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Daily chat to discuss anything related to pregnancy after loss.
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Daily chat to discuss anything related to pregnancy after loss.
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Our firstborn, our Lily, was born sleeping at 35 weeks last November 2025. She died due to lack of oxygen from a long hypercoiled cord and a marginal placenta insertion (her cord was attached on the side of the placenta rather than the centre). She was otherwise a perfectly healthy baby.
I am now pregnant with her little sibling. I just want to hear from other parents who had something similar happen with their angel baby's cord and/or placenta and are now pregnant/have given birth - how are you now? How have you overcome the anxiety? Have you given birth to a healthy baby?
The cord and placenta insertion circumstance is completely random and apparently can happen to anyone. The medical professionals and my own personal research all say there was absolutely nothing I could have done to prevent it. It "just happens" and sadly it happened to us. To our firstborn child.
Now I am filled with fear and anxiety. I'm hoping hearing from some of you will somewhat ease a bit of that fear and anxiety.
Thank you in advance.
Hi all! For those of you who had an easy vaginal delivery with their loss, for your subsequent pregnancy did you opt for a vaginal delivery again or a planned c section?
I’m currently 26 weeks after a full term loss. My daughter passed away 12 hours after birth due to idiopathic PPHN. We have no answers and sometimes I wonder if labor was hard for her, but OB and MFM mentioned labor had nothing to do with the outcome.
Both my previous birth experiences were great - quick labor and easy vaginal births. I don’t know if something’s wrong with my body, but I don’t feel any contraction pain until I’m dilated to around 7-8 cm. Both the times it felt like a mild period cramp and only the last couple hours is when I find it intense.
But since losing my daughter after what seemed like an easy labor and delivery, the thought of going through it again scares me.
What helped you decide and please share your experience 🙏🏻
Thanks in advance!
Backstory, I lost my daughter mere hours prior to natural labor beginning at 40+2 last year in May.
Currently 33+3, no complaints/issues aside from baby not fully completing the "breathing" portion on last 3 BPP's. (Last 3 NST have been normal)
MFM & Midwives have discussed to allow induction as early as 37 weeks, simply for my mental health.
I'm hoping to hear about other women who have elected to have early inductions at 37 weeks and what (if any) complications they may have experienced? I have an appt next week to cover this with my midwives, however I'd really appreciate to hear from other moms as well. Trying to weigh the risks associated and make an educated decision.
Federico • 05/05/2026 • 12:05 pm
Little dot was born yesterday at 37 weeks and perfectly healthy. If all continues to go well, we can be discharged tomorrow morning.
We had a planned c-section and while it wasn’t my birth plan, I feel positive about it knowing it brought our little boy into this world safe and sound which is really all that matters.
It still feel surreal knowing we can go home with a baby, not come home to this emptiness, sadness and so many well-intentioned but depressing “I’m sorry for your loss” cards perfectly placed in what was meant to be his nursery again.
Not leave the hospital with an autopsy report, 100 unanswered messages that will remain unanswered for days and funeral arrangements hovering over our heads.
I feel so much love but also his birth made me so upset over what happened to our first son Milo. How the hospital could have saved him but didn’t and how we were ignored by midwives despite presenting with every symptom pointing to a serious infection. How we never got an apology.
This pregnancy showed me that not everyone is like this and the care I got from the consultants was outstanding. Without them, our little boy would not be here now I’m sure of it.
My c-section overall was ok. I did have to be put under GA at the end due to quite heavy bleeding and issues with my breathing (which was very scary) but I got to witness his birth and knew he was ok, with my husband and safe. I felt at peace knowing that when they put me to sleep.
My husband watched the whole procedure, I don’t know how he didn’t collapse, but he wanted to see them lift him out fully. Not just from behind the curtains. He started sobbing uncontrollably when we heard his first cry and even the surgeon and midwife shed a tear or two.
Federico will be brought home to a loving older sister and with his big brother watching him from above. Milo would have been 2 1/2. We still feel the void whenever we see boys his age play, run, laugh but we feel more at peace now knowing that he’d be proud of us, knowing that while we will forever honour his memory and that he’ll never be forgotten, that we now are starting this new chapter as a family filled with joy.
Thank you all for the chats, advice and prayers. I’ll continue reading here and keeping you all in my thoughts also ❤️
I’m currently 7 weeks and 4 days pregnant after losing our daughter at 22 weeks, and this pregnancy has already been emotionally difficult for both my fiancé and me. We are hopeful and praying that we’ll get to bring our baby home this time, but I’ve been struggling with a situation involving his family.
His mother, in particular, has been incredibly hurtful both before and after our loss. Before I was ever pregnant, she told him that if he “ever got me pregnant” I would just “put him on child support,” despite barely even knowing me. After we lost our daughter, instead of offering condolences, her response to him was, “At least you can get married now.” There was no compassion, no acknowledgment of our grief, nothing.
His grandmother is slightly more caring and has prayed for us, but even then, the support feels surface level. Recently, my fiancé showed his mom the memorial tattoos we got for our daughter, and her only response was to say tattoos are a sin and that his body “isn’t his.”
Because of these repeated comments and the lack of empathy shown during one of the hardest experiences of our lives, I’ve told my fiancé that I don’t want our child around his mother or that side of the family. He understands and agrees with my feelings, but I still find myself wondering if I’m being too harsh or simply trying to protect my peace and my child.
