r/selfdevelopment

1. depressed in bed: i just switched onto the other side of the bed (head is where feet normally are.)I'm still depressed, but it's a hack and I feel *different* at the very least.
2. sit up. I'm not going for a brisk walk. Rome wasn't built in a day. I can be slouchy and just pay attention to a few breaths, and then lie back down and feel like crap upside down.
3. change clothes. showering isn't happening any time either, but just changing my clothes and underwear again, is at least *a change* and again, I can lie down and feel like crap in bed and now maybe even sit up on my computer and express myself in some way to the world (this).
4. open the blinds. that's all. nothing made of it, just something to do that makes things different.
5. reach out in a smart way: if I'm still in here in a little while, I can text my mom saying that I am just busy and need some quiet and alone time and that I'm not isolating.
6. share: just sharing this, reaching out... first of all I'm expressing in a safe way (safer than if I were to try to go out and talk to my family about why the universe will never care whether or not I went for a walk today) what's going on with me in the present moment, and so it's less of a burden on ME. It's shared and I'm at least believing that someone is out there reading. If someone is, and it helps, and they want to help too, and maybe it takes hours... but relating with those who really understand helps. If I share something that is helpful, too, I'll feel a little bit more self-esteem and self-worth.

Maybe I will do that short meditation, maybe I will brush my teeth, maybe I will pet my dog for a bit. Maybe I will flip on the TV and even if I don't find anything... if noooone of this works, I can always go back to bed.

Anyway for me it's the little things and I do not want to hear about support networks, balanced diet and regular exercise when this stuff hits, the real Depression with a capital D that VERY FEW understand and even fewer talk about... I need to say real things and I need to hear real things so. Those are real, I hope this helps... the changing into different pajamas, sitting up for a hot second, lying on the other side of the bed, and texting people in the other rooms instead of talking all work really really well for me just to feel a little bit better. Hope to hear everyone else's little hacks so maybe we can all get together and help each other.

Nothing can limit your life like fears.

Fears keep you locked in your potential.

Fears imprison you in your comfort zone.

Fears are villains that destroy most lives.

If you don’t conquer your fears, you will be their prisoner for the rest of your life.

Imagine Your Life Without Fears- Do you feel free?
What Keeps You Powerless Against Your Fears?- Only you.
Did You Try To Overcome Any Fear?- If you didn’t, why?
Your Fears Beat You- So What? Don’t give up, you are close to overcoming them.
Fears Are Illusions- They exist just in your mind.
Facing Fears- The only real way to conquer your fears is to face them directly.
You Can't Unlock Your Potential If You Don’t Overcome Your Fears- No one can.
Where Your Fear Is There Is Your Task- Don’t neglect that duty.
You Are Free Only If You Are Fearless- Fears can imprison everyone.
Don’t Let Your Fears Design Your Life- It would be hell, not life.

What could you achieve in the next 90 days if fear weren't holding you back?

First time posting so not sure if I’m doing this right but here we go..

I’m pretty much losing it and idk what to do to fix myself. I feel like a nervous wreck pretty much all the time even though I’m a second semester senior. I don’t even have senioritis even though I’ve been trying to sort of slack off because I can’t bear to see my grades drop. Ironic considering how I’m considered mediocre at my school and I also got waitlisted/rejected from pretty much every college I wanted to go to. I can’t help comparing myself to every person I see, whether it be stats, appearance, etc. and yes, I know this is wrong but I genuinely cannot help it. I got a C on my chemistry test today and I felt the world collapse, especially since it was an “easy” test that everyone else did great on. I can’t help collapsing in on myself everytime something minor happens. I just think about what I did wrong and how I’m a horrible person. I’ve been trying to raise my emotional intelligence over the last few years (and it has no doubt gotten a lot better) but I feel so lacking when I realize (in hindsight) that I screwed up basic social interactions and I’ve disappointed people around me. I feel like it’s consuming me to the point where I’m terrified of everything because I can just imagine myself screwing everything up. When I was driving earlier today, after hanging out with my friends (where I messed up a social interaction), I couldn’t stop thinking about it to the point where I missed a lot of exits/turns I was supposed to take. I just don’t know how to silence the voices in my head maybe I’m going insane idk

Sorry if this was a lot and thanks if you read the whole thing 🫶. I sorta just dumped everything I’ve been feeling for a while.