u/More-Reputation-990

(18m) and I recently posted on here yesterday about my professor who tried to say using “they/them” pronouns are not realistic and that I should “stay as I am”. Since that day I haven’t returned back to his class and missed it deliberately. I was in shock when he said that I shouldn’t transition into a girl and that im “handsome” the way I am. He was completely transphobic and was off topic seemingly knowing I was just asking him about the assignments he gave, and not a lecture about how I should identify. I told my parents about it and they were very upset, they told me to report him and not go back to his class. I reported it to the dean and counselors, at first they thought it was serious but when i mentioned that he said I was a “very handsome young man” they were very concerned about that. He purposely called me a “man”, when he saw that my pronouns are “they/them”. Also, the counselor told me I wasn’t the only one he tried to be inappropriate with. He was allegedly investigated and put on administrative leave, when a girl reported him for harassment. They told me he’ll be investigated again and cannot teach until then. I’m glad I reported his disgusting, predatory and transphobia comments. And thank god I wasn’t alone with him in the class for too long, I wouldn’t know what he’d even do to me.

(18m) and I’m an engineering student. I’m the smartest in my class and I love being a feminine nerd. My professor always talks to me and says how I’m very smart and well educated. It was a couple weeks later I wanted to change my pronouns because I just hated being called “he/him”. I don’t know I’m not one of those annoying people who get so angry when someone calls me a him but I never felt like I was a boy. I was always a girl in a boys body. Anyways i usually ask him questions about the assignments and he was like “I saw you changed ur pronouns to they/them”. I was kinda confused and I said yes and then says “ your very smart, young and handsome young man don’t let yourself go by this”. I was kinda confused on what he was trying to say. But I told him I’m not a “man”. He started looking at me with confusion. This kinda made me feel awkward inside. And then says if I wanna be a girl and that it’s very dangerous for me. I was so annoyed and weirded out by what he was saying. I changed the subject to the assignment and just as I was about to leave he said “I beg you don’t try and change your perfect the way you are”. I didn’t come to class the following week and got the ick from him. I don’t know if he was trying to be nice or be rude. Idk if I should report him to the board or if I should just leave it alone.

(19m) I grew up knowing I was always gay. At the age of 8 I started liking boys. My parents were very religious and they’d take me to church everyday and even take me to Bible studies. They’d always say that being gay is a sin and a disrespect to Jesus. I never really understood any of it because why would God hate me because I like a boy just like a girl can like a boy and vice versa. Why is it only a problem if it’s two boys ? I noticed more about how crazy all this sounding to me. How people who follow a book that’s not even proven or have any evidence is real and that we’ll go to “heaven”. I started to realize it was a cult in my sophomore year of high school. I tried to help my parents break free but they sadly were too deep in to come out of it. I told them that I’m gay and I don’t believe in a fictional book with no evidence and that hates my own existence. They of course thought I was possessed but I’m glad I woke up and realized this was a coping mechanism for them so that they don’t feel scared of death.

(19m) and I’m so afraid of being so feminine. All my life I was extremely feminine but I had to hide it to survive in my religious household. I basically had to suppress all my feminine traits to fit in with my family and society. Now that I got away from my family I’m still very scared to look feminine. I have a pretty feminine facial structure but also a boy face if that makes sense. It scares me because I don’t want to get harassed or hate crimed especially with everything going on in the world. I cry so much and I’ve hated my life for so long. I know I will never be accepted by anyone or anything at all. I’ve never dated or even thought of a guy ever wanting to be with me at all. I have very bad thoughts about myself because I feel like I don’t belong here. Even the welcoming states there will always be people who hate u for being urself. It’s so exhausting and scary to me especially since I have so much trauma from my childhood in me. I don’t know what to do it’s gotten so bad I barely eat anything.

(19m) all my life I was never accepted by my parents and treated badly because of the way I acted. They were also ashamed of me and would tell me that God doesn’t love boys that act like girls. All of the religions never accepted me as who I truly am. I started studying Buddhism and about everything about me and my mind. I started to love it a lot and understand it really well. I also am grateful that they don’t judge about your sexuality or any of that sort. None of the religions accept me for who I am except Buddhism. I wanted to go to a temple but I don’t know where to start or how I should go.