I'm just wondering if anyone had a MIL (or other close family member) who responded to your stillbirth in a inappropriate way and what helped you get through the resentment you feel? I have been in therapy, and I'm trying to work past it; but, I don't feel like I've made much progress. I can barely look her in the eye I still feel so violated and angry about it; it makes it very difficult for me to trust her with my living child. I would love to get to a place where I'm less bothered, especially since she's our only close support as we're getting close to our due date. My mom is planning to come out the week before I'm due, but if baby is early or if something happens with my mom's health, it will very likely be my MIL is our only option for someone to watch my toddler.
For context, my MIL had previously crossed some boundaries with our toddler that in the in the grand scheme of things are not a massive deal (screen time, posting pics on social media which she took down). I had mostly let that stuff go. After the 27w stillbirth, she asked my husband if we were doing a funeral or memorial. He told her that so far we were just planning to do something for the two of us. MIL reached out to my mom and asked how she could be more supportive, and my mom told her very directly that I needed space to process. Instead, about two months after the loss, MIL had a gathering at her house with inlaws (some of whom I can count on one hand the number of times I've met in the last decade), and surprised us all with a memorial/ceremony for our loss. She gave a speech and did a candle lighting. Tbh all I really heard was the start of her speech which was about how much she loves and misses our son. After that, I shut down and basically had tinnitus, so I didn't absorb more of her speech.
I sat her down a month or so later and told her how violating it was and how her repeatedly breaking boundaries-especially this one which was so massive-has demolished the trust I had in her. She was apologetic, but she also did a fair amount of denying past boundary violations and blaming her "narcissistic" mother for not being more supportive of her. Realistically, I know that what she's done doesn't mean my daughter wouldn't be safe with her. But it has been really challenging looking past the fact that she either felt her grief was more important than ours, or worse, her putting on a display of support was more important. It makes me worry there isnt any rule or boundary she's willing to ignore.
TLDR: MIL violated boundaries. Looking for advice or even just commiseration.
Mommies first scan namin today for my 🌈 baby.
Baby is 6W 1D based on the ultrasound but if I based it on my LMP it should be 7W5D. Is that okay? From Dec. 17, my due date moved to Dec. 28.
Heart rate is 137. This is the one that really got me teary eyed 🥰
Doctor found some blood. It’s called Subchrionic Hemorrhage. It’s around 0.30ml. Should I be alarmed? I’ll meet with my OB in 2 days. Maybe this is why I’ve been having cramps.
Anyone have this? I hope it just resolves on its own.
Daily chat to discuss anything related to pregnancy after loss.
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Daily chat to discuss anything related to pregnancy after loss.
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So I have had a major issue since my full term stillbirth in Oct '24- I have hated my stomach. I never lost my pregnancy weight. I despised looking in the mirror, as it just reminded me of my failed body and my angel daughter. I couldn't rest my hands on my stomach, as it would bring a wave of grief and sadness over me. Now that I am currently 16 weeks, I can finally rest my hands on my stomach and not feel as sad. It's the small wins.
Weekly chat for anyone who has had their baby after stillbirth or neonatal loss. Members who are still pregnant are also welcome to comment.
Daily chat to discuss anything related to pregnancy after loss.
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I lost my baby boy shortly after labor last June. It was the biggest and most devastating loss of my life. Looking back at the woman I was then, I am amazed how she made it out alive.
But somehow, she did.
I am now 18w pregnant with my rainbow baby girl. I have found so much joy in this pregnancy. I have thanked our baby boy for sending his sibling and always seem to find a silver lining. (Is that expression even appropriate here?)
But today, oh today is rough. My doula/friend will finally drop off our first-born’s belongings. The clothes, the nursery furniture, the diapers, the gear… everything I had ready for him that was left untouched. Our doula was amazing enough to pack everything up and store it away… so that when I returned from the hospital with empty arms, I wouldn’t have to deal with an empty, abandoned nursery too.
I have so many emotions. I feel like drowning in grief again, but then feel guilty. Guilty for not being more grateful for this rainbow. Guilty for thinking that I will lose this baby too. I sobbed in my husband’s arms… he held me as I repeatedly said “I am scared. I am so scared”.
Just when you think you have swam past the chaotic swell, another set, that seemed so far in the distance, comes crashing down on you. Forced to swim with all our might to simply stay afloat.
Thanks for reading💕
Hello! Wanted to let people know that I made a new subreddit for postpartum/parenting after stillbirth and neonatal loss, as some users wanted a daily chat, but I didn't want it to bog down or confuse things in this subreddit. I hope to see the postpartum members there who'd like to join, and all of you eventually :)
r/parentingaftersb
I will keep the weekly postpartum posts for now, but may remove them if most people are switching over to the other subreddit. If you have any feedback or questions, let me know!
Hello community. I lost trust in medical staff, even though im in the field myself after loosing my son at fullterm. Why is my progesterone keep dropping down? . I just got pregnancy confirmed yesterday but this downtrend is scaring me. I reached to my new ob. She was delivering yesterday and was told she would get back when she had chance and still nothing yet. So im here to ask you guys. What do I do?! Has this happened to anyone else?
Im so thrilled and thankful to universe that we’re expecting again. However, I realized this journey is not going to be an easy one. I already panic attacked myself. How do you move forward and trust the process and trust healthcare staff? Fullterm stillborn son due to cord compression
How often did you receive reassurance ultrasounds in the early weeks of pregnancy after loss? I have been going every two weeks and it still feels like a long wait in between. Currently 11 weeks after 38 week stillbirth in 2025.