a cent worth of a “good connection”

Lately (for the past two days) both connections has been shit for me. At first I thought it was only for me but then I asked a few of my friends and they had the same response. I usually spend thousands on my mobile data packages since I have to get things done on my phone and I have never experienced this much of speed cap or latency in my connection in years. (FYI : I’m within the city limit where both Mobitel & Dialog offer 5G and I get full bars of 4G signal. Also this issue is the same when I go out and walk around the town as well)

Anyone of you having the same issue lately ?

Why is this bullshit still continuing here in the age of 2026

Literally nobody would say female genital mutiliation in Africa is a ‘cultural’ thing but this is a serious issue overlooked and even glorified in social media !

So the dollar is rising and Iran war is still going on making fuel and coal procurement hard. The state of solar generation is also abysmal. And a climate event called super elnino is predicted to happen this year where we'll get prolonged droughts. In such a case if we lose hydro as well, I feel like power cuts would be a possiblity. I haven't heard anyone in the government speaking about any preparations for this as well. Am I overthinking this or am I onto something?

I’m a 26 year old Sri Lankan woman, working remotely with a stable income, but I still feel like I have almost zero independence in my life.

My parents are extremely overprotective and controlling. I’m not allowed to go out alone just to relax, sit at a cafe, read a book, or spend time by myself. Even if I go for office outings or meetups, my mom comes with me and waits in the vehicle outside until I finish. If I meet a female friend, my parents want to “see her face” first before allowing me to go out.

The thing is, I’m not asking to club, party, stay out overnight, or do anything reckless. I just want basic adult freedom. But my dad says even if I’m 40, they still won’t let me go out alone without a “valid reason.”

This situation has started affecting me mentally and emotionally a lot. I feel trapped at home and unable to properly experience adulthood or independence.

I’ve tried calmly talking to my parents many times, but they immediately become angry or dismissive. They genuinely think they’re protecting me.

Another thing is, this isn’t because I’ve been a “problem child.” I’ve actually been very obedient my whole life. I focused on studies, got a good job, rarely went out, stayed home, and always tried to respect my parents.

But now that I’m older and trying to have calm adult conversations about independence, they completely dismiss my feelings. My dad has even told me that if I want full freedom and independence, then I can leave the house - but if I leave, I should never come back.

So I feel stuck between two extreme choices:

1. Stay at home and continue living under heavy control.

2. Leave home entirely and risk damaging my bond with my parents forever.

I don’t hate my parents, and I know they think they’re protecting me. But at the same time, I feel like I’m not allowed to fully become my own person.

Has anyone else in Sri Lanka experienced this as an adult? How did you handle it?

I work at a well-known, high-paying tech MNC in Sri Lanka. Since it’s a US-based company, the global HR policies are supposed to promote a flat hierarchy, open communication, and an environment where anyone can pitch ideas or raise concerns to leadership.

However, the local reality is completely different. Despite the corporate branding, local management and HR have imported a toxic, old-school local mindset. Here is what’s actually happening:

The "God" Complex: Despite the "flat hierarchy" promise, local managers expect juniors to treat them like untouchable bosses. Questioning decisions or offering alternative suggestions is seen as a sign of disrespect rather than collaboration.

University & School Nepotism: Management is actively grooming the next line of leaders based entirely on their high school/university "old boys" networks.

Bosses, Not Leaders: We are seeing completely unqualified individuals put into positions of power. To make it worse, they are being trained by the senior boomers to dismiss junior input and act like traditional, authoritative bosses rather than modern leaders.

Because this company pays among the highest salaries in the country, most employees are just putting up with the toxicity and keeping their heads down. Nobody wants to lose the paycheck, so the boomer mindset goes unchallenged.

But the consequences are starting to show. Our US headquarters has noticed the drop in agility/culture and has slowly been shifting major work and projects to other global delivery centers. Now, there are strong rumors of upcoming layoffs in the Sri Lanka office.

Has anyone else experienced this specific brand of toxic corporate culture in other MNCs here? Is this unique to a few bad apples, or is the Sri Lankan tech sector fundamentally stuck in this old-school mindset despite the global branding?

Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences.

what’s with the notion that if you pay for your education, that education isn’t valid? And why is this problem only within the medical system, why not in engineering not in law ? The irony is that when when they become doctors, they don’t send their children through the national system. The mos sensible ones atleast send them to international schools and education abroad for higher studies. What needs to change?this is a very primitive way of thinking by the people that are SUPPOSED to be most knowledgeable.