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Does anyone have any advice on meeting guys? I'm 28M and still not out to my friends, I'm ready to start meeting guys but Would like to remain private and come out on my own terms, personally don't see the need to announce l'm gay out of nowhere.If its asked in conversation if lI'm seeing anyone when lI'm dating someone then yeah l'd mention it!

I'm aware not "coming out" can be hurtful towards anyone I'm seeing and definitely don't want to keep anyone a secret, that's not fair on him. But l'd like to meet someone and get to know him before sharing my dating life with my friends,

Looking for advice or examples on how to meet someone through my situation. Was it Tinder, local events or just meeting randomly?

I am 48 years old. I spent most of my life trying to just be a straight man. In 2022, I was diagnosed autistic and unmasking led me to explore my sexuality. I now identify as gender-fluid and a gay man. The thing is that I never fit into the world of straight men and now realizing that I am attracted to men in a way I never felt before, but I have no sense of community. I’m not sure where to begin.

Any advice is appreciated and I be happy to answer questions about me

I'm 43 and realized I was gay not too long after my divorce just over 5 years ago. I have experimented and confirmed I'm definitely not interested in women anymore (if I ever really was in the first place). I have two kids - one adult and one teenager.

For a few years, I was content to just have this be my secret. But lately, I feel like I'm dying inside. I cannot be myself with anyone. I am certain I need to come out in the near future.

But...how? I am scared to death. I don't even know why, except that my dad is pretty anti-gay (but liberal, somehow). I'm sure everyone else has suspected it from time to time, so I'm not sure it will be \*that\* surprising to most people in my life, but I think I'm maybe most afraid of all the questions. How did you not know earlier? Etc. I just don't feel like facing those.

Where do I even start? If you've been through it with a similar life situation, was it planned out, or did it start kind of randomly or organically? Is it better to start with someone more "safe" who I know will be supportive and who will maintain confidentiality while I figure out the rest, or rip off the bandaid and let everyone know in rapid succession?

I'm just so scared. But also intensely hopeful.

I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for several years (I'm in my 50s). I had bi-curious urges and explored them *before* I met my girlfriend. I have not cheated on her and I do not want anyone but her. I've only recently accepted myself I was bi-sexual and I told her. It's not going well and she is very upset with me, angry at me and says I lied to her, deceived her, etc. I totally understand this - and yet I only accepted it myself. I feel like complete crap and like I'm an awful person for not telling her when we first met. But, I didn't accept it at all and just hoped I would forget about it. Yet, it's bubbling up and finally accepted it myself. There isn't a reason for sharing with her other than I wanted to be honest. And yes, I wasn't honest with myself for the last several years.. i get that.

Anyone else have this experience where it didn't go well? I hate that this is causing her pain and I'm not sure what to do.

If you were still in the closet, or not out to many people, how did you meet your partner and begin seeing them if people didn't know you were gay