r/genderqueer

Hey everyone,

I’ve identified as demigirl for a few years now after knowing something hasn’t felt entirely right for basically my whole conscious life. It still feels like a fitting label for me - most of the time. Sometimes I feel less like I wanna use the word ‘demigirl’, especially in certain contexts. It’s not that I’m embarrassed/ashamed to say that I am demigirl, a lot of the time I just can’t be bothered to explain to people what it means. Plus, sometimes I don’t like using the label since the word ‘girl’ is still in it.

So my question is: can I swap between labels? Can I say I’m genderqueer and also say I’m demigirl?

I hope this makes sense lol, thanks in advance!

Hi. I am 18/19 years old. I was born a girl and ever since my freshman year I have wanted to be more of a boy. I would always watch LGBTQ shows mainly with 2 boys together. This would be in my mind 24/7 and I was always wishing that I was a boy. Eventually this thought went away and I haven’t thought about it since.
Now that I am 18 I have met the LOML and we live together and do everything together. He is transgender FTM. Ever since a couple of months ago my thoughts came back about wanting to be a boy. I admire my bf a lot and I think a lot about wanting to be more like him. Ex. Wanting to look more like him, wanting to see if I could become like him, wanting to see how I would look and feel. When we are in bed I love to be called “good boy” and handsome, and etc. but I still want to be his girl but want to be more of a boy? Is it too late to transition? Is it all just in my head?

Hi. I'm 22, born female and for over 4 years now I've been struggling a lot... I live with my fiance (21 f) and everything is fantastic except... sex. It's not like I'm not enjoying it cause i really do, it's just that i don't like the way I'm receiving pleasure from that. To be straight - I can't stand having a puss during our intimate activities.

Overall i don't like being feminine, I don't feel like a full woman and i hate being called one, but it doesn't bother me being one in my daily life.

Only when it comes to sex i can't stand it. I wouldn't call myself trans cause i don't feel like a man nor a woman at all.

I developed huge body dysmorphia just beacuse i simply don't have a penis. I like who I am but I forbid myself taking pleasure from intimacy with my love, cause everytime she is trying (and even tho i physically enjoy it) I stop her, start crying and ruin all the mood.

I just wish i was different and could take pleasure like men do.

I'm weird. I don't like it. Am i going crazy? What's wrong with me?

Sorry if it's chaotic, I'm not fluid in English.

Hi there.

I’ve been considering wearing a binder for some time now (if I can figure out how to ask my parents) and wanted to know if there was any rules (ex: how many times a week, how many hours a day) that I should know. Is it even ok to wear a binder at a 12-16 age range or can it harm the development of your breasts?
Also I would greatly appreciate it if someone had any recommendations for good places to buy binders that ship to Europe, and/or places to avoid.

Thank you so much. :D

Does anyone feel like there gender is "not entirely cis" and "not entirely trans".

And that's honestly the only way I can describe it.

Despite that My identity doesn't change.

I am old and it's been 15 years of this on and off since I came out as gay my 20s.

It often gets more confusing in relationships.

Even all the feminism in the world does seem to make me stay in the "cis" category for very long.

No amount of logical "these are all the logical non-trans explanations for how you feel"

And yet- I look over and all my trans friends and I'm like yes that is not me either.

Perhaps this is just what it like is to be gender non-conforming.

But equally I don't feel like my presentation is a sort of "I'm doing this for fun " ,sure I like it but it's more, I will die in a hole if you try to feminise me type situation.

And I've ended up in therapy fall all kinds of -insert masculine womens long list of body and social issues-

I feel pretty confused given non-binary being conflated with GNC.

And then thing oh well maybe I'm falling into that trap.

But then will spend many sessions of LGBT therapy talking about the times I've crashed out of sex because I want to top and my anatomy doesn't function like that.

... But don't want to be a man or be seen as male, though for a period I had alot of gender envy towards fit male bodies. ... and do not like my PCOS induced facial hair but love my leg hair and felt so sad about shaving it in the summer this year I decided to bleach it.

#BUTCHPROBLEMS.

Hi! I've been questioning my gender for a few months and feel kinda stuck, so I thought I'd ask for external advice/opinion/insights here :) I'll try to keep this short...try being the key word here.

Anyway, so I'm afab, and a few years ago when I learned about the concept of non binary genders I immediately felt interested in it, like i could see myself in that. I questioned my gender for a couple of weeks, finally landed on the term demigirl as what fit the most, and then discarded it thinking that I was just making shit up to feel special.

Fast forward to present, i'm questioning again. The thing is, I don't really have dysphoria, I've had body dysmorphia from a very young age, but nowadays I do like having a female body. So, no gender dysphoria (when im questioning there are days when I do want to hide my chest, but I think I'm probably just making that up). But, I have been experimenting and I feel like I identify with a female identity as much as with a non-binary one. She/her pronouns feel right, but so do they/them, and I love when people use them for me. I don't want to be a man, but I LOVE crossdressing and painting a beard and moustache on, I love when I play being a man/ boy. I've started wearing men's boxers and don't wanna wear panties anymore lol.

I've always had issues with my femininity, always wanted to be "not like the other girls", but I think in my case that was internalised misoginy, and I felt very unconfortable with my female features being perceived by others as a teen, but again, I think that happens to many girl teens cause we don't want to be sexualized (i'm acespec too, so there's that).

Sooooo I think I'm coming to the conclusion that maybe I'm just a genderqueer woman (as in, yeah I guess I identify as a woman -though im not so sure-, but I have a queer relationship with gender as well?). But I would like to have some outside insights as well.

Yeah so, keeping it shorts didn't work. Kudos if you reached the end, I guess haha. And many thanks in advance!

Hey yall,

I am a 42 year old gender queer person who was assigned female at birth. Ive never taken hormones and got top surgery.

Wondering if anyone has navigated taking estrogen or low dose of T to deal with symptoms of peri menopause. I unfortunately have learned my new work insurance won't cover "gender identity support care" which largely is political language to say no trans Healthcare.

My original plan was the moment I felt symptoms to use a micro dose of t to balance my hormones.

My biggest concern on taking estrogen would be any changes in my body that'd trigger dysphoria. I have no dysphoria taking the meds if they'll help. I just really want to avoid any feminization of my body or face. Ive been lucky to have a "butch body" and attributes.

Has anyone taken hormones for peri? Or can point me somewhere?

Thanks!