u/Glass-Jackfruit-3526

Hi all! For those of you who had an easy vaginal delivery with their loss, for your subsequent pregnancy did you opt for a vaginal delivery again or a planned c section?

I’m currently 26 weeks after a full term loss. My daughter passed away 12 hours after birth due to idiopathic PPHN. We have no answers and sometimes I wonder if labor was hard for her, but OB and MFM mentioned labor had nothing to do with the outcome.

Both my previous birth experiences were great - quick labor and easy vaginal births. I don’t know if something’s wrong with my body, but I don’t feel any contraction pain until I’m dilated to around 7-8 cm. Both the times it felt like a mild period cramp and only the last couple hours is when I find it intense.

But since losing my daughter after what seemed like an easy labor and delivery, the thought of going through it again scares me.

What helped you decide and please share your experience 🙏🏻

Thanks in advance!

Tw: infant loss

My husband (35M) and I (34F) are expecting a baby due in August. We have only revealed this to our parents and requested not to share with anyone else.

We lost our full term daughter to unexpected complications shortly after birth last year and the trauma and grief has taken a toll. I just want to keep things private until I’m comfortable sharing this with my siblings and rest of the extended family. I told my mom that I might not want to reveal until we actually have a healthy/alive baby home.

She thinks I’m being unreasonable and it’s not possible to keep this from people. For context, my husband and I live in USA while most of our family (including my parents and in-laws) is outside the country. My siblings live here but are out of state. She wanted to tell my siblings, grandparents, and I told her it would hurt my feelings if she did.

This happened last month and she brought it up again. AITAH for not sharing this information with my siblings who I’m close to. I’m just not ready mentally